This is my first post, a week ago I got a BFN from our first round at IVF. How has everyone coped with this? I had a few days off work, but finding it hard to concentrate and on the edge of tears I feel like we are alone, everyone else I know seems to have kids or are pregnant or both. I’m finding it hard. There were lots of positives with the IVF, we have 6 frozen embryos. Now waiting again for an appointment with the consultant to find out what happens next. Does anyone know what normally happens?
It sort of feels unreal, all the build up and then nothing. So disappointing as I’m sure you are all aware. My husband said a couple of days ago “it’s the hope that kills you”, I’m really feeling that at the moment. We have to have hope but it’s hard when it ends in nothing.
Thanks x
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I am sorry for your loss, i recently gone through the same , first ivf failed. Before that i had 3 miscarriages, one being normal the other two are ectopic and no one told that there is something wrong with me. All the tests came out normal. Now i dint know what to do. I am in the same position as u r. I am just passing my days and thinking i will be getting what i want. After review with doctor on failed ivf, he said it could be because of low progesterone in body. The next ivf he suggested for progesterone injections .
Thanks, it’s so hard. I’ve had one ectopic before now. Since then they have found a cyst on one ovary, but I’m still down as unexplained infertility. It just sucks. Waiting is so hard. I hope your next ivf works for you.
I’m so sorry to hear that your first round failed. We were in your position in February after our first and to say we were devastated was an understatement. Take time to grieve and be good to yourself and each other. it does get easier I promise.. ❤️
We are now in the second week of our FET 2WW and all of the hope is back but this time, balanced out with a lot of uncertainty now knowing from experience that it’s not a dead set to work.. I will never give up hope tho 🤞🏻
Your in a good position when you decide to carry on as 6 frozen embryos is a really good number..
Take care and I hope you start to feel better soon.. xxxx
I know what your going through hun. Had my BFN a couple weeks ago after my first ivf...i was devastated. But unlike you we had NO frosties after 11 of my eggs fertìlising!! Just totally devasted...you are lucky to have frosties as in 3 months time...i have to do it allllll over again I wish you all the best with your lucky little frosties xxxx
I'm really sorry your 1st time didn't work it is so hard and you need to give yourself time to come to a place of acceptance but don't give up all hope many people have had success after a couple of tries and you have your little frosties sending love and best wishes to you x
Hmmm its hard to say really, on our first cycle all of my embryos died before tranafer. I drank lots of wine and we booked some time away, treated ourselves to nice food and cried a lot! I think having something to look forward helps, or it does me and also planning for my next cycle helped too. It may not feel so great but try to focus on the fact you have 6 frosties, that's an amazing number! Sending hugs and it does get better.xx
Sounds like a great idea! With regards to when to expect your period, I was 5 days after stopping meds but unfortunately there is no written rule....everyone is different!xx
Should be imminently, don’t wish to give you false hope but have you thought of re taking your pregnancy test? I always knew my BFN before I even took the test as I got period straight away...everyone’s different xxx
Sending you lots of best wishes, I find it very hard to cope with the BFN , thinking of you
Sorry to hear about your failed cycle, 6I had a failed cycle in February also and was devastated I felt the first few weeks after it I was so down and couldn't pick myself up, we had 5 frozen embryos and at the point of it failing I couldn't even think about starting again, as each day past I found myself feeling better. I had a frozen transfer yesterday and feeling much better this cycle, a feel the frozen cycle is a lot less harsh on your body, I'm also having acupuncture which I think is helping me relax.
Wish you well in the future and I hope you begin to feel better soon, you will get there 😘 X
Thanks, I’ve had a lot of accupuncture as well. It definitely helped me feel more relaxed.
I just want to get the appointment to see the doctor now so we can get on with the next step.
Always seem to be waiting.
Hope your frozen cycle continues to go well and it is all positive for you.
Hey our 1st Ivf cycle wasn't successful either and despite a really good amh level, egg and sperm quality our clinic only managed 1 embryo for freezing.
I was prepared for the 1st transfer not to work - but super upset that we had such a poor result for freezing.
They seem to have understimulated me which was very frustrating.
I felt ok during the process - but found it hard during the results and towards the end of the tww.
We went away for a few days after and I flew home to spend time with my parents, even though they have no idea we are going through ivf.
I got made redundant so have not had work as a distraction - not sure if that is a good thing or made things worse.
I feel positive about our frozen cycle and have come to terms with the fact we have to go again with the full process. Because of my age we have to try to fund it privately if the frozen transfer doesn't work - no idea how....
Just wanted to share my experience and let you know you are not alone.
Try to stay positive you have lots of potential in the freezer.
Thanks, I am feeling slightly better, it’s like a rollercoaster of emotions!
That sounds very frustrating that they under stimulated you. You’ve had a tough time, well done on staying positive. Good luck for the future xxx
Our first cycle failed and we had a few embryos to freeze. I remember booking us into a steak restaurant and having cocktails. I leaned on my support network and just took each day as it came. And held onto hope.
We were lucky that our follow up was pretty quick and the next cycle started a couple of months later- a frozen transfer. The consultant suggested a few different things to try this time- an endometrial scratch, embryo glue and intramuscular progesterone injections. I’m now 6 weeks pregnant- obviously very early days.
I started keeping a diary during my journey- I found it helpful to reflect on things. You will get through this. Surround yourself with people that love you and support you xx
I’m sorry to hear it didn’t work. Pretty much 6months ago today I had my first cycle which ended in a BFN and it’s really hard. Just give yourself time, treat yourself and try have some you time away from ivf.
We had a follow up with the clinic and they changed a few things, they said the first time is a bit of trial to see how things worked. My second cycle has now just ended in a BFP. Its very early days but 6 months ago, I would never have pictured it. Big hugs xxx 😘
Thanks, just looking forward now, putting the BFN behind us. Congrats on your positive, it’s good to hear these positive stories. Hope it all continues well for you x
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I feel like we are alone, everyone else I know seems to have kids or are pregnant or both. I’m finding it hard. There were lots of positives with the IVF, we have 6 frozen embryos. Now waiting again for an appointment with the consultant to find out what happens next. Does anyone know what normally happens?
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