I don't know why this always happens but it does. I told him to go stay somewhere else at least. I'm 3dp5dt. He left before it got too bad, I hope it didn't ruin our chances. We got our BFP the time that I went to stay at a hotel and now I'm afraid it's all over for this cycle. I feel devastated.
Edit: I guess he does it because he doesn't know how to process his feelings. He was raised by robots. When he's angry or scared he just makes the other person upset, so at least someone is expressing feelings, rather than just say "I'm feeling anxious about this." What's hard is that he's extremely good at this, pushing all my buttons in whatever way he can. But whenever there is a high stakes situation where I need his support, he always lets me down.
(NOTE: this is not an invitation to tell me during my TWW that my marriage will never be good and I should leave, ffs, I'm just trying to get through TWW.)