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Please don't all shout at me lol. Am I being selfish in asking your opinions on drinking a small amount of alcohol in early pregnancy.
Im 7 weeks pregnant and is attending my best friends wedding tomorrow. Will it be bad if I have 2 glasses of champagne?
Update... Thanks for everyone's mixed responses. I had one glass of bubbles from the toast all day. Accompanied by lots of food. I dont regret a thing and had an amazing day. Xx
I wouldn’t, particularly in the early stages/first trimester when the baby is going through lots of development and organs are forming. x
No shame at all - I am desperate for a drink! 🤣 Just been in France with my OH and parents watching them drink amazing wines. Got sparkling non alcoholic grape juice to pretend it was champagne! Was really hard.....
I personally am too scared after reading about how it can affect development esp in first trimester. But I really don't know....it is up to you.
Maybe just read a bit about it and make your decision?
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Awe bless you. We have purposely not booked any holidays just to avoid me been in the same situation as you were. Well done for substaining.
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I’m the early stages it can damage organ development etc, so I would stay away. X
Thank u. I appreciate your reply x
I know that it says a little alcohol is ok in pregnancy but I personally wouldnt risk it. I know lots of things can go wrong up until the 12 week mark without any reason but if something did go wrong then I would probably feel that I had somehow contributed to that even although it probably wasnt a factor. Its totally your personal decision! Enjoy the wedding!xx
Thanku. Its becoming to look a lot clearly now as i read everyone's comment's x
The U.K. is now saying no alcohol at all in pregnancy - which is the stance of most countries I think? X
I've been having half a glass of champagne on the odd special occasion, but it is against NHS advice, so the risk is up to you. I wouldn't have 2 glasses though, obviously the more alcohol in your blood stream the more is getting through to your baby. If you want a small amount, I would say just make sure you you drink plenty of water too. If you're concerned about people noticing, take your glass and have a few sips for the toast, then swap glasses with your OH if they are going too 
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I completely avoided alcohol and caffeine from when I got my bfp but during ivf I admit I got drunk a couple of times (Christmas, lol - couldn't help myself). Both my sisters drank throughout their pregnancies but I think because I feel ivf is a little more risky and that we paid a lot, I owed it to myself to go detox. Its personal choice really. My husband keeps buying red wine that smells amazing and I am now dying for a drink. That first glass will be amazing but I have no doubt I'll be hammered just on the smell of it!! 😆
I feel awful for even questioning , but its bloody hard. I stopped smoking just as we started our ivf and i wouldn't even quwstion having a ciggerete. Its a no brainer. But alcohol.....im dying not been able to have a sip. I think I'll just have a few sips of champagne and leave it at that. I'll save my wine drinking for after baby is born. Lol.
Thanks for your reply x
If it was me I wouldn’t want to do anything that might risk it especially in the early weeks, not worth it. They do say a small amount is okay but personally I wouldn’t. Obviously it is your decision and you must do what feels right for you! Enjoy the wedding. I love a wedding! xoxo
Thanks for your reply jess. Im going to have just a few sips of champagne to toast and leave it at that x
In the U.K. they’ve recently changed their advice now to no alcohol x
As others have said, it’s a personal choice, but if it were me I wouldn’t. Maybe see if you can buy a non-alcoholic bottle of wine/bubbly, just for the psychological factor! My DP was about 6 weeks when my sister got married, & she didn’t have any alcohol & found it really hard seeing everyone around her drinking. We didn’t even think to take non-alcoholic beverages, so she treated herself to a few Appletisers! 😂😂
Go for it!
My wife was so stressed out whether she should.
she treated herself to 1 glass, just after our 7 week scan and everything looked perfect. It was a similar situation, big wedding. 1 glass of champagne isn't going to have any impact, you'd struggle to find any doctor who would say otherwise. If a non-doctor tells you its a risk, they are talking rubbish.
It's actually on advice of her uncle ( maternity consultant with decades of experience - whose own wife had the odd sip) - He told her a review he read where they studied thousands of pregnant women who drank lightly during early pregnancy ( a couple of glasses of wine a week) and found ZERO difference with women who were tee-total. So ONE glass at a wedding is basically going to have zero effect.
The trouble is you're talking about perfection, in a perfect world, don't drink anything, but that's the medical advice for ALL OF US, man or woman. What with calories, effect on the liver, etc.
Anyway, a few weeks later ( she was around 13 weeks and we had done our 12 week scan ) and she did have another glass at a friends birthday party, again about half a flute.
She's 28 weeks now, and baby is perfect, thanks goodness, but if anything bad had happened (the greatest risks are in the first 12 weeks) I'd be lying if I said my wife wouldn't be blaming herself, no matter how much I would console her that 1 glass didn't cause it.
She was really worried about the toast at her mates wedding and she only did it because I was 100% supportive and her uncle gave the green light.
Is your wife OK about it? If so, enjoy your wedding, congrats on your bfp, and relax.
I should add she has the odd cup of coffee or tea all through the pregnancy, never more than 1 cup ( which is a massive reduction for her) Again, 1 cup of tea a day isn't really going to make a difference.
Oh wow Billywhizz, you've just thrown the spanner in the works now. Hahaha id told myself after reading everyones comment's that I would stay clear (apart from a couple of sips at toast time)
My wife is just like you and completely supportive if i wanted to have a light drink. Like you say, it will be me left with the guilt. Thank you for your informative response x
I certainly understand the others responses, and me being a gun -ho male , etc. But if your wife supports you, then I'd say go for it. its a personal choice and you go through so much cr*p with IVF , especially if like us you've had multiple failed cycles, you just don't want to tempt fate. The fact you're even worried about it shows you're doing everything you can on your part to have a successful pregnancy, and I'm sure the two of you will have a lovely baby to love in the new year!
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Thank you billywhiz . Your response means alot x
I think it comes down to how anxious you feel about it really and how much you’ll actually enjoy it. Realistically one or two glasses is extremely unlikely to have any effect at all. Just think of all those people who don’t find out they’re pregnant until a bit later and have been carrying on as normal!
However, when you’ve gone through the IVF process it’s natural to feel that bit more anxious, even if it wasn’t necessarily due to fertility issues like yourself, and if you’re just going to worry about it afterwards then it might not be worth having it.
I had one glass to toast my sister’s wedding when I was 6 weeks pregnant but stayed away from it otherwise. It was in America and unfortunately we’d already booked a wine tour in California the week before the wedding. That was a tough day, going around all the vineyards, watching my OH tasting the wine but not being able to have any!🍷 😂
Bloody hell bet the wine tasting was torture. Poor you. I think I'll compromise and have 1 glass instead of 2 lol. Thanks for your reply x
😂 It was a full day trip but I would’ve felt bad for cancelling as my OH would have missed out then. Definitely didn’t get my money’s worth from it but can’t complain as I’ve got a gorgeous baby now. Enjoy the wedding!
My midwife told me I could have half a glass of wine on my birthday, but I was in second trimester by then. And I didn’t because my nausea has put me right off the thought of alcohol. Anyway, my point is that two glasses seems quite a lot, maybe just have one?
Thanks for your reply Lizzie. Think i will just have the one x
In the last 18 months of IVF treatment ive had a drink twice. Booze was really easy to give up for me, the smoking was the hard part. And since my bfn on Sunday ive been back on the fags.
I went to a family wedding last Dec just after my BFP and didnt touch a drop. My hubby thought it was great as he got my share from the free bar. But it was a long day and i was in bed with a cuppa at 10pm
Think am used to watching everyone else drink round me now. And its great not having a hangover lol
Thank you for your reply. I managed to cut fags out very easily, im the opposite, its the booze im craving (sounds so bad) lol
I just know at the wedding tomorrow my wife will get tipsy and annoying and I'll be sat there sucking lemons 😂. The bad thing is, I keep throwing it at her that because its her embryo that im carrying that she should not drink too! That went down like a s**t sandwich 😂x
I do agree the partner should be more sympathetic when it comes to the drinking side of things.
Hes got into some right states lol. I found him asleep in the garden on one occasion. Not to mention a stag do he went on in july.
We've got one frozen embie left over from last Octobers egg collection.
He will be on a drinking ban if we need to have another fresh go.
Hopefully that one little embie sitting waiting for you both is the one 😉. When are you going to start again? X
Hi I personally after 2 mmc recently wouldnt, but I have had 2 babies in my 20's and with both pregnancies I did have the odd drink I was told at the time to cut alcohol but not advised to cut out completely obviously its changed now there was no restrictions on caffeine either and both pregnancies were fine no problems at all.
Thank u for your reply. Im baffled with everyone saying about no caffeine. To say ive had 4 babies years ago and even with this pregnancy i didn't realise that i need to cut caffeine out. Is it that bad? Surely not as bad as alcohol? X
God knows they say it can make you miscarry but I’ve mc anyway cutting caffeine out. I suppose caffeine isn’t good and not needed in the body same as alcohol so cutting out will make you healthier.
I would personally wait until the second trimester before having a drink and even then I would say no more than 1. I'm nearly 20 weeks and the most I have is two bottles of Nanny State which is 0.5 and even then I feel guilty so I don't do it often. I think I'd be more relaxed about it if I hadn't been trying for so long and had IVF. My sister in Law, who fell easily, would have a glass of prosecco on special occasions or a beer and her little boy is ok. It's such a personal choice. I'm not ashamed to say I really missing having a drink and hope my baby arrives before NYE so I can have a glass of champagne! xx
Thank you for your reply jojo. When are you due? X
2nd January is my IVF due date but I have been measuring 3 days ahead which puts me at 30th December. I just hope baby doesn't decide to arrive on Christmas day! When is your due date? x
Oh bloody hell. Thats a close shave for you lass . 28th December sounds like a good date to give birth to me. Right in the middle of xmas and nne .
My ivf dd is 29th march im a fair bit behind you. Have u found out the sex? X
Tell me about it! Yeah, I said between 27th and 30th December would be fine, or 2 days before Christmas so I have more room for food (and wine)!
You'll be having a lovely spring baby which will make it far easier to arrange birthday parties, unlike having a Christmas / NY baby! We have our 20 week scan next week but we're not going to find out the sex. x
I didn't find out the sex for my first 2 pregnancies. When it came to my 3rd pregnancy i decided to have a change and find out. I totally regretted it, it took the edge of mu labour too. So when i had my 4th baby I didn't find. A surprise is so much nicer. Hope your scan goes ok. Xx
That's good to know. Most people I know found out and can't believe we're not. I've read that it gives you something to focus on during labour and I can see that. Good to hear it from both sides. Thank you. Good luck for your next one - hope the wait isn't too long xx
It does help you focus. But it also takes the excitement out of it throughout the pregnancy for you and for family and friends.
Hope all goes well with you too thanks x
I wouldn't touch any at such an early stage for the reasons the others have stated and also because if anything goes wrong you will always feel regret. I did have a woman stay with me once who had two glasses of wine in late pregnancy. Her rationale was that her baby actually had its own kidneys at that stage.
I find that non alcoholic beer is the best alternative as it actually feels like you are drinking. If I was going to a wedding, I'd take my own supply in case they didn't have it. There is also a good non alcoholic gin called seed something (sorry I forget the exact name) but be careful with that one as tonic water has been linked to miscarriage.
I hope you can enjoy the day. I'm about the same amount pregnant as you and looking forward to a nice Malbec eventually!
PS I also find it helps to ask for a fancy gin glass for the non alcoholic beer!
When i got preg and i didnt know about it i blamed loosing it on going out and drinking.. i spoke with nurses ect and they told me one would be fine until the babies starts to feed of u xx
Speaking as someone who has tried 8yrs to conceive after countless unsuccessful IVF and severe endometriosis, someone who adored coffee but stopped caffeine and alcohol for that length of time too and totally overhauled diet & tried every alternative therapy going plus countless surgeries for endometriosis to try and allow their body to try and conceive just once, I’d consider stopping drinking for 9 months not to be too great a hardship to be honest! I’d simply be so overjoyed to have actually got pregnant. I guess all things are relative, it may seem a sacrifice to you but compared to what a lot of women have had to go through over years and years, it’s not that big a deal, wedding or not. Just my opinion but speaking from someone who has battled infertility for so long we probably see things slightly differently in terms of what is hard to give up.
I would not risk, I would never give a glass of champagne to a new born so why I would do the same with the baby inside of me? Does it really worth? It is a personal choice... I understand that you may think it is an effort but it is only 9 months... you should know what is best for your baby. Good luck 😉
I think if you have just one, you’ll then be tempted to have just two.... but if you say no alcohol whatsoever there’s no blurred lines. The U.K. now don’t recommend any alcohol at all in pregnancy. At school we put a raw egg in a bowl then poured in a bit of alcohol. What happened to the raw egg in the bowl is what supposedly happens to the foetus if you drink alcohol. That school experiment has stuck with me. Ivf pregnancies are very rare and special and I think it’s best to do everything you possibly can to avoid harm. The baby can’t choose whether or not you should be having that drink. I love alcohol, a lot! And it is soooo hard to avoid at social events! But I think IF anything went wrong with the pregnancy and IF you had had alcohol, you would have to then live with those consequences - I know one glass is just one glass but it’s still alcohol and a tiny baby in your body mixing together. You just need to make a decision at the end of the day that you are comfortable with. There are some great non alcoholic drinks now that you could take. I love Bavaria beer 🍺
Good luck with your decision!!
You and your wife are a stunning couple. All the best with your pregnancy x
Thanks Scarlett for your lovely response xx
Late to reply here - somehow I didn't see the post! First of all I would like to say you both look stunning and so happy. Secondly, I agree with all above. Totally up to you but whatever makes you more relaxed. Govt advice changes all the time and as lots of people said above, many people don't even realise they are pregnant at this point and whilst they overindulge, go on to have perfectly healthy babies. Xx
Thanks for your lovely response Camillage x
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