Positivity needed please

[Minnie92]

Hello! I’m currently 4dp5dt of a FET. Im actually loosing my mind. This is my 3rd transfer and I have 2 children through ivf already (so so so lucky).

Last transfer I tested positive on day 4 after implantation pain and spotting day 2/3 so I took a test today and BFN. I always test early as I find it usually helps with my anxiety and gets it out of the way for the day and I know it’s super early but can’t help but compare.

I’m telling myself the embryo is worse quality so may take longer to implant / hatch. But I’m having no symptoms other than the occasional very mild cramp and twinge which I feel like is in my mind. I’m loosing the plot, I can’t eat, I can’t sleep, I just get this feeling in my gut that it hasn’t worked this time.

Any words of advice or positive stories please to get me through, this page has been my lifesaver over the last 5 years 💖 xxx

[CreateIVF]

no words of advice but just to say I’m with you and you are not alone. I’m D3P5DT, third transfer.. previously 1 BFN and 1 chemical so hoping this will be the one.

I’m not going to test until OTD myself.. maybe a POAS in the morning but then the blood test that day too.

Trying so hard to pay zero attention to symptoms..! Sending you lots of love xxx

[Minnie92 in reply to CreateIVF]

Fingers crossed third transfer lucky for you 🙏🏼 I admire your self control wish I had the same! Same with the symptoms, not sure what’s a symptom and what’s in my mind?! Lots of love and luck to you too xxx

[Victoria27]

I’m currently 3dp5dt only symptoms I’m heaving is like a fullness heavy feeling but nothing else. My first fet was negative and I didn’t have any symptoms then so hard to compare/know what to expect. Not sure I can wait until OTD though. Fingers crossed for you

[Minnie92 in reply to Victoria27]

I had this until yesterday but thought it was more like bloating from the progesterone, the wait is so hard. Sending you lots of luck xx

[Jess1981]

hey lovely every pregnancy is different. I tested early with pregnancies since our first daughter was born ( 2 live daughters 1 late loss and 4 miscarriages) but this cycle I got negatives until my period was missing. I then I had heavy cramping and was so sure it was done but to my surprise got a BFP only 5 weeks and with our history I can't get excited ( our lost miscarriage was October) You are definitely not out. Could just be a later implantation. Good luck Xx

[Minnie92 in reply to Jess1981]

Hi Jess! Sorry for your losses, how awful for you sending lots of love xx thanks for your positivity 🙏🏼 xx

[Doodlebug23]

I’m just here to bring the positivity! Positive thinking attracts positive results. It’s the laws of attraction. I’m trying to focus on this. I’m 1dp5dt, 6th transfer and embryos 7&8. THIS IS MY TIME!!

Repeat - I am worth it and I deserve this baby 💖

[Minnie92 in reply to Doodlebug23]

I am worth it and I deserve this baby 💖 going to chant that for the next week! Trying to stay focus but the negative thoughts just creep in every now and again xx good luck for your 2ww sending baby dust and hugs xx

[Doodlebug23 in reply to Minnie92]

Perfect!! 🤩 Thankyou. We got this. It’s our time!! X

[Twiglet2]

I did find with a FeT I can take a bit longer to show (fresh I did see a tiny smidge of a line at day 4 but not FET) day 6/7 before a FET has shown for me (chemicals, miscarriage and successful one) so I defo think you are still in with a chance this round 🤗 xx

[Minnie92 in reply to Twiglet2]

I was the opposite with my fresh I got a bfp day 7 - isn’t it funny how different things are each time and I think that’s what wasn’t prepared for and I need to stop comparing each cycle! X

[Twiglet2 in reply to Minnie92]

Yeah absolutely but it is hard not to compare so totally get that 🤗 xx

[Minnie92]

thanks so much for everyone’s kind words they really have helped. I had some cramping and twinges last night then a heavy feeling followed by tingly boobs. Wanted to let you know I tested this morning and have a very faint bfp. Praying this sticks xx

[Twiglet2 in reply to Minnie92]

Amazing!!!!!! Xx

[Mallorca89 in reply to Minnie92]

Were you pregnant? 🙏 Currently in my TWW and driving myself mad symptom checking but it’s hard not to! This is my first IVF cycle and we only had one egg retrieved so really hope it works xx

[Minnie92 in reply to Mallorca89]

Unfortunately not this time, but with both previous successful cycles I had no real symptoms, wishing you all the luck in the world ✨🙏🏼

[Mallorca89 in reply to Minnie92]

Oh I’m sorry to hear that. And thank you for your well wishes 🩷