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On the road to adoption

Jmaw
Jmaw

Hi everyone. Just wanted to share with you all that we had our initial visit from the adoption agency yesterday. It was so intense! Tonnes of questions asked of us and they were at our house for 2 1/2 hours. They wanted paperwork such as passports and checked the garden for safety etc. Looked in every room (it’s a good job I spent the whole previous day cleaning!) Even looked in our bedroom and admired the view out the window, which I thought was a bit odd. The woman even asked me why there was loads of bedding and clothes on my bed! “Have you done loads of washing?” (Well yes, just come back from holiday....).

Sitting on the sofa real close to each other we were asked loads of personal questions about previous relationships etc. I felt a bit like I was sitting on a chair in the headmistress’s office TBH. BUT know and understand why that would be necessary, totally! Phew, glad that’s over and breathe......they will be in touch in 2 weeks after writing a report....so fingers crossed that everything’s ok to go ahead 😊😊😊

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How exciting.... wishing you the best xxx

Jmaw
Jmaw
in reply to destiny121

Thanks x

Hidden
Hidden

Excited to hear your next steps :) Sounds great xxx

Jmaw
Jmaw
in reply to Hidden

I’m excited too! X

All the best to you both. Hope it goes smoothly.

Jmaw
Jmaw
in reply to lc01sw

Yes me too! X

Sounds like a bit of an ordeal but all sounds normal for adoption. Our friends has fostered twins from days old and still had to jump through hoops to adopt them 2 years later! Will all be worth it!xx

Jmaw
Jmaw
in reply to Cinderella5

It so will can’t wait x

So exciting! Good luck on the report. Isn’t that odd about the question about the washing! Xx

Jmaw
Jmaw
in reply to Orla9298

I know ha ha x

Oh my goodness sounds so intense but understand why. How exciting for you. Please keep us posted. It’s lovely to hear your other journey. Any indication to how long it may take for you to have your child?? x

Jmaw
Jmaw
in reply to Missy_22

Yes up to six months, but could be a little sooner if medicals and training is prompt. Then we can go to Panel in a couple of months x

Missy_22
Missy_22
in reply to Jmaw

Wow how exciting hope it all goes quickly and smoothly. Lovely to hear your doing this xxx

Jmaw
Jmaw
in reply to Missy_22

Yes, I so wish we had gone for adoption in the first place instead of putting myself through all the IVF stuff TBH 💕

That’s exciting for you. Good luck for the next stage xx

Jmaw
Jmaw
in reply to Tugsgirl

Thanks x

Sounds intense, but exciting times ahead! 💕 xx

Jmaw
Jmaw
in reply to Lou7744

I know I can’t wait 😊

Yes when we had our initial visit it was very intense also lasted 2 hours. Think they are just sussing you out!! Have to say rest of process has been absolutely fine only other time its been so intense was at our approval panel. All the best xx

Jmaw
Jmaw
in reply to katya38

Wow so how long did it take for you? X

katya38
katya38
in reply to Jmaw

We re Scotland so our process is much longer. Its taken us 17 months from initial visit to match ing panel next week. She should be home by mid sept hopefully. That was with us getting through process quite fast. We only had to wait 3 months for a match. Good luck! England can be much quicker! X

Jmaw
Jmaw
in reply to katya38

Thanks for letting me know. Yes it seems much quicker, six months from initial visit if everything runs smoothly they said. Congratulations for getting your daughter very soon! Bet you are so excited!!! Having had two children naturally, in a sense I think I will be more protective of my adopted child. Also, not love them more of course, but love them because we have both found each other 💕

katya38
katya38
in reply to Jmaw

Thanks you we are really excited just wish it wasnt so long after matching panel to getting her. Goodluck with it all hope it all goes smoothly the worst part is the waiting. Theres a really good fb group prospective adopters uk dont know if uv heard of it but its great ! X

Jmaw
Jmaw
in reply to katya38

Oh wow, I’ll defo join that! Thanks for the info 😘

Fingers crossed for you xx

Jmaw
Jmaw
in reply to Ajplus1

Thanks x

Just wanted to wish you the best of luck. It is intense but will be worth it xx

Jmaw
Jmaw
in reply to Barbara1012

Yes I’m sure it will x

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