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Today is my OTD and I admit I wasnt expecting a positve test today because of the spotting and light bleeding I had on Tuesday and Wednesday but still held onto a little bit of hope that it was just normal around this time but no, BFN. It’s only my first round of ICSI so I’m hoping I get some answers as to why it didn’t work, I just don’t feel ready to go through all that again as we didn’t have any to freeze. Ugh it’s just utter crap and I really feel like lashing out at something or getting mind numbingly drunk... wouldn’t take much right now let’s face it.

Sorry you’re reading my rant but you’re the only ones who get it, and any advise for getting mentally ready for round two would be welcome.

Aggghhh this is hard man, soo hard! 😔

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amandac84

I’m so sorry. There’s no words to make it any better really. Do whatever it is to make yourself feel better sometimes it’s the only way to get through xx

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3005 in reply to amandac84

Thank you x

Im so sorry. Sending virtual hugs xxx

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Thank you x

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Be kind to yourself xx

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aamiller405

I'm so sorry, take care of yourself and take time to heal from this before taking your next step xo

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3005 in reply to aamiller405

Thank you x

Not sure how long you have to take between treatment but speaking to the hubby this morning we agree a break would probably do us good.

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Jenjen84

I’m sorry for your BFN.. They are rubbish.. Just take good care of yourself and do some things that make you happy as it can become all to consuming.. Sending love xxx

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3005 in reply to Jenjen84

Thank you x

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Doglover7866

So sorry for your news. Take some time and have some quality time with hubby. We rushed into round two and wished we had waited. It’s not so much the physical stain, it’s the mental stain that takes the time to mend xx

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3005 in reply to Doglover7866

It’s really is! Thank you x

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Glasgow1981

I’m so sorry to hear this x

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3005 in reply to Glasgow1981

Agh it’s crap ☹️

How are you getting on?

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Glasgow1981 in reply to 3005

I’m fine thanks, genuinely gutted for you though x

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Debrakay1704

It is so hard to pick yourself up, you have to do whatever makes you feel better, drinking will probably make you feel sad though, big hugs. xxx

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3005 in reply to Debrakay1704

Ha you’re right, I don’t want that!

Thank you x

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xxxx

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Kempton

Sorry to read that. I'd strongly recommend seeing a counsellor to help deal with all the emotions you're gonna go through. Your clinic should be able to help with that. Take your time making any decisions about next steps. All the best to you.

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3005 in reply to Kempton

Thank you I’m going to call them today x

Very much up and down this morning, just need to get my head round it.

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SunnyDream

We are here to help each other go through emotional craps. We communicate here to fill our mental gaps, distract from dull thoughts, worries, and anxieties. I had bfn twice and was in a great depression. My DH, my friends, my hobbies, my job helped me to go through this and gave strength to go ahead and to my dream. Fight for yourself and your family. We are women and God made us unbelievably strong!

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3005 in reply to SunnyDream

thank you x

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emmab178

Sorry for your bfn. Our clinic said only 1 in 7 have any frosties so don't be disheartened with that.

I would personally like to have £100 for every stupid thing someone says when you've had a failed cycle. I could fund many cycles with these fines!

Personally looking forward to a holiday in the sun with a pint or two x

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3005 in reply to emmab178

Ugh tell me about it, told my sister and her reply was... Ah well never mind, don't you have another round you can use

Yep cause that's what I'm happy about, starting all over again!

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emmab178 in reply to 3005

I had "you could adopt. My sister adopted and he even looks like us. You could get one that looks like you" wtaf

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3005 in reply to emmab178

😳 blimey!

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kirstyblue

Oh I’m so sorry to hear this. Hope you find the strength to continue your journey.

Pour yourself a large glass of wine, have some chocolate and take care of yourself.

Wishing you the best of luck for the future xx

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3005 in reply to kirstyblue

🙂 thanks, I will xxx

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Core

So sorry to read this BFNs are awful I haven’t got any great advice except for give yourself time and treat yourself guilt free xx

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Hope76

So sorry, after having 2 x BFNs I feel ure pain. There is nothing worse. Please take time to recover and do not give up hope 😘

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Scarlett13

So sorry to read you got a BFN 😢😢😢😢 have a massive effin drink, cry and be angry, punch some cushions, then dust yourself off and try again....you’ll get there xxxxx

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3005 in reply to Scarlett13

That’s pretty much the plan ha ha

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CJones40

I’m so sorry that you’ve had a BFN! 😔 give yourself some time and I wish you all the best wherever your journey takes you next!! Xx

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everhopeful83

So sorry for your BFN, sending you hugs💜xx

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