Ivf after csection/stillborn

[JessJ25]

I have just been through my third go of IVF we concieved a baby girlafter our third go, 2 weeks ago i hadnt felt her move for a day i was 35 weeks, they couldnt find her heartbeat and we lost her. I had to deliver VIA csection this was always on the cards as i had a partical low lying placenta. I know its too soon now as we only had our babys funeral 2 days ago but right now even though another baby would never replace Jorgie the only light at the end of the tunnel would be for me to focus on getting pregnant again. I am just wondering if there is anybody out there who has been through similar maybe not even had a stillborn but a csection and knows how long i have to wait until i can have a frozen embryo transfer. Thank you

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I am so so sorry for your loss and all you have been through. I don't have any advice but wanted to wish you all the best and send you massive hugs and condolences. I cannot imagine at all. Xxx

[sandra81]

I am so very sorry about your loss. My heart really goes out to you. i had a myomectomy (which is in many ways similar to a c section) and i was told i needed to wait 5 to 6 months before trying for a baby to let the operation heal. I was operated on 8 February and had egg transfer on 11 November and i was able to carry twins who came prematurely because of complications and also erratic heart beats etc.

[Lporges]

So sorry to hear about your loss. Lost my baby at birth. 41 weeks. No signs of distress. She had infection that happened within hours. I wanted to wait 3 months, my dr said 6...compromised at 5. I know how hard it is to wait but it’s also important to find a good therapist and take time to grieve. Your body has gone through a lot and you want to let it heal so it is in a better state to receive your embryo.

[Hope85]

So so sorry for your loss! We lost our twin boys at 17 weeks & I had to wait 6 months before they would let me have my frozen cycle as it would reduced the risk of pre-term labour apparently. I remember being the same all I wanted was to be pregnant again. But please give yourself time to grieve. I hope you are getting all the support you need. Big hugs 😘

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Am so sorry for your loss. There was a lady on here that had a late loss around the same gestation. I don’t think she went again strait away but she ave it about 3 months and went in to have a girl.

Please give yourself time to grieve that’s a huge loss and strain, the mind and heart never work together.

Big hugs

[Debrakay1704]

I find it hard to know what to say but I too am so sorry for you loss and what you have been through, I can only suggest that you do what is right for you. xxxxx

[Sunset81]

So so sorry for your loss xxx

[Scarlett13]

I’m not sure how long you need to wait but I’m proud of you for being able to find the strength, courage and positivity to try again and keep going. I’m deeply sorry for your loss - it’s beyond words. Big hug to you guys xxxxxx

[Bumpwanted]

Hi hun firstly I am so sorry for your loss, we lost our little boy at 36 weeks and it’s just horrendous! I felt exactly the same as you! I needed hope desperately! We had had 2 failed ivf transfers before Harrison and he was conceived naturally! To loose him at 36 weeks felt so unbelievably cruel! We waited 3 months (3 periods) and then went for a natural FET, we had one left and this is now a little 2 year old precious girl called leora (means light!) you are more fertile after giving birth so we wanted to maximise our chances and I needed that hope/light more than anything! I won’t lie it wasn’t easy! I was so anxious but it was so worth it!! Just have plenty of support around you and esp from the hospital x all the luck in the world! Do whatever you have to to get through it hun xx everyone us different but go with your heart x

[AJJ123]

Sorry to hear about this, I cannot imagine what you have gone through.

I had a c section and the advice was don’t get pregnant for at least 12 weeks to heal. My pregnancy was natural though.

I don’t know how you feel about perhaps giving yourself a little more time to grieve before going through this again. If it doesn’t work, will you be ok?

Good luck with whatever choice you make xx