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Insensitive husband and hormones don't mix!

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Was having a fairly chilled night cuddled up on the sofa with my husband watching TV, only I'm getting up every 2 mins to go to the toilet as it's the first day of my period and is slightly heavier than has been normal for me the last couple of months. After my 100th visit to the toilet I lean in for a cuddle and say to him I can't get comfy and I'm bleeding heavy and then he says to me - if it was men having periods they wouldn't make such a fuss about it!!! Just his way of trying to be make a bit of a joke knowing full well if this was happening to him he's think he was dying!!!! But it just sent me off the deep end, I flew into a rage, screamed at him he has no idea what I'm going through- it's not just the bleeding and the cramping it's the knowing I'm not pregnant and what feels like is no chance of getting pregnant and we can't even try because on top of the lack of getting pregnant right now, efforts to try will need to go on hold while we move back home to save up a deposit for a house as our home that we've been renting is going up for sale next week.

I know it's probably a combination of my hormones and the knowing I'm going to have to go through this every month and be no further forward in making our baby happen for at least another 6 months, I just thought he'd be a little more sensitive to not belittle how I'm feeling, now I feel bad for going off the deep end, he'll probably end up sleeping in the spare room now.

have I totally over reacted?????

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Defo not!!! I ripped 3 of my oh shirts in a similar situation!!!

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Glad I'm not the only one - don't feel like a psycho now lol

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Men are so bloody insensitive sometimes. I think they just don’t get how ruled we are by our hormones and how strong that urge is to have a baby. I almost used to have a little grieving process every month I wasn’t pregnant. It doesn’t sound like it came from a place of malice though. Just a daft bloke not knowing what to say and putting his foot in it xxx

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