Wibbly wobbly wonder !

[jengi]

Who remembers them? I loved them, do they still exist?

Right ladies, in under two weeks I will be having my baseline scan to start IVF/ICSI cycle However, i'm having a bit of wobbly worry week. The consultant has told us we have a 10% chance of this being successful and informed us that if we went with a donor egg we would have a 50% chance, this was even written in the letter she sent out to us. Has anyone else been given this low a success rate?

Last night I told my mum what we are about to embark on, I was hesitant to tell her as she lives in another country and I didn't want too worry her. During our chat, she told me that her menopause started in her early 40s.....my heart sank. I realise that I may have left having a family too late and feeling very frustrated & sad. I'm trying so hard not to stress about everything but who am I kidding, i am stressing. I feel totally on edge all of the time. I'm struggling to concentrate at work so I'm falling behind with my workload which is making everything worse.

My nephews (age 3 & 6) come to visit this weekend and I can't wait to see them and spend the entire weekend with them. They live in a different country and I miss out on so much being so far away. I feel so sad about that so it'll be difficult to say bye to them on Monday.

I want this so bad that my heart aches and to be honest the uncertainty that lies ahead of us right now feels damn scary. Xx

[Hidden]

Hey lovely have you had an AMH test done? That will give you your egg reserves and a good way of finding out your success rates. Mine very low .3. We were told success rate very very low and to go for donor eggs. I think if low not only do you produce less eggs but the eggs a poor quality and can lead to other issues. As this whole thing is expensive and I am 42 we went straight for donor eggs. Took me a bit to get my head round it all but I will grow baby if it happens it will be my blood and I will deliver it. We haven’t told anyone about using donor eggs that’s our preference. It is such a journey sweetie. Good luck xxxx

[Asweetpea in reply to Hidden]

That’s exactly what happened to me. And exactly how I feel about having a donor egg. I am giving it life so it feels like mine. Haven’t really had a problem coming to terms with it. I think I new the situation before we even saw the consultant. I am 41 and haven’t had a proper period for months. Am currently 4.5 wks pregnant.xxxx

[Hidden in reply to Asweetpea]

Brilliant news for you my lovely. I am glad we went straight to donor eggs now although i wasn’t at the time but at my age I want the best possible chances with as little stress. No one can prepare you for the rollercoaster and when I read about the lovely ladies going through endless egg collections sometimes with no great outcome I don’t think I could cope with that on top of the stress and emotion of transfer etc. Good luck with your pregnancy I truly hope all goes well. Big hugs xxx

[Asweetpea in reply to Hidden]

Have to say I’m pleased we took this route too. It is such a hard journey. Still feel like I still have a long way to go, but everyday feels like a step in the right direction.

I was conscious that our ages were against us, OH is 47! And the cost implications. We aren’t entitled to nhs funding. It felt a bit like now or never. So wanted to give ourself the best possible chance of success.

Wish you all the luck too.xx

[Hidden in reply to Asweetpea]

Look forward to following your journey too. My oh is 51. Seems like we are in the same journey. I have followed you to see how things go for you. Fingers crossed xxx

[jengi in reply to Asweetpea]

Thanks Snuggles144 and Asweetpea. My AMH was 1.4, I'm 38 and my husband is 49. It is so reassuring to hear all of your individual stories, thanks for sharing. Asweetpea best of luck with your pregnancy. Good luck Snuggles144 with your journey. I will follow you both and probably be back in touch with some more questions about donor eggs. Hugs to you both Xx

[Lizzielizzielizzie]

Hi jengi,

Different circumstances but we were given a 17.5% chance of having a viable embryo so not massively high. Basically only one in six of our embryos are free from serious chromosome issues that are not compatible with life. We had our third round of ivf (icsi) after knowing this fact and so we had our embryos tested. Miraculously, one of the four they tested was viable and I’ve just had an 8 week scan where we saw our baby’s heartbeat. We are not out of the woods yet, but all the way through the process, my husband took the positive attitude that a chance is a chance- and he was right. A 10% chance is better than no chance at all. My consultant kept repeating how lucky we were. One in ten women in your circumstances will get pregnant and it could be you who is that one. 🤞🏻🤞🏻🤞🏻

[jengi in reply to Lizzielizzielizzie]

Thanks Lizzie, amazing journey, best of luck with your pregnancy. Everything crossed for you. Thanks for the supporting words. I’m trying so hard to remain positive Xx

[Cinderella5]

I got given a 5% success rate after trying a couple of cycles at the age of 39. Fortunately we were already considering DE as we know someone else that had to do this due to early menopause so it was already on our radar. It was still a huge decision to make as nobody wants to have to give up on their on eggs but after a couple of failure it was the way forward for us! You just never know your luck so go into this with some hope and take each step one day at a time. I know other ladies who got pregnancy with lower AMH levels than mine etc so there's always a chance!xx

[jengi in reply to Cinderella5]

Cinderella, thanks for sharing and I hope your journey has a happy ending. Hugs Xx

[Cinderella5 in reply to jengi]

Thank you and good luck to you too!xx