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Cake or Gin?

In 24 little hours Mr Emu will be driving his fractured ankle, 6 weeks and 6 days Mrs Emu for their viability scan.

This time last year we’d talked about maternity leave, names, life with children and were eagerly awaiting a scan in 4 days time. I’d got sore boobs, felt nauseous in the morning and was exhausted most afternoons.

Almost a year to the date and nothing like this has happened. I’ve bled, been quiet, refused to talk about being pregnant and positively wanted to scream at Mr Emu off for even looking at my breasts last night when he said they looked bigger. They’re not bigger. Well, they might be.

“I’m so excited for tomorrow’s scan!” - NOT. In fact I reckon that’s why it’s arrived so blinking quickly. I don’t want to go at all. I don’t want to be faced with a darken room, those words of failure, and the saddest audible gasp from Mr Emu ever. And if it has worked? Then bloody hell! More waiting and worrying and more months of it potentially going wrong. I don’t know.

Ah. Little peas. Or little pea. You’ve endured so much already. You’ve made it through the biggest of battles already. Little fighter/s. I already feel guilty for not wanting you to be put in me... and I feel guilty now for worrying if you are there tomorrow what pain you might cause later down the line. If you’re there tomorrow... can you just tell me to get a grip? A little sign over the scan monitor will do.

So I’ll check in tomorrow ladies (and gents!). What’ll be will be. It’ll be cake or Gin by tomorrow lunch. x

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Wishing for cake hunny 🍰 I hope it goes really well and you see your little bean/s. Everything you’re feeling is so normal based on what you’ve been through. Will be thinking of you tomorrow and looking forward to hearing some wonderful news 🍀❤️ x x

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Here’s hoping it’s a massive slice x

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Good luck tomorrow. 🎂 xx

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Lost count the number of times I’ve said I wished we had a crystal ball. Given your previous experience, it’s an understatement to say this must be doubly daunting. Just - keep the faith. ❤️ All will be well my sweet lady xx

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I think you would have a shop full now! Crossing everything x

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I wish I could "love" this post not just "like" it. You're so brave Mrs Emu! I wish you & Mr Emu all the luck in the world you so deserve it. Xo

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Awww. I do t feel too brave but thank you x

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Cake all the way!

Everything you’re feeling is completely understandable and I’m sure you’re right that even when you see that little heartbeat tomorrow the worry won’t stop but we’re all here rooting for you and hoping it’s a cake day tomorrow. Xx

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You’d best try and eat cake on that plane in honour of me just in case! x

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Thinking about you both tomorrow. Your posts are always so well written. I wish you lots of luck tomorrow and hope that you will be having lots and lots of cake 🍰 xxx

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Thank you! Here’s hoping so too. x

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Wishing you lots of luck, it really is the worst isn’t it. I have everything crossed for you 🤞🏻 Xxx

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Someone said to me yesterday... wouldn’t it be good if we could look inside whenever we wanted... YES!

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🍰🤞🏼🍰🤞🏼🍰🤞🏼 xxx

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🤞🏼 X

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Hopefully the only choice will be which flavour cake to choose...Good luck xx

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I think that’s a harder choice than cake or gin! 😜😂😜 x

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Yep! I had a bakewell flavoured cake at a wedding yesterday which was delicious! X

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Looking forward to hearing what kind of cake you're ordering!!!

Good luck 🤞🤞🤞

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Thank you xx

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Cake cake cake cake!!! Best of luck for everything tomorrow xx

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Thanks. Cake I hope x

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Best of Luck! Fingers firmly crossed for you guys!

Xxx

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Thanks! x

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Here’s to a massive piece of (insert preferred flavour here) cake 🍰 tomorrow 💕 xx

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💕💕💕

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I don’t blame you for not wanting to go. These awful on the edge ‘Could be brilliant/Could be heart breaking’ moments, where there is such an excruciatingly thin line between the emotions it will bring, they can send us to utter despair or give us some huge hope for the future another, we all know them only too well on this journey... they seem able to kill a little bit inside us yet also somehow make us stronger all at the same time.

I think I can speak for everyone in saying we will all be there in spirit with you & Mr Emu in that dark room tomorrow, willing how ever many peas there are on with all our positive energy and hoping you’ll be tucking into one enormous slice of cake tomorrow. Having been able to hit the gin after my failed cycle last week it’s not all it’s cracked up to be. I wish you cake and lots of it. All the very very best x x

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Awww honey. Big hugs. Hope you’re enjoying both gin and cake filled with hope. I remember only too well hitting the gin last year... I do hope it’s cake. But I’m someways that just feels scarier. Thanks for checking in xx

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Gin to wash painkillers down, been a killer of a week, angry Endo always follows a BFN & boy is it angry at the mo. You know somethings wrong when you can’t face cake! Hopefully back on it soon. So there’s more for you and that can only mean a good thing for tomorrow’s scan! It’s going to be scary whatever, I get that totally, but hopefully one day we’ll get to bask in the glow of a happy ending and know it was worth all this trauma!! Thinking of you and wishing u all the luck in the world 😘

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Yay for cake!! Your gonna get that cake hun. Fingers and toes!! 👆👌😉🎂💕

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🤞🏼💕 x

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You will be fine tomorrow.

You be having the biggest slice of cake tomorrow. Xx

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Hope so x

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Wishing you cake- I hope it all goes really well. Lots of positive thoughts your way!!! 😘😘

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Thanks Minchoo x

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Praying for cake!! Xx

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Always cake! x

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Good luck for tomorrow; I can emphasise completely as I went through the horror of having a scan at 6 weeks to be told “ nothing was there” SHOCKED doesn’t quite cover it; even though I’d been bleeding heavily to hear was traumatic. It’s something you never forget and I think I would be too scared to scan early again.

I’m rambling just wanted to say I will be thinking of you and wishing you the best. Truly hope it’s cake you can have 🍰

Will be checking on your update ❤️❤️❤️ xoxo

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Yeah, that’s where I am. I just don’t want to scan. Big hugs honey x

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Thank you and good luck 😘xoxo

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Best of luck sweetheart xxx

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Thanks cloud x

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I remember that feeling well. Dreading scans because of my history. But the last time I’d dreaded it so much was the one we had when we’d finally got signed off at the clinic. I was a mess in reception before, shaky hands and lots of tears and the relief I felt when all was well, I can’t even describe how I felt! I really hope that you experience that relief tomorrow. Good luck. Ps, make it chocolate cake! 😉 xx

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Gosh. In a weird way it’s socreassuirng to hear other people’s stories of fear. Thanks Tugs xx

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be thinking of you xx

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Thanks vic. hope you’re doing ok x

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Keeping everything crossed for you xxxxxxxx

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Thank you star x

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Got to be cake! And lots of it. Hugs and love xx

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Here’s hoping x

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Will be thinking of you with everything crossed for 🍰 xx

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Thanks you x

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Chocolate cake! Fingers crossed.. xxx

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Good shout! x

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Urrgghhh my stomach hit the floor when I saw your post! I can only imagine a fragment of how nervous you both must be feeling! Positive thoughts and hugs sent your way!!😘 I'm hoping with all my heart you get to have a huge peice of cake🍰.....I'll be have a huge gin to celebrate for you guys!!🤞🍸xxx

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Can I choose the gin?! At least tomorrow it’ll be a lot clearer what the outcome was with gin or cake! x

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No, no, no.....the gin is definitely for me!!😂🤞🤞xxx

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I meant can I choose your gin! x

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Peas dont like gin!!😂xx

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All the very best for tomorrow - I hope it’s a big fat piece of 🍰 too x

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Thanks Steph x

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Wishing you all the luck for tomorrow and looking forward to seeing a picture of a gorgeous slice of cake 🍰🎂 😘xx

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Thanks star xx

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They do some gorgeous cakes is Asda so Best Buy yaself one. Fingers crossed for you tomorrow and I will be looking out for your post xx

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We’ll be stopping somewhere for coffee and cake if all is well! X

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Oh big fingers crossed for both. Soo hope it is good news and your peas are progressing well 🤞🤞🤞. Such a daunting time. I remember it well but think I knew deep down. So hopeful for u 🤞xx

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It’s the deep down feelings that get you the most eh? Those ones you can’t describe? xx

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Indeed. I remember crying the day before and not really knowing why but did once found out but at same time cud been extreme nerves or both. So hope it good news and lots of cake for u. U deserve it 🤞🤞

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Thanks you. Let’s see what the morning brings x

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Thinking of you... let us know how you get on! Have everything crossed for you... hope it’s a massive slice of cake! Xx

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Thanks Lauren x

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Wishing you all the luck for tomorrow xxx

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Thank you sweets x

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I am wishing you so much cake 🍰 I really hope this is you’re time, with everything you’ve been though it’s so deserved have everything crossed for you xxx ❤️

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Thank you xx

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Oh. please let you eat a great big slice of the tastiest, mouthwatering most delicious cake you have ever had.xx

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That would be lovely x

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Wishing you lots of luck for tomorrow, and I’m wishing for cake for you. I hope it goes really well for you xxx

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Not long now x

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Good luck! Xx

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Thanks Aleelilook x

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Hoping for cake Mrs Emu 🎂

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Thanks Autumn x

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I hope it’s cake

The best of luck x

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Thanks emma x

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Never have I seen so many people wish for someone to eat cake 😀. I hope, hope, hope tomorrow brings you the good news you so deserve xx

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There’s is about 12lbs of weight gain in cake here! x

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Hoping it’s cake all the way. 🍰

Good luck ❣️

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Eating ice cream now for good measure! x

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Why not! 🍦😘

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Oh my goodness, really really hope it’s cake and lots of it. Thinking of you!

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Thanks! x

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Definatly cake 🍰🎂 good luck for tomorrow xx

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🤞🏼 🍰 🤞🏼

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I have an idea... cake with gin (flavoured) icing.😀 All the best mrs emu, 🤞🍰

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Well that would be a treat! x

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Keeping everything crossed for you both for tomorrow x

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🤞🏼

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Wishing you all the best. Really hoping it’s your time. You so deserve it to be. x

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Thank you MrsC x

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Wishing you lots of luck tomorrow, here's to lots of cake!! 🍰🍰 X

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🤞🏼🍰 x

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Your strong mrs emu and deserve the whole cake 🎂 All the best xxx

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Thanksyou x

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Gosh I feel the same way and I haven’t even begun our next cycle!

You feel like you’ve failed before you’ve even started and although you know it could be an exhilarating end you don’t know if you really want to endure the rollercoaster ride leading up to it!

All those G forces take a toll on our bodies 🙃

Oh gosh I’m really hoping for good news for you tomorrow. I’ve already had far too much cake and not even an ounce of good news to show for it 🤣

Fingers crossedddd xxxxx

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You summed that up really well x

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Good luck and fingers crossed today!!

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Thanks x

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I’ve got everything crossed for you today. It’s a long scary road and hopefully today is one more milestone crossed off the list. It does get a little easier with each milestone you achieve but the ability to really enjoy pregnancy is just another one of those things that the cruel journey of infertility robs us of x

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Thanks Lynnr x

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Fingers and cake Mrs emu! Been thinking about you all day all the way from lil ole New Zealand 🤞🍰🤞🍰😘

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I’m hoping it’s cake today! Keeeping everything crossed for you 🤞🏻🍍🍀✨ xx

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Good luck Hun . Sending positive vibes and have everything crossed. Cake all the way 😘😘

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Good luck hoping today is a cake day for you xxx

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Thinking of you and hoping for good news 🤞🤞🤞.

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Good luck Hun xx

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Wishing you lots of luck for tomorrow x

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