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In 24 little hours Mr Emu will be driving his fractured ankle, 6 weeks and 6 days Mrs Emu for their viability scan.

This time last year we’d talked about maternity leave, names, life with children and were eagerly awaiting a scan in 4 days time. I’d got sore boobs, felt nauseous in the morning and was exhausted most afternoons.

Almost a year to the date and nothing like this has happened. I’ve bled, been quiet, refused to talk about being pregnant and positively wanted to scream at Mr Emu off for even looking at my breasts last night when he said they looked bigger. They’re not bigger. Well, they might be.

“I’m so excited for tomorrow’s scan!” - NOT. In fact I reckon that’s why it’s arrived so blinking quickly. I don’t want to go at all. I don’t want to be faced with a darken room, those words of failure, and the saddest audible gasp from Mr Emu ever. And if it has worked? Then bloody hell! More waiting and worrying and more months of it potentially going wrong. I don’t know.

Ah. Little peas. Or little pea. You’ve endured so much already. You’ve made it through the biggest of battles already. Little fighter/s. I already feel guilty for not wanting you to be put in me... and I feel guilty now for worrying if you are there tomorrow what pain you might cause later down the line. If you’re there tomorrow... can you just tell me to get a grip? A little sign over the scan monitor will do.

So I’ll check in tomorrow ladies (and gents!). What’ll be will be. It’ll be cake or Gin by tomorrow lunch. x

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Jonesjp

Wishing for cake hunny 🍰 I hope it goes really well and you see your little bean/s. Everything you’re feeling is so normal based on what you’ve been through. Will be thinking of you tomorrow and looking forward to hearing some wonderful news 🍀❤️ x x

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emu2016 in reply to Jonesjp

Here’s hoping it’s a massive slice x

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Jhenderson in reply to Jonesjp

Good luck tomorrow. 🎂 xx

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WeeMrsH

Lost count the number of times I’ve said I wished we had a crystal ball. Given your previous experience, it’s an understatement to say this must be doubly daunting. Just - keep the faith. ❤️ All will be well my sweet lady xx

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emu2016 in reply to WeeMrsH

I think you would have a shop full now! Crossing everything x

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Joanna1701

I wish I could "love" this post not just "like" it. You're so brave Mrs Emu! I wish you & Mr Emu all the luck in the world you so deserve it. Xo

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emu2016 in reply to Joanna1701

A I do t feel too brave but thank you x

Cake all the way!

Everything you’re feeling is completely understandable and I’m sure you’re right that even when you see that little heartbeat tomorrow the worry won’t stop but we’re all here rooting for you and hoping it’s a cake day tomorrow. Xx

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emu2016 in reply to

You’d best try and eat cake on that plane in honour of me just in case! x

Thinking about you both tomorrow. Your posts are always so well written. I wish you lots of luck tomorrow and hope that you will be having lots and lots of cake 🍰 xxx

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emu2016 in reply to

Thank you! Here’s hoping so too. x

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LauraGU

Wishing you lots of luck, it really is the worst isn’t it. I have everything crossed for you 🤞🏻 Xxx

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emu2016 in reply to LauraGU

Someone said to me yesterday... wouldn’t it be good if we could look inside whenever we wanted... YES!

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wemma83

🍰🤞🏼🍰🤞🏼🍰🤞🏼 xxx

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emu2016 in reply to wemma83

🤞🏼 X

Hopefully the only choice will be which flavour cake to choose...Good luck xx

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emu2016 in reply to

I think that’s a harder choice than cake or gin! 😜😂😜 x

in reply to emu2016

Yep! I had a bakewell flavoured cake at a wedding yesterday which was delicious! X

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lorraineb61

Looking forward to hearing what kind of cake you're ordering!!!

Good luck 🤞🤞🤞

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emu2016 in reply to lorraineb61

Thank you xx

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Mifkipi

Cake cake cake cake!!! Best of luck for everything tomorrow xx

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emu2016 in reply to Mifkipi

Thanks. Cake I hope x

Best of Luck! Fingers firmly crossed for you guys!

Xxx

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Thanks! x

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Lou7744

Here’s to a massive piece of (insert preferred flavour here) cake 🍰 tomorrow 💕 xx

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emu2016 in reply to Lou7744

💕💕💕

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Sez73

I don’t blame you for not wanting to go. These awful on the edge ‘Could be brilliant/Could be heart breaking’ moments, where there is such an excruciatingly thin line between the emotions it will bring, they can send us to utter despair or give us some huge hope for the future another, we all know them only too well on this journey... they seem able to kill a little bit inside us yet also somehow make us stronger all at the same time.

I think I can speak for everyone in saying we will all be there in spirit with you & Mr Emu in that dark room tomorrow, willing how ever many peas there are on with all our positive energy and hoping you’ll be tucking into one enormous slice of cake tomorrow. Having been able to hit the gin after my failed cycle last week it’s not all it’s cracked up to be. I wish you cake and lots of it. All the very very best x x

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emu2016 in reply to Sez73

Awww honey. Big hugs. Hope you’re enjoying both gin and cake filled with hope. I remember only too well hitting the gin last year... I do hope it’s cake. But I’m someways that just feels scarier. Thanks for checking in xx

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Sez73 in reply to emu2016

Gin to wash painkillers down, been a killer of a week, angry Endo always follows a BFN & boy is it angry at the mo. You know somethings wrong when you can’t face cake! Hopefully back on it soon. So there’s more for you and that can only mean a good thing for tomorrow’s scan! It’s going to be scary whatever, I get that totally, but hopefully one day we’ll get to bask in the glow of a happy ending and know it was worth all this trauma!! Thinking of you and wishing u all the luck in the world 😘

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Niki_B

Yay for cake!! Your gonna get that cake hun. Fingers and toes!! 👆👌😉🎂💕

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emu2016 in reply to Niki_B

🤞🏼💕 x

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Shivvyboom79

You will be fine tomorrow.

You be having the biggest slice of cake tomorrow. Xx

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emu2016 in reply to Shivvyboom79

Hope so x

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Minchoo

Wishing you cake- I hope it all goes really well. Lots of positive thoughts your way!!! 😘😘

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emu2016 in reply to Minchoo

Thanks Minchoo x

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Sarahlou01

Praying for cake!! Xx

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emu2016 in reply to Sarahlou01

Always cake! x

Good luck for tomorrow; I can emphasise completely as I went through the horror of having a scan at 6 weeks to be told “ nothing was there” SHOCKED doesn’t quite cover it; even though I’d been bleeding heavily to hear was traumatic. It’s something you never forget and I think I would be too scared to scan early again.

I’m rambling just wanted to say I will be thinking of you and wishing you the best. Truly hope it’s cake you can have 🍰

Will be checking on your update ❤️❤️❤️ xoxo

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emu2016 in reply to

Yeah, that’s where I am. I just don’t want to scan. Big hugs honey x

in reply to emu2016

Thank you and good luck 😘xoxo

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72cloud9

Best of luck sweetheart xxx

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emu2016 in reply to 72cloud9

Thanks cloud x

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Tugsgirl

I remember that feeling well. Dreading scans because of my history. But the last time I’d dreaded it so much was the one we had when we’d finally got signed off at the clinic. I was a mess in reception before, shaky hands and lots of tears and the relief I felt when all was well, I can’t even describe how I felt! I really hope that you experience that relief tomorrow. Good luck. Ps, make it chocolate cake! 😉 xx

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emu2016 in reply to Tugsgirl

Gosh. In a weird way it’s socreassuirng to hear other people’s stories of fear. Thanks Tugs xx

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vic77

be thinking of you xx

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emu2016 in reply to vic77

Thanks vic. hope you’re doing ok x

Keeping everything crossed for you xxxxxxxx

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emu2016 in reply to

Thank you star x

Got to be cake! And lots of it. Hugs and love xx

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emu2016 in reply to

Here’s hoping x

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LHow81

Will be thinking of you with everything crossed for 🍰 xx

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emu2016 in reply to LHow81

Thanks you x

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Jenjen84

Chocolate cake! Fingers crossed.. xxx

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emu2016 in reply to Jenjen84

Good shout! x

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Cinderella5

Urrgghhh my stomach hit the floor when I saw your post! I can only imagine a fragment of how nervous you both must be feeling! Positive thoughts and hugs sent your way!!😘 I'm hoping with all my heart you get to have a huge peice of cake🍰.....I'll be have a huge gin to celebrate for you guys!!🤞🍸xxx

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emu2016 in reply to Cinderella5

Can I choose the gin?! At least tomorrow it’ll be a lot clearer what the outcome was with gin or cake! x

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Cinderella5 in reply to emu2016

No, no, no.....the gin is definitely for me!!😂🤞🤞xxx

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emu2016 in reply to Cinderella5

I meant can I choose your gin! x

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Cinderella5 in reply to emu2016

Peas dont like gin!!😂xx

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Steadman80

All the very best for tomorrow - I hope it’s a big fat piece of 🍰 too x

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emu2016 in reply to Steadman80

Thanks Steph x

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Star9

Wishing you all the luck for tomorrow and looking forward to seeing a picture of a gorgeous slice of cake 🍰🎂 😘xx

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emu2016 in reply to Star9

Thanks star xx

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Gillyc1

They do some gorgeous cakes is Asda so Best Buy yaself one. Fingers crossed for you tomorrow and I will be looking out for your post xx

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emu2016 in reply to Gillyc1

We’ll be stopping somewhere for coffee and cake if all is well! X

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Dreamingofbaby

Oh big fingers crossed for both. Soo hope it is good news and your peas are progressing well 🤞🤞🤞. Such a daunting time. I remember it well but think I knew deep down. So hopeful for u 🤞xx

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emu2016 in reply to Dreamingofbaby

It’s the deep down feelings that get you the most eh? Those ones you can’t describe? xx

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Dreamingofbaby in reply to emu2016

Indeed. I remember crying the day before and not really knowing why but did once found out but at same time cud been extreme nerves or both. So hope it good news and lots of cake for u. U deserve it 🤞🤞

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emu2016 in reply to Dreamingofbaby

Thanks you. Let’s see what the morning brings x

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Lauren0813

Thinking of you... let us know how you get on! Have everything crossed for you... hope it’s a massive slice of cake! Xx

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emu2016 in reply to Lauren0813

Thanks Lauren x

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Sweets1

Wishing you all the luck for tomorrow xxx

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emu2016 in reply to Sweets1

Thank you sweets x

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kelsbels88

I am wishing you so much cake 🍰 I really hope this is you’re time, with everything you’ve been though it’s so deserved have everything crossed for you xxx ❤️

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emu2016 in reply to kelsbels88

Thank you xx

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precioce

Oh. please let you eat a great big slice of the tastiest, mouthwatering most delicious cake you have ever had.xx

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emu2016 in reply to precioce

That would be lovely x

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Emma04

Wishing you lots of luck for tomorrow, and I’m wishing for cake for you. I hope it goes really well for you xxx

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emu2016 in reply to Emma04

Not long now x

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Aleelilook

Good luck! Xx

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emu2016 in reply to Aleelilook

Thanks Aleelilook x

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Autumnmoon

Hoping for cake Mrs Emu 🎂

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emu2016 in reply to Autumnmoon

Thanks Autumn x

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Emmad781

I hope it’s cake

The best of luck x

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emu2016 in reply to Emmad781

Thanks emma x

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Kyell2

Never have I seen so many people wish for someone to eat cake 😀. I hope, hope, hope tomorrow brings you the good news you so deserve xx

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emu2016 in reply to Kyell2

There’s is about 12lbs of weight gain in cake here! x

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Manesp

Hoping it’s cake all the way. 🍰

Good luck ❣️

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emu2016 in reply to Manesp

Eating ice cream now for good measure! x

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Manesp in reply to emu2016

Why not! 🍦😘

Oh my goodness, really really hope it’s cake and lots of it. Thinking of you!

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emu2016 in reply to

Thanks! x

Definatly cake 🍰🎂 good luck for tomorrow xx

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emu2016 in reply to

🤞🏼 🍰 🤞🏼

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Rach82

I have an idea... cake with gin (flavoured) icing.😀 All the best mrs emu, 🤞🍰

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emu2016 in reply to Rach82

Well that would be a treat! x

Keeping everything crossed for you both for tomorrow x

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🤞🏼

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_MrsC

Wishing you all the best. Really hoping it’s your time. You so deserve it to be. x

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emu2016 in reply to _MrsC

Thank you MrsC x

Wishing you lots of luck tomorrow, here's to lots of cake!! 🍰🍰 X

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emu2016 in reply to

🤞🏼🍰 x

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strong-girl

Your strong mrs emu and deserve the whole cake 🎂 All the best xxx

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emu2016 in reply to strong-girl

Thanksyou x

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Saya85

Gosh I feel the same way and I haven’t even begun our next cycle!

You feel like you’ve failed before you’ve even started and although you know it could be an exhilarating end you don’t know if you really want to endure the rollercoaster ride leading up to it!

All those G forces take a toll on our bodies 🙃

Oh gosh I’m really hoping for good news for you tomorrow. I’ve already had far too much cake and not even an ounce of good news to show for it 🤣

Fingers crossedddd xxxxx

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emu2016 in reply to Saya85

You summed that up really well x

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Faithful06

Good luck and fingers crossed today!!

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emu2016 in reply to Faithful06

Thanks x

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Lynnr54

I’ve got everything crossed for you today. It’s a long scary road and hopefully today is one more milestone crossed off the list. It does get a little easier with each milestone you achieve but the ability to really enjoy pregnancy is just another one of those things that the cruel journey of infertility robs us of x

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emu2016 in reply to Lynnr54

Thanks Lynnr x

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Niki_B

Fingers and cake Mrs emu! Been thinking about you all day all the way from lil ole New Zealand 🤞🍰🤞🍰😘

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Catlady2013

I’m hoping it’s cake today! Keeeping everything crossed for you 🤞🏻🍍🍀✨ xx

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nikki85xx

Good luck Hun . Sending positive vibes and have everything crossed. Cake all the way 😘😘

Good luck hoping today is a cake day for you xxx

Thinking of you and hoping for good news 🤞🤞🤞.

Good luck Hun xx

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sunshineyellow

Wishing you lots of luck for tomorrow x

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