Feel completely deflated before even starting

[JLB2]

Hi all

I do not write on here very often but am feeling quite low at the moment. We have been going through tests etc for the past 3/4 years. After being referred by our doctors and then a consultant we have been waiting for an appointment at the IVF clinic. Had our first appointment 2 months ago and have another appointment next week where we will talk about dates to start - we will be having ICSI.

I feel completely deflated and we have not even started. 4 close friends have been through this, none of which were successful after a number of tries. I need to lose a little weight but I just have no motivation at the moment which must sound awful. I just feel like its not going to work and is all going to go wrong and Im not sure exactly how we are going to manage that. I am trying to take it one day at a time and trying to have a healthier life but it just feels like I am not giving my all to it because its going to go wrong anyway.

Really sorry to be complaining on here as this must seem so minor.

[Jonesjp]

Aw hunny we all go through this stage at some point, this journey is so very up and down and sometimes my mood in relation to our infertility can change by the day!! Don’t be to hard on yourself you’re dealing with a lot of emotions and that takes its toll. I can understand why you think it may not work because sadly as we all know it doesn’t work for everyone, but your friends are not you, and for you it may work, I hope you feel better soon Hun, it’s so difficult when your going throughout low Point x x x

[Tugsgirl]

Hi 👋 That’s all you can do, take it one day and one stage at a time. We’re about to start our second fresh round and when I break it down there’s so many steps to climb, so many stages, that the thought of starting all over again is overwhelming but like you, we just have to take it one step at a time. Ivf success rates aren’t great but you have to have a little hope. There’s no way of knowing if it isn’t going to work before you even try, as much as I understand where you’re coming from. Some of that is not allowing yourself to get your hopes up just in case you’re left disappointed. You’re trying to prepare yourself for that. If it’s any consolation I know of three other couples where I live who had treatment at the same clinic as me and they all worked on their first attempts. Of course that doesn’t make me feel any better lol 😂 Good luck on your treatment xx

[Hidden]

Sounds like you are worn down with the waiting...it is torture....

Once you start you will feel better I think as you are actually doing something.

I did anyway.....

Waiting kills me...

Best of Luck

Xxx

[DianeArnold Partner Nurse Fertility Network UK]

Hi JLB2. So many emotions for you to have to tackle at the moment. You will hear the sad stories, but there are successful ones too, so hold on to that thought. You have the others here to guide you and support you as you go through your ICSI cycle. Hopefully, you have been, or will be offered some counselling at the clinic. Do take it up if offered, as it will give you the opportunity to talk over how you are feeling. I shall be thinking of you. Diane

[Hidden]

I'm so so sorry. I completely understand these feelings feeling of deflated before you've even begun. Perhaps all the months of trying and of hoping to fall pregnant your resources seem to be empty a present. I'm going through similar emotions at present. I'm just at the beginning of the diagnosis and treatment stage. I'm going in for a laparoscopy in a couple of weeks to investigate a hydrosalphix and whatever else is there.

You will find a way to cope somehow if you've come this far. See the waiting time as giving you the break you need to recharge and do find some help at the clinic. Sounds like you are doing the right things...take each day as it comes, small things to look after yourself, and connect to the things that make you feel like yourself.

Keep talking to people x