Today was our OTD and as I expected it was BFN 😭 I’ve been bleeding since Tuesday and I knew it hadn’t worked as I bled early on in our first cycle, doesn’t stop you clinging on to that last straw of hope that this might have still worked.
We still have a frozen embryo for transfer before we have used up our NHS fertility treatment, can’t bring myself to think about another transfer, feel like I did everything I possibly could this time around and it hasn’t helped much and I just don’t know what to do next. We’ve asked to see the consultant for a review appointment before we go ahead with a frozen transfer, but for now we’re sticking with trying the good old fashioned way and hoping for the best, booking a holiday to Mexico for later this year before we pursue any more fertility treatment and just getting our life back on track, you don’t realise how much IVF and infertility takes over, even when you’re trying not to be all consumed by it.
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So very sorry to hear this. Definitely not your fault. Perhaps additional medication might be helpful ie prednisone, low dose aspirin? Apologises if you tried that. Enjoy your holiday & regroup when it’s less raw. Right now you don’t have to make any hard or fast decisions. ❤️xoxo
Thanks Hidden im going to ask at our review appointment, I've read that baby aspirin could help. I want to do an ERA before our frozen transfer to find out my implantation window but also going to look into alternative therapies and still continue with improving my fitness and weight loss xx
I was just thinking the exact same thing. It really does take over your life, even though you can mainly carry on with your daily routines, it's in your mind pretty much all of the time. I'm so sorry to hear your news and it's understandable that you are feeling the way you do about doing another transfer. I can only think that some time away from it all with a little normality will help reset your body and mind and then maybe you can make your decisions. Mexico sounds lovely and will definitely help 😊 All the best ❤️ xx
Thanks kirstyblue it doesn't feel like it right now but I will find the strength to go through this again, I know myself that realistically we may need to go through another IvF cycle that we will need to self fund. I'm hoping that we still have time on our side that I can take the time I need to build myself up emotionally to go through with the next transfer, just doesn't feel like it just now 💔 Xx
So sorry, ivf is so cruel when it doesn’t work and you’ve built up so much for it. I’m really sorry. It isn’t fair. Allow yourself time to be sad and angry. You’ll find strength to go again xxx
Thank you, I really hoped this cycle would be different but knew even before today that it hadn't worked and I'm heartbroken 💔 Wouldn't wish this on anyone and with time we will find the strength to try again xxx
So sorry to hear this & hope the review appt sheds some light on things. Good work in booking your holiday - I did the same thing after first cycle failed as needed to step back mentally from it. Xxx
So sorry Sarah, having had 2 x BFN’s myself I know the pain you are feeling right now. You question everything but no matter what you did your best! One thing I’ve learned is IVF is a lottery. Be thankful you have a frostie and you will try again when the time is right x
Thanks everyone, grateful for the support and it helps knowing that there are people who understand what we're going through right now, infertility is cruel and painful and I know that we'll come out of this stronger and will be one day posting our own birth announcement xxx
We’ve had a similar journey, so I completely understand how you feel. It takes time and energy to get your mojo back after a BFN.
Give yourself permission to grieve and do what makes you happy. I’ve been spending time with friends, having the odd G&T, booking a holiday, rewriting my CV to get a new job (which is less stressful and just down the road)... anything!
Please don’t let the clinic rush you into your FET. Think outside the box, embrace holistic therapies. I’ve been asking my clinic to investigate a painful, itchy rash I always get post transfer - they wouldn’t. So I’ve forced the issue with my own GP and it seems that I have a Histsmine intolerance which means my immune system produces too much histamine which kills the embryos. I’m now on antihistamine drugs. 🤞🏼I’m disappointed my clinic forced me to ‘waste’ my free NHS go just because they wouldn’t listen to me.
All I can say is, listen to your body, don’t think the clinic know everything and just know that the Universe has your back. Only the best and strongest are chosen for this journey. Xx
So sorry to hear dat but don't give up u might never know if your last shoot is ur luck one. I do agree with you to take sum time out to love urself and ur partner. I kno it's hard but always remember that we r here for u always. Sending you lots of pray and warm hugs.
Sorry to read your sad news. I know exactly what u mean by it consuming ur life. Take time out enjoy Mexico and come back fighting for ur remaining frostie xx
Hi! So sorry to hear that. Our first FET didn’t stick. Our dr changed our protocol, now we are doing a “natural” FET. It was either that or longer progesterone before the transfer. I really appreciate the time in between treatments, helps to get excited again and drinking without feeling like a pin cushion is nice too! Enjoy Mexico, you got this.
So sorry to hear what you're going through and it's not easy to say cold but as you said you're going on holiday way everything and also just chill out enjoy yourself and hope for the best the best thing you can do is that you need to relax I know it's easy to say them to act upon it because hun I'm on the same boat as you.
The only difference is that I have not done anything yet because somehow my doctors don't want to refer me to these department or clinics and been trying for a while nothing is happening it doesn't help when you have polycystic ovary but my doctor's just won't I just need to start somewhere and I don't know where to look for where to start but I thought the doctor's would actually try to send it to those clinics and then start from there nothing.
So I'm just stuck in the middle all I'm trying to do is to my doctor to refer me and I need to find a way of writing a complaint.
Good luck and enjoy your hoilday..
I went yesterday to give blood for BHGC test, 2nd round of IVF, but anyway I had tested on Sunday and It was negative... So I know how you feel. We don't get closer: it's just another BFN.
I will just repeat what they told me: it's nothing that you did or didn't do, it's not our fault.
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