Good morning x
My wife and I had our scans yesterday. My lining is 8.9 and her follicles are measuring roughly 10. (I will be carrying by wife's egg).
So they've said they will do EC this coming Wednesday or Thursday, it will be decided after another scan on Monday morning.
This sounds really bad, but i can't get time off work to be with her when she has her EC. Would I of being allowed in the room to hold her hand anyway? Is it an all day thing? As i finish work at 1.30 so do you think they could do EC on an afternoon when i can be there?
Any advice would be appreciated. Thank u x
Hi Loulav, I'm only speaking from my own experience so not sure if clinics do it differently. I've had ivf at 2 different clinics and both do EC in the morning. Not sure why, could be something to do with the anesthetic (I had GA first time and sedation 2nd time). The procedure itself doesn't take too long, maybe half an hour but there's lot of prepping before and then she will need time to rest after. Both times our EC was about 8am and we were out by about 11ish. The EC is a minor procedure but because of anesthetic and sometimes it being quite painful, it is wise to have someone there with her just to hold her hand really. In this instance (while it'd be nice for you to share the experience) could you ask a friend or family to be there with her? They might also say that someone needs to be with her for about 24 hrs after procedure because of anesthetic so bear this in mind. Obviously with sperm donations a male partner has to be there, but I'm guessing you are using a sperm donor. Best thing to do is speak to your clinic and ask them the estimated times and roughly how the day will go. I hope you're able to sort it out, work time off can be such a pain! xxx
Thank you Lilli79 for your lovely reply. My mum said she would take her. But my wife wasn't keen on having my mum holding her hand during the procedure, if you get my drift 😉😂.
We wanted to ask the consultant yesterday when we had our scan, but bottled out.
Yes we have a donor ( a lad in the marines over in the usa ) .
I don't want to tell work as my contract isn't fixed and its due for renewing, so if they get wind of it , i don't want to be out on my ear. When I have the ET , I'll have to throw a sicky. X
Sorry forgot to say that i don't believe that your partner is allowed in the procedure room anyway but they are allowed in the recovery room after. If you have a friend who could do it that would be great, but even if your mum is there just to drive her home then that might be a help. I wouldn't say it's totally necessary to have someone in the recovery room with her as the nurses are usually really nice and attentive. Our first clinic wouldn't let us leave until we had booked a taxi (my husband doesn't drive) but second clinic were a bit more relaxed, but I don't think I would have driven home just in case. Remember there are lots of ladies who do ivf alone so I'm sure the clinic will have some experience of this. Hope it all goes well for you both xxxx p.s. ET is a doddle, and doesn't involve anesthetic so you might be able to get away with saying you have a doctors appointment or something. The latest our clinic could do transfer was 3pm so you might get away with it!!
You've being extremely helpful Lilli thanku.
Putting it to prospective too about woman who do it singular , so thanks for that.
I was told ET is worse than EC, so I've being dreading it. Also thought i needed bed rest for 2 days? X
ET is a bit like a smear really, they literally just stick a probe thingy up there with the little embie on and that's it. I didn't find it painful at all. I took 1 day off after EC (so day of EC and day after) but ET I was in work in the morning, got the call about 10am and had transfer about 2.30. My husband didn't come with me first time and I drove myself home. I took no time off work at all. 2nd time our ET was thankfully on a Sunday so my husband came with me, also back in work the next day. Both times were successful for us (first baby we sadly had mc at 12 weeks but currently 27 weeks with twins from 2nd ivf) so I don't think taking time off work makes a difference. I think they actually say it's better just to carry on as normal. Do you have a physical job? Only thing I'd say is you'll need to take it easy during the 2ww. If you're office based or whatever you'll be fine xx
You're expecting twins!! How amazing. Congratulations. Do you mind me asking, how many eggs did they transfer for you to be expecting twins? As we have asked for 2 to be transferred, but the clinic won't. They said they will only transfer 1 egg.
I work in a school one to one with a boy with special needs. He is very draining and hard work.
I cant believe you went on your own and went back to work. You are hardcore!! Hahah x
Yes we had 2 embies put back in because I am over 38. They don't normally do it if under 38, but I have heard of it happening. It's possible because you have had babies before (wow, 4!! And you call me hard-core! 😄) that they know chances are higher for you. They try to avoid multiple births due to higher risk. I had to sign a consent form but tbh I've found the pregnancy fine so far. Really, don't stress the ET, it's totally fine. If your job is stressful but you really can't get any relief in 2ww how about trying reflexology or something? I did it during mine and its very calming. Many ladies also go for acupuncture. Needs to be a fertility /maternity specialist and also need to explain you are having ivf xx
I might sound daft but what does 2ww mean?
I had 4 children with my ex husband, hence why we're are having this baby as our first together. Iam 40 year's old, so does that lower my chances of the embryo staying put? It will be my wife's egg and she is 31 x
Sorry that's 2 Week Wait, so basically you have to wait 2 weeks after ET until you take a pregnancy test (known as OTD = official test day). Although usually its not 2 weeks, can be anytime from 10-16 days after transfer, depends on what clinic advise. Perhaps because your wife is 31 they are not keen to do multiple transfer because her eggs would be better quality and more likely to stick. I think in all honesty they are following regulations advice rather than just being awkward, but worth asking again anyway!
Ps. As long as your lining is responding to the drugs as it should there is no reason to be concerned of your chances of the embie sticking xx
Thank you for clearing up the 2ww and the OTD. Ive seem lots of shortened things on many other posts and im baffled! Hahah. Can you tell in new to all this hahaha.
My lining is 9.8 at the moment. Not sure what its supposed to be though x
This might help you
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Oh wow. I've just had a look. Everything seems so much clearer now hahahha. Thanks so much x