I should have followed my own advice

Hi ladies, I've started driving myself mad on 2ww, I was doing so well up until yesterday. I had my FET on 7th Dec and it was a 5 day Blastocyst. My official test date is tomorrow and after all the advice I've given to some lovely ladies on here I succumbed to testing with a clear blue test and it was negative, I knew that getting a negative result prior to advised test day would cause me more anxiety and wish now I hadn't done it. The test was in the afternoon and I had drank lots of fluids so I'm praying it was just too early, any reassurance would be greatly received xx

[Saya85]

Hi Claire.... I'm currently awake desperate to pee but agonising on whether j should test early

I guess not lol

I'm sorry you got a bfn but if it's any reassurance clearblue are not as sensitive as the pink FRER tests so it may be your HCG isn't high enough to detect on there..... Also afternoon urine would be less concentrated and you have to have had held water for 4hours plus.

If you drink lots of fluids fast if will just make for very diluted urine

It ain't over till it's over ! Try to ignore this and wait until OTD if you can xxx

[Hidden in reply to Saya85]

Hi Saya85, don't do it lol I really wished I'd stick to my guns,time is going to stand still for the next 24hrs!!!

I'm really hoping your right and it's what I keep telling myself.

How are you feeling? Xxx

[Saya85 in reply to Hidden]

Relieved now I've been to the loo haha

If my hubby wasn't so set against me testing early this time I would have caved. But I figure if we are preggers I'd rather be in no doubt that we are so will wait.....and wait .... Until Xmas Eve OTD.

I've been getting the strangest symptoms I've ever had let alone in tww.

My ears hurt when I'm resting against the pillow for too long

My legs feel sweaty!! And feet really hot and prickly

Strange little twinges all over the place and my ovaries have been slightly sore ever since ET like.im.about to get AF. But thankfully no spotting at all yet. I really hope these are good signs but don't really know what to think

Really hope it's good news for you xxx

[Hidden in reply to Saya85]

I haven't told my oh that I've tested in fact I haven't told anyone other than you ladies.

Its funny how in tune we are isn't it with our bodies and notice everything that is going on! I will have everything crossed for you for Christmas Eve xxx

[Niki_B]

Would that make you 13dpt? You should really see something on a test by now but as you said it's not your morning wee and it was really diluted. I truly hope this changes tomorrow make sure it's your first morning wee. good luck hun xxx

[Hidden in reply to Niki_B]

Thanks Niki, I'm hoping it's because it was diluted but I do plan to test first thing tomorrow morning, not sure if my heart can take a BFN xx

[Niki_B in reply to Hidden]

I know hun they are horrible I've had 2 this year. Actually dreading my FET next month as I dont really think I can handle another BFN. But i know we somehow get through it and try again dont we. I really hope it changes for you 🙏🙏🤞🤞 xxx

[Hidden in reply to Niki_B]

So sorry you've had to go through 2 BFN's, it definitely gets harder every time and I really hope it's your time.

I think I'm struggling more because 2 of my sis in laws are currently pregnant with their third babies and I'm find it difficult to be around them,they announced their pregnancies when I was going through my MMC end of Aug so it's hard xxx

[Niki_B in reply to Hidden]

Aww hun that really sucks. It's so hard because we want to be happy for them, and we are except it just deep down kills us that it's not us. And everything we go through trying to get there and other women just seem to pop them out like gumball machines. I'm so sorry about your MMC that's awful 😞xx and thank you I hope so too I have 2 shots left 2 day 6 embies so stats aren't great but that's it for us after that 😞

[Hidden in reply to Niki_B]

It is hard because I adore all my nieces and nephews,I am from an extremely fertile family and always surrounded by babies and bumps so have just had to stay away for the time being.

Anyway let's try and be positive and wishing all the very best for next month xxx

[Niki_B in reply to Hidden]

Of course you love them. And yes do what you need to to look after yourself. It must be so hard surrounded by so many fertile women!

Thanks so much. And I pray your result changes tomorrow 🙏🙏🤞🤞💕💕

[Tugsgirl]

You caved. We’ve all been there. You must feel like it’s unlikely to change by tomorrow but still be holding on to a bit of hope. I know there is a lady on here who tested a day early and got bfn but got bfp the next morning. I just can’t remember her username.. Good luck for the morning xx

[Hidden in reply to Tugsgirl]

Thankyou, that's made me feel better that someone got a positive the following day, I would have been 12dpt yesterday, I have been having similar symptoms to last time I got a BFP but that could just be the meds. How are you feeling? Xx

[Tugsgirl in reply to Hidden]

I’m struggling with anxiety a bit but speaking to some of the ladies on here has helped xx

[Hidden in reply to Tugsgirl]

I think it's natural that you are going to feel anxious, you have been through so much. When have you got your scan? Xx

[Tugsgirl in reply to Hidden]

Another two weeks to go 🥴 January 3rd. Time is standing still xx

[Hidden in reply to Tugsgirl]

I bet it is standing still, I know it's easy for me to say but try and enjoy and I shall look out for your update on the 3rd xx

[Masha111 in reply to Tugsgirl]

It was me lol. (Im one of them) i have posted below x hope you are ok xx

[Hidden]

Oh Claire, it can definitely change, especially as you have said it wasn't fmu. Really really wishing for a bfp for you xx

[Hidden in reply to Hidden]

I was doing so well, feeling really calm and then yesterday don't know what came over me!! I just need to keep telling myself it can change!

Hope your ok lovely xx

[Hidden in reply to Hidden]

It really can change. You know not to test in the pm! But we never listen to our own advice. Just be assured that tomorrow will be better. It is so so hard as each time is more devastating when we face bfns. It makes the testing so difficult to actually do. Maybe your brain decided to prepare you for test day by making you test in the afternoon. That way, when you get to otd and test in the morning, with first morning wee, you won't be as anxious? Anyway lovely you will get a different response tomorrow on your otd.

Big hugs xxx

[Hidden in reply to Hidden]

Do you know what I think you could have a point there I think I had been trying to prepare myself for the worst!! I do feel quite similar to last time, waking up really early to go to the loo and feel really tired. The clinic said it was the best quality and my uterus was as it should be,I'm also taking baby aspirin and steroids as an additional this time so I'm hoping that there's no reason it should fail xx

[Hidden in reply to Hidden]

Big big hugs and positivity being sent your way. Xxx

[Hidden in reply to Hidden]

❤ xxx

[Kari55]

I think the most accurate results are with morning urine so there is still a good chance that it will all change. To be completely sure it is better to wait for otd so I wish you all the best for tomorrow xx

[Hidden in reply to Kari55]

Thankyou Kari, I will definitely be holding fire until tomorrow morning and I am feeling a bit more positive now xx

[Kari55 in reply to Hidden]

Yes, no more testing! 😁 xx

[Cinderella5]

Hey Claire, Ive been wondering how you were doing! Ahhh dont be so hard on yourself.....testing early is something most of us succumb to at some point! As some of the others have said you still have time for things to turn around....not that I want to get your hopes up too much but I know of 2 ladies that didnt get a positive on day 12 (and that was morning wee) but tested positive on day 14....they both have little girls! Ive got my fingers crossed for you for OTD.xx

[Hidden in reply to Cinderella5]

Hi Cinderella, thankyou that is really reassuring, as you say don't want to get my hopes up too much but it goes to show how much things can change in a couple of days!! I'm steering clear of testing now until tomorrow morning just got to keep myself distracted today. I broke up from work yesterday and had planned to meet with a friend today but she cancelled on me last night so trying to drum up some energy to get out and about.

How are you doing? Xx

[Cinderella5 in reply to Hidden]

Im doing ok ta! Just leading a pretty quiet life for now, Im still at work for my sins! Ha ha ha yep defo get out of the house if you can....stops googling and over analysing everything....damn your friend for cancelling!! Hope you have a nice day out whatever you get up to!!xx

[Hidden in reply to Cinderella5]

When do you break up and do you have much time off over Christmas? Don't blame you for having a quiet time leading up to your next cycle. I think I might pop into the village for a hot chocolate and a cake xx

[Cinderella5 in reply to Hidden]

We only get Christmas day and boxing day...same following week but I have some leave the following week. I usually let my colleague have Xmas week as she has kids....hopefully be me one day! I just cant be bothered with Christmas this year....roll on 2019, gotta be a better year! Oh hot chocolate and cake sounds just the ticket, enjoy!xx

[Hidden in reply to Cinderella5]

I totally understand that hun, Christmas seems like a lot of effort having to socialise, roll on 2019, it's going to be our year xxx

[Masha111]

Hi clairenix...have some hope.

After being brave i too caved in a day early. It was in the afternoon and i used a cheap ebay strip and it was a BFN. My OH knew and we were devasted. The next morning i was at the clinic and i was ecstatic and emotional when the nurse told me it was a BFP. When hubby came home for lunch i surprised him and he was in shock but extremely happy. Im just over 15 weeks now. I really pray you get the same outcome. Im not gona lie time will stay still and you wont sleep properly but it can change. Like the others have said test on 1st urine of the day and perhaps use first response pregnancy test.

All the very best 👍🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏💕 hope your dreams are realised. Good luck to you both x please keep us posted as we will be thinking of you. Come on, you can do this x

[Hidden in reply to Masha111]

Hi Masha,thankyou for a great response, massive congratulations to you and your hubbie you must be over the moon.

Im so glad now I wrote my post as I have had reassuring responses, I have had lots of tears,don't think all the meds help to keep your emotions under control! I will keep you all posted xx