What to do??

[silverlini]

So I had my weekly acupuncture session this morning and I reminded her we are starting our IVF round on the 7th ish of Jan. she was concerned because my husband has been drinking a lot at Christmas parties, birthdays, weddings etc lately and she has basically said he needs to stop now in order to give the body a few weeks of detoxing.

Now I know that is the best and wise thing to do but I don’t know how my husband will feel not drinking around Christmas when everyone else will be. We had said to each other let’s just relax and enjoy ourselves and completely stop in Jan.

The other alternative is to start IVF in feb to give us Jan to completely detox. I’ve had it in my head for months that we were starting again in Jan so I don’t really know what to do or what’s best now, ultimately being successful and having a baby is much more important...any advice?! Thanks Ladies!xx

[Aleelilook]

Oh such a difficult one, but I think you want to feel like you’ve done everything, so I’d delay until February, have a relaxing Christmas then get back on the crazy train in January! Xxx

[silverlini in reply to Aleelilook]

Yeah I have been thinking about it today and I think you are right! Will have a good chat with the hubby..xx

[MissSaoPaulo]

It's important to be as well as possible before starting but that means mentally too and I think a few weeks relaxing and enjoying yourselves will do you the world of good emotionally, so I'd put it off just a little bit longer and enjoy the holidays xxx

[silverlini in reply to MissSaoPaulo]

Yeah I see what you are saying, it will be nice to have two weeks off together and let our hair down as it’s been a real shitty year! I’m leaning more towards postponing until Feb now xx

[MofM]

My consultant said that my OH should not drink more than 10 units per week. Everything below that will not make any difference. I did not ask for myself since I had already given up alcohol a few weeks before

[silverlini in reply to MofM]

I would say right now my husband drinks more than 10 units a week! With my husband it’s all or nothing he can’t do in between! So annoying! X

[Katty_Holz in reply to MofM]

Alcohol is best to be cut down when you're going for any assisted fertility procedure shortly after... but I guess some forms affect the sperm count more than the other. Vodka will top the list for that, followed by gin. Scotch, Whiskey, and Beer don't do much harm, of course when the limit is below the 10 unit per week just like your consultant said. I found the same on several blogs that serve the information on how to give your TTC a better chance.

[silverlini in reply to Katty_Holz]

Yeah absolutely! We cut it out completely for a whole month before we did our last cycle. We will do the same throughout Jan too until we have a positive pregnancy scan. 🤞🏼x

[Sfarre]

It takes 2 1/2 to 3 months for new sperm to mature and be released. Therefore for an ivf cycle in Jan, your OH's sample will actually be a product of what was made during October / November. This is why clinics say it takes three months for changes in diet and lifestyle to be present in sperm.

So whilst I think your acupuncturist is generally right, that the best thing is for both of you to follow a healthy lifestyle, boozing at Christmas won't be of relevance to your cycle in Jan. Good luck! Xx

[silverlini in reply to Sfarre]

Thank you for your advice ☺️xx

[Anya80]

I would’ve say that if you have generally healthy life style, you generally care to eat healthy (but without fuss, burgers and pizza allowed from time to time), if you not heavy drinkers normally (I assume you not😂) some drinks here and there would not harm yourself unless you received different advises from your doctors.

I’ve tried different approaches during my TTC journey. More restricted for weeks leading to transfer and lighter approach especially in the later times. I’m generally try to have healthy life style but it doesn’t mean that Ive stopped eating sweets cakes which I love or fast foods from time to time. I’ve learnt that what will be it will be despite we do extra efforts with preparation,to me suddenly started to be very uncomfortable to giving up everything and no guarantees that things will work. I’m big advocate of reasonableness! It’s difficult and I know about this myself but at the end of the day the doctors say to act as you should be doing before so I stick myself to it. Do what you feel is right to you! Some changes in life to be more healthy should be done for not only grant pregnancy but it’s necessary for own benefits. TTC should not be seen as a game of giving up all but maybe reasonably reduce bad habits and it’s good occasion to look after yourself 😀

Good luck xxx

[silverlini in reply to Anya80]

Thank you for your message! I completely agree with everything in moderation! Our diet isn’t terrible (although yes the odd takeaway or junk food) it’s more the alcohol! I feel our acupuncturist is probably right, a detox in Jan would be a good idea so that we give it our best shot in Feb xx

[Katty_Holz]

Sorry, it's might feel not much relevant but I'd really love to know if this pregnancy accupuncture really work for women. I never believed in all these, was suggested but I didn't go after the 2nd one. Yeah, it's amazingly relaxing and helps relieve the stress both physical and mental but then there's nothing more than that it offers. Detoxing will be a good idea if you have been drinking over the celebration season or plan to.... however, it's best to keep it to the minimum, please.