About 10 years ago I had and ectopic pregnancy and had my right tube removed few years later I had a miscarriage and now this year another ectopic in July which I had an op to remove I was told that the tube was saved but then in august became very unwell and turns out it was flushed out as he said and left tube had to be removed.
today 25th was my follow up appointment was told that I do not meet the criteria for Ivf because my partner has a child with his previous partner I couldn't believe what I was being told that
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I think the criteria they set is so unfair and absolutely ridiculous! it should be reviewed on a case by case basis and you should get at least one cycle for free.
Is there any chance that you could get the treatment at a reduced cost if you did egg share?
I’ve had both my tubes removed from having 3 ectopic pregnancies, so I was in the same boat as you in that ivf is the only option. I had my one free cycle and a few transfers which sadly didn’t work and I’m now 15 week pregnant after a 2nd cycle. We had to pay for the 2nd cycle and only had the money after my partner was left money by his grandma that passed.
I’ve never looked into it myself before and someone else on here may be able to help you out with this, but there is funding you can apply for to get ivf xX
hey thank you clover and I am very please you are 15 week pregnant sending lots of love and vibes to you :).
Ive had a little look around this website and have found it is up to each (ccg) Clinical Commissioning Groups to decide the criteria and looking at the 'fertility fairness' spreadsheet of 2017 concerning how many cycles are offered age of mother and if there are previous children 'alive'. only a few will give you the NICE standard 3 Ivf cycles and do not require you not to have children from previous relationships both parnters or otherwise. I have also found that there are template letters here to use to write to your local ccg to request funding. I have not looked any further as of yet as it is early days and have just only been told today the news so I dont know what Im feeling really.
I am so sorry to hear this. I think this ‘criteria’ is the cruellest one. My friend was affected by this criteria and had to self fund even though her husband’s daughter was in her 20s!
That's the case I'm afraid , where we live even if you fit the criteria, you only get 1 cycle. Most doctors agree if you can only afford 1 cycle, its almost not worth doing IVF, as you need at least 3 cycles to have a good chance for it to work.
All I can say if you're not married to your partner, personally I would apply as a single woman who 'knows' a sperm donor.
Unfortunately it’s really quite common. Ccgs have lots of silly criteria to get out of paying for treatment. There are even some ccgs where no-one is eligible for ivf at all, as they’ve cut all funding. The fertility fairness website is all about this. It’s wrong that we have such a postcode lottery in this country and I’m sorry you’ve fallen foul of it.
That's so unfair. We had ivf through the NHS and my husband has a daughter. It must be depending on which region you are from. There should be a standard criteria through out the country and not be a lottery. X
Sadly it’s true. The ivf “postcode lottery” isn’t just denied on the basis of where you live but sometimes because of other factors like your OH already having a child or your bmi etc etc. It’s so unbelievably unfair. Fertility Network UK are working so hard to get this changed..
Perhaps you could think about trying treatment abroad where it’s around half the price of the uk?
I’m currently in this position my partner has a child from a previous relationship, I was told I wouldn’t be eligible for nhs ivf (even though I have no contact with his child). I went to my local MP who is helping me to try and get some funding. I have had to request individual funding. If you have any questions please do ask and I’ll help any way I can best of luck x
Im so sorry to hear that.
It’s so unfair it is clearly designed to cut costs 😢
We came across that rule too ( I have a grown up son from a previous relationship & it didn’t matter my hubby wasn’t a dad😢) it’s adds a pressure where it’s not needed ☹️
So cruel some of the criteria these CCGS are allowed to impose. It’s got to be unethical surely?
Perhaps try to appeal against the decision, look into ivf aboard as it’s considerably cheaper than UK ( don’t know why we are much more expensive 🤦🏽♀️) some clinics also offer packages & refunds if treatment is not successful.
Really hope you can find a way around this hurdle & achieve your dream baby xoxo ❤️❤️❤️
It's completely unfair. You go through all of that grief, surgery and loss only to get knocked back with another blow. It's such rubbish.
I had both my tubes removed prior to starting ivf as they were damaged and I wasn't getting pregnant. Many paid ivf cycles later and we're still without a child. We've been trying for 7 years. We had to pay for ours in the end, as I wasn't allowed to start ivf without surgery first and I had been on the NHS waiting list for surgery for 1& 1/2 years. In the end paid for surgery myself to be told, I would be too old (by a few months).
I hope you can find a solution somehow. It's not cheap and can be so stressful either way. Wishing you all the best. I'm so sorry you have gone through all that, to be told that rubbish. Best wishes x
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anything different to do after another failed fet? 
Earliest positive after 5 day single frozen embryo transfer 
Going for first scan today at 6 weeks, not optimistic
9th loss - falling apart 
Preparing for first round of IVF. 
