Feeling depression

[Tukuk]

Hello

I've successfully 1st IVF on 2016.

My little girl born very healthy in 2017. I'm now 41years old. I really want to have another one soon. My problem is my partner isn't agree with me. He is worried so much about his age(49). He said that he's the oldest dad in this country. I'm very disappointed. I've tried to talk to him nicely and positively . He's still disagreed. He's the GP. He's also worried about born to be disability at my age. I also offer him about paying for IVF procedures on my own expense. I don't mind to start again. He's still disagree. I don't know what to do. I feel very sad and stressful . I'm often thinking about sperm donor. But it'll be big problems between us. The most difficult thing is changing his attitude. I just need to talk to someone. Is anyone having the same problem

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I don't have any advice but I don't agree that your partner is too old! I'm 41 & currently 15 weeks pregnant after my first IVF & my husband is 51. Don't get me wrong, I wish I could have done this 10 years ago but the situation is what it is. My husband does have tons of energy which I guess maybe makes a difference. I don't have a big interest in trying again afterwards, mainly because I'm so scared of having another loss so I'm struggling with pregnancy but if my husband wanted another I'd consider it. I definitely wouldn't consider a sperm donor, I understand your frustration but am sure it would cause some serious problems. I get the disability issue to a point but my Dr assures me many healthy babies are being born to older Mother's & health issues are something I will deal with if & when I have to. Maybe it's just he has a genuine fear due to age which is a bit sad. Could he be worried about what people might say about your ages? That doesn't bother me but I hate being referred to as a geriatric mother to be as it does highlight the fact I'm older. I hope you come to a conclusion where you are both happy 😘 xx

[Maki_Harukawa]

Hey. I hope you and your husband are doing well. Please don't be depressed about this situation. You need to encourage your husband that it's never too late to be a father. I've known people over the age of 60 who have actually conceived. The only thing that you have to be aware of is your health. Your physical and mental state should be in a good condition. Make sure he stays healthy. If he has any medications he should take them regularly. If he has a bad diet it's your job to force him to eat a well balanced meal everytime. Don't forget to go to the doctor either. Having regular checkups is really good as well. Hope your husband decides to agree with you and becomes willing to become a parent to another child. Good luck and keep us updated.

[littlebeastshaya]

Hi there. How are you doing? I hope you are doing fine. We are doing good. I read your post. These things happen. It is a decision made as a couple. You two need to be on same page. TTC is requires a lot. You need to be patient and determined. Though you can adapt. You can go for surrogacy. Both are wonderful ways. I hope all goes well for you. Take care.