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Need help today ladies!

Got my 1st ivf cycle coming up and I’m scared. I feel defeated before I’ve even begun I’m 38 low amh and having a bad day. I know I need to b positive and I know it’s gonna be a hard rollercoaster ride but I just can’t find the positivety that I think I should have! I’ve Wanted kids my whole life and so scared it’s not gonna happen for me. Was at show with my niece yesterday and met lots of old school friends who are mostly on their 2nd child and I’ve none, which hurts! Feel lost...

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I totally understand you Hun. I was feeling exactly the same as you at the start of the year. Some of the people I went to school with are already grandparents & I didn't even have a child! I felt helpless, past it & so negative. I was convinced my IVF was going to fail especially when I only got 6 eggs at egg collection. I was shocked to the core when I got a BFP. My baby boy is due a month before my 42nd birthday. Us older women can do it! Wishing you lots of luck xx

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Aww thank u for replying u don’t know how much u have helped me xxxx

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And I am so happy for u xx

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Hey!

I’m in the same position as you, 38 and low amh! I’m going into my 3rd week of a long protocol and just started my stimulation meds on Thursday.

I was really apprehensive before I started but I’m feeling positive at the moment.

Take each day as it comes and make sure you have time to relax. I have found the mindfulness ivf app (that someone recommended on here) really helpful.

Xx

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Ok I’ll try it thank u xx

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It's natural to have days where you feel like anything is possible and that this could actually happen, and others when you just feel lonely, scared, hopeless and somehow lacking in some way. Let your emotions run. We are all here for you and you can do this.

Xxxx

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Thank u xx

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Bless you. Sorry you're feeling this way.

I know how you feel, it is scary and there are lots of unknowns on the way but it is natural for you to feel like this.

I think you'll probably feel a bit better when you get started.

Don't rule yourself out yet, you still have a chance. Xx

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Thank you ur so right!!

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Yeah it’s absolutely terrifying isn’t it, the thought that it might go wrong and not work. But you won’t know unless you try and it might well even work!

Sending lots of positive thoughts your way xx

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Thank u x

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Hi there, I’m 38 too. I know that lost and hurt feeling. Facing friends or family members who have children already can be so painful at times. I’m so sorry you’re having a bad day but you are totally allowed to. Just take it a day at a time. Wishing you the absolute best of luck as you get started with your treatment. We’re all here for you xx

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