Adoption happy ending

[katya38]

This group got me through some pretty tough times and i know there are not many people left on here who i would maybe know of. But wanted to let those of u know who were following our story our little girl came home on monday aged 2.10 years. She is perfect in every way and we are very much her mummy and daddy and she is our little girl. Feel so blessed xxx

[Hidden]

Congratulations xx

[Jmaw]

That is wonderful news I am so pleased for you!!! we are currently seeing about adoption this month as we had to wait six months after IVF treatment. We have had open evening and initial visit, but told to wait until we got our head around miscarriages and failed transfers. Please keep in touch and let us know how you get on!!!! 💕

[Skybid in reply to Jmaw]

Congrats!

Can I ask how long the process from beginning to end took?

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[Jmaw in reply to Skybid]

We we’re told six months in total in Yorkshire and Humberside from start to finish. They have changed the process here. Most other regions take much longer. I believe this lady Katya38, has waited nearly two years from her posts x

[katya38 in reply to Jmaw]

We are about 21 months from initial visit. We are in Scotland where that is standard time. Some parts of England can be sooner x

[katya38 in reply to Jmaw]

Thank you that sounds really sensible xx

[_MrsC]

Congratulations! What a lovely news feed to go to bed reading. I wish you all the happiness together as a family. What an exciting time you have ahead of you and I’m sure this Christmas will be simply magical! xxx

[katya38 in reply to _MrsC]

Thank you and a 3rd birthday in a month so its exciting times ahead xx

[Cinderella5]

Well I definitely remember you honey! You've supported me so much! I couldn't be happier for you both! I'm so chuffed to bits for you that you have your gorgeous wee girl at home with you now, you've waited such a long time for this & you totally deserve your happy ending!!😙xxxx

[katya38 in reply to Cinderella5]

Thank you that brought a tear to my eye. We have been incredibly lucky she is definitely worth waiting for. Hope you're doing ok xx

[Foodie23 in reply to katya38]

I'm so happy your dream came true, even though it was different than you'd originally imagined. Thank you for sharing this wonderful news with us.

My husband and I will be starting our IVF journey later this month and I'm just trying to keep an open mind. I know there's a spirit out there waiting to become part of our family. I know however much longer we have to wait, no matter how our child comes to us, it'll be worth it. Thank you for reminding me of this truth.

[katya38 in reply to Foodie23]

Thank you so much. We have been so lucky with our daughter she was brought up by an excellent foster family and had formed secure attachments which she is transferring over to us. I always knew i wanted to adopt so absolutely believe u can love a child who isnt yours . Good luck with your journey xx

[Foodie23 in reply to katya38]

That's really wonderful you adopted her from foster care. I really want to do that too! I've thought we'd adopt our 2nd, but you never know how life will turn out. I know for sure you can love a child that isn't your biological child just as much. Thank you for the well wishes. xx

[Cinderella5 in reply to katya38]

Awww I didnt meant it to! Ha ha ha Its hard not to get emotional for people that have been here for some time....a lot longer than they should be and even better when they have good news to share! Wishing your family so much good times together! Im still battling on here, still have a tiny bit of hope that we might get our happy ending. Looking into adoption too and a puppy meantime!xx

[katya38 in reply to Cinderella5]

Keep in touch prob wont be on this group now xx

[Skybid]

Congrats!

Can I ask how long the process from beginning to end took?

[katya38 in reply to Skybid]

It took us 21 months from initial visit to now. We re Scotland some parts of England can be sooner x

[Izzy84 in reply to Skybid]

Jumping on this thread as I have recent experience of adopting in England. The standard process from officially starting stage 1 of the process to being approved to adopt at panel is 6 months, though you can opt to take a break of up to 6 months between stages 1 and 2 if you want to. Then the matching stage begins - for this, there is no timeline. If you are looking for a baby girl with blue eyes it will take longer; if you are able to consider sibling groups and/or older children, it will likely be shorter. We registered our interest in March 2017, were approved in October 2018 and matched in March 2018. We have adopted two boys, 3 and 4 years old. It is important to be aware of the trauma adopted children will have gone through as the result of experiences within birth family / being removed and placed in foster care. This can manifest in many ways, e.g. attachment difficulties, defiant behaviour, anxiety, controlling behaviour. In our experience adoption is so rewarding and life-changing in a positive sense. It is also tough and you need to be 100% committed. I'd describe it as extreme parenting.

[Wishingfortheday in reply to Izzy84]

Thank you for this info Izzy84, and it is wonderful to hear about your family and your experiences in adoption.

I was wondering, once you have been approved and the matching stage has begun - does the search take into account waiting children in your immediate area/council only, or is the search run further afield in England as well? It would seem a shame if there were children waiting to be matched when approved adopters in another area were available. I wasn't sure how this works, though I think one of the ladies I'd spoken to before told me she had been matched to her adoptive daughter who was being fostered in a neighbouring county.

[Izzy84 in reply to Wishingfortheday]

We adopted ours from the opposite end of the country. There are national databases of looked after children and a site called Linkmaker that helps match waiting children with prospective adopters. It can be both an advantage and disadvantage to live far away. At one point we were looking at a sibling pair from just over our county border and this was deemed too close to home as we could feasibly be out shopping or at a park with the children and run into the birth parents. That said, it makes introductions and attending meetings with the children's local authority easier if you don't live 4+ hours away! In our case, social workers had been keen for local adopters to adopt our children to help promote their regional identity. They didn't find anyone suitable, so cast their net wider and reached out to us. Our voluntary agency hadn't worked with our children's local authority before but were happy to establish links. Some agencies do have "preferred partner" agencies that they've worked with a lot in the past, usually based on geography. So if you were an approved adopter in Somerset, you would likely receive a lot of interest from Devon and Wiltshire local authorities suggesting profiles of children you might be interested in. But you could equally hear from Hull or Kent. Hope this makes sense!

[WeeMrsH]

Wow Katya this is fantastic!! Enjoy your little family. So much love to give 💖

[Waterfall2]

Congratulations. Wonderful news you've got your daughter home. Xx

[Sweets1]

Congratulations xx

[AS100]

Congratulations 😍❤️😍 xXx

[7AVA]

Congratulations, so wonderful to hear this xxx

[Kyell2]

Aw how lovely...and a great time of year for her to get her forever home with Christmas not too far off. Enjoy every minute 😊 x

[Macca13]

This is fantastic news congratulations to you both. Best wishes for the future xxx

[Blondyboo]

Hi there old timer from a fellow old timer on here! 😉 congratulations my lovely so pleased for you 😘

[katya38 in reply to Blondyboo]

Thank you so much and i see uv had good news. Congratulations we ve both got our happy endings xx

[Mantaray75]

That is such amazing news. Put a smile on my face today.

I know how much my sister's adopted girl is definitely their child and I love her to bits even though I live thousands of miles away.

Although we are finally pregnant now, we still considering adopting in the future to have the family we always wanted.

Good to hear from an old timer too.

x

[Wishfully]

Love this post ☺️💛 Huge congratulations to you both xx

[DianeArnold Partner Nurse Fertility Network UK]

Hi katya38. I certainly remember you. Fabulous news. Enjoy your new family life. A perfect ending after a long, long struggle. So proud of you both. Diane

[katya38 in reply to DianeArnold]

Thank you so much diane x

[vic77]

Oh hunny I am so so pleased for you. that is one lucky wee girl.enjoy every minute xxx

[katya38 in reply to vic77]

Thank you hun we will xx

[Lind16]

Congratulations my husband and I will prob go down the adoption route as well if our last cycle doesn't work. I wish you every happiness xx

[Hidden]

Wish you all the best, you will fight all the battles but as a mummy now! And thanks for this message of hope. 😘

[Beechnut1]

Lovely news thank you so much for sharing. Wishing you and your family all the happiness xxx

[Hidden]

Aww that’s fantastic news! I only thinking about you the other day. What a happy ending and a lucky little girl to have such a wonderful mummy & daddy. Congratulations and enjoy every minute xxx

[katya38 in reply to Hidden]

Thank you so much button all the best to you xx

[Maroon12]

Aww that’s lovely news xxx

[Snowy76]

Congratulations!!!!! Enjoy x

[Izzy84]

Congratulations! Adoption is a tough path to choose but so very rewarding. It's lovely to read about your experiences and hopefully your post will encourage others to consider adopting too. It's not for the faint-hearted but we would absolutely do it all again (and probably will, once ours are a little older). Hope you enjoy all the wonders of motherhood x

[Wishingfortheday]

Congratulations Katya38 to you and your family

[NDE1987]

Congratulations Hun! Such amazing news to read. Really happy for you. Enjoy being a mummy xx

[Datak]

Katya, congratulations sweetie!!!

Enjoy it all ... I have had no sleep in the last few days, sick, wee and other unmentionables all over me ....but I still count myself the luckiest to be a mama and experiencing it. I have been doing it with the support of my own loved 'dad'/much adored 'grandad' to my little one who came into my life at a similar age. I've never needed or wanted any other parenting and I'm now in my 40's!

We both got our happy endings - it was all worth it wasn't it?! xx

[katya38 in reply to Datak]

Oh absolutely she is our world xx

[City74]

Congratulations Katy’s what lovely news xx

[City74 in reply to City74]

Sorry silly autocorrect I meant Katya x

[Lizzielizzielizzie]

Oh I’m so pleased to hear this. I’ve followed your story for a long time and am thrilled to hear you are a parent xx

[emmab178]

Congratulations x

[KiraJean]

Congratulations! I'm actually quite curious about the process of adoption. Would you mind if I messaged you for some advice?

[katya38 in reply to KiraJean]

Not at all feel free.x

[Dunla]

Congratulations, wishing you all a life time of health and happiness. My husband and I have recently started to discuss adoption and it’s so lovely to hear your story xx

[Livvy625]

Congratulations x 💕