Alone

Does anyone feel super alone even when you have a partner going through it, supposedly with you? I am having such a bad day my OH just doesnt seem to get it

[Abaco]

Sorry you are having a bad day, this journey is so full of ups and downs! even with all the support from family and friends and all the lovely people on here there are times when I just feel so unbelievably alone on this journey. My OH is super positive always! And can't understand why I am so negative and always think worst case scenario, I guess it's just my way of coping. I always take comfort in knowing that we are both going through it and both have our own ways of coping albeit it very differently! I hope you can meet in the middle with your OH, there is so much pressure on both of you with this. All the best to you xxx

[KirstyC90]

I am literally the same today. I think I’m out now, had two positives but did one this morning and it’s pretty much gone. OH says I’ve done the test wrong and i went to the toilet early this morning and saved the sample and tested three hours later. He thinks the sample wasn’t good. But you just know don’t you? They try to keep positive but I know it’s not sticking. I feel useless because he hasn’t got issues it’s me and I can’t seem to make anything work! Very isolating xx

[genten]

Yes! I do feel like this at times.

My DH is positive 24/7 and gets on my nerves sometimes bless him.

I don't think they do it on purpose but they don't think or feel like we do.

Xx

[Niki_B]

Yes totally!! I feel your pain. Yes I know they go through it but I really don't think it's as severe as it is for us women...we are born naturally to nurture. It's in our DNA. we long for motherhood. And like me I focused on my career and trying the find the "right one" to start a family with...trying to be responsible and all. And Well thats come back and bit me in the ass now hasn't it! My OH just doesn't get it I don't think. After all, we go through it alot more physically then they do, plus we are women so we are emotional bags of hormones! It's just so tough and I know exactly how you feel like we are in this alone. Well I know one thing that having all these ladies to talk to on here has been the best support I've had personally! As they all know...truely know what it feels like. Take care of yourself hunny and Im sending you massive hugs and love all the way from NZ. you are strong and you are so God damn brave remember that! 💪💪👈🙌❤😘💕

[DianeArnold Partner Nurse Fertility Network UK]

Hi MyIVFHart. It can be one of the loneliest places to be, going through fertility investigations and treatment. Often as a couple, it can be difficult to talk about, so see if you have one close friend or relative that you can offload onto a little. Speak to a counsellor too if you get the opportunity. However, the girls here know where you're at, and will be here for you. Thinking of you. Diane