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[Tara2016]

Hi there,

Just wanted to send you an update on my journey. I've been a member here for a few years, going through the IVF ICSI battle. My husband and I had two unsuccessful attempts here in the UK back in May 2016 and May 2017. However after we married in September 2017 we decided to have one last attempt abroad in Cyprus using donor sperm. This was a difficult decision as we ever so wanted to have a child that was from both of us but our hearts knew that we were fighting a losing battle and did not have the strength or finances to continue down that route.

My last post on this site was in November 2017 as I was eagerly waiting to start treatment in December. We were flying out on Xmas Eve and stayed there until after New Year.

Anyways to cut a long story short, I got a BFP in the New Year. I knew this didn't mean success as my previous embies didn't survive past 6 weeks. My HCG bloods were rising and I got to my 6 week scan and saw TWO healthy sacs. At last there was hope!! I had some heavy bleeding at around 10 weeks and 12 weeks, but both babies hung in there. I was at last pregnant with twins but the anxiety never left.

At 27 weeks my boy/girl twins tried to make an early appearance, then at 29 weeks on the 4th July 2018 our babies arrived prematurely. Our precious babies are now in SCBU getting all the help they need and will remain there for a couple of months. The hardest part of it all is going through all we went through to have our babies to then not be able to care for them. However we are strong and will pull through.

I wanted to share my story as it's been a difficult road but there was light at the end of the tunnel. This group was an amazing support to me through my battles and I don't know what I would have done without being it.

Wishing you all the very best in your journeys and keep fighting for that dream!! 💕💕

[LegoBatgirl]

Congratulations on your twins. I hope they're both home safe with you very soon. Thanks for sharing your success story, it helps to give me hope x

[Tara2016 in reply to LegoBatgirl]

Thank you and wishing you all the best x

[Hidden]

Congratulations on the birth of your twins! Hopefully you'll all be home together soon. Great to hear a happy ending. After 7 cycles I'm currently 22 weeks pregnant and relate to what you say about feeling anxious constantly. I want to fast forward to November don't think I'll relax till then! X x

[Tara2016 in reply to Hidden]

Congratulations! I was exactly the same, wishing the weeks away and wanting them to arrive, I guess you have to be careful what you wish for as mine did arrive early. Wishing you all the best, you are over half way, the remaining weeks will fly by x

[Leesalou]

Congratulations to you both on the arrival of your twins. my ICSI pregnancy I went in to early labour at 33+4 he weighed 4lb 10 and stayed in scbu in Margate Kent for 17 days, there am amazing team in scbu there in the best of hands they really are, it is heart breaking seeing them and I guess your 2 babies are maybe only couple of lbs each being born at 29 weeks, xx

[Tara2016 in reply to Leesalou]

Thank you, how did you cope with it all? Did you stay over the whole time? I got discharged after 5 days. Yes they were tiny 2.12lbs and 3.2lbs but apparently a good weight for their gestation x

[Leesalou in reply to Tara2016]

Sorry for late reply.

I got discharged from the ward after 3 days, but I was ever so lucky and got given a room in special care ward to stay in for the whole time as it was not in use and quiet, I cried the whole of Friday when they discharged me of the thought of being made to go home but the lady’s in special care let me stay on the agreement if there was someone that needed it I had to give it up and thankfully it was needed so I got to stay,

O they was super tiny are they do well? And how long do you think they will be in for,

Xx

[Tara2016 in reply to Leesalou]

Wow that was good of them, pleased you were able to spend that special time bonding. They reckon they will be in until mid September so it's a very long wait x

[Leesalou in reply to Tara2016]

Blimey that’s a long time but there in safe hands there amazing in SCBU they really are, wish them both a speedy recovery x

[Hidden]

So glad you got your babies in the end. Congratulations xxx

[Tara2016 in reply to Hidden]

Thank you and congratulations to you also x

[Hidden]

Aw I remember you, so lovely to hear you have been successful. I can’t imagine how hard it is to have your babies here and in SCBU but I am sure they are getting the best care and gaining strength daily.

Hopefully you will have them both home soon and family life can start xx

[Tara2016 in reply to Hidden]

Hi Button, thank you I got there at last! Hope you're doing well with baby. It's really hard but it's for the best. Just can't wait to get them home and be mum to them x

[Hidden in reply to Tara2016]

Fingers crossed it won’t be to long xxx

[Cinderella5]

Awww Tara this is amazing news! Im so delighted for you! Hopefully wont be too long until you get your babies home with you! Congratulations.xx

[Tara2016 in reply to Cinderella5]

Thank you, wishing you all the best for your next cycle, sending you lots of baby dust x

[Tugsgirl]

Congratulations xx

[Tara2016 in reply to Tugsgirl]

Thank you x

[precioce]

Congratulations. Hope they are out of hospital and home soon.xx

[Tara2016 in reply to precioce]

Thank you and congratulations to you too x

[Sweets1]

Lovely news, and I’m crossing everything xx

[Tara2016 in reply to Sweets1]

Thank you and wish you all the best on your journey x

[Rosebud3]

Your post has made me well up (in a good way!) My hubby and I are also using donor sperm, a hugely difficult decision and step to make but reading your story has reminded me on what has been a very hormonal and emotional day (currently DR for a FET) that dreams can come true in the end ✨✨✨ Congratulations on your beautiful twins, I hope they continue to do well and will be able to come home very soon. Anyone who walks this lonely tough road deserves so much happiness and it’s so lovely to hear of your happy ending. Thank you for sharing it x

[Tara2016 in reply to Rosebud3]

Aww bless you, I am glad it has given you hope. I can honestly say we have no regrets about using donor. My husband has absolutely fallen head over heels for our babies. I'm totally amazed at how much he has bonded, they are his children and he is proud. No doubt you and your hubby will experience the same. Wishing you all the best for your cycle, fingers crossed for you hun xxx

[Rosebud3]

That is so reassuring and lovely to hear - the power of love ❤️ Feel so happy for you both. Do you mind if I ask what made you decide to go abroad for IVF with donor sperm? X x

[Tara2016 in reply to Rosebud3]

It's okay, we thought about costing and also availability of donors. We had full control in choosing our donor whereas the options in the UK seemed limited x

[Rosebud3 in reply to Tara2016]

Ah I see! Yes we found that too, we ended up ordering ours from America. Luckily we found a donor that suited us and the company we dealt with were brilliant but it does seem a shame that donors and donor profiles are quite limited in the UK. Wishing you all the best xx

[misswinky34]

Oh goodness love what a journey. Sending prayers to you all 💕

[Tara2016]

Thanks hun, it has been tough but we getting through it x

[vic77]

huge congrats and thanks for sharing. ..hope your babies are home soon xx

[Tara2016]

Thank you and wishing you all the best as well x