Any advice re friends baby shower

[Hands2015]

So my longest friend is pregnant and I've managed to pretty much avoid her which I feel horrible about but every time I see them I just think how can it be so easy for you !!!

I don't think I will as upset when the baby is born cos we will be parents one way or another ( natural/ ivf/ adoption) but it just seems to come so easy for people to make a baby

I really really want to be happy ( which I am but also sad for myself- sorry if that sounds selfish) and supportive and she has invited me to her baby shower which I would love to go to but the only way I can see myself getting through it is being blind drunk lol ( honestly only joking) I think it's harder cos it's male and female party and I find it really hard to see my friends boyfriend happy about becoming a dad when this is something I can't seem to do for my husband

Sorry for the long post probably needed to get that off my chest haha but any advice would be greatly appreciated

[Tugsgirl]

We all know how you feel. You have to do what’s right for you. If you don’t feel like you’re going to be able to get through the shower then please don’t go xx

[Joanna1701]

Definitely agree with Tugsgirl

I've been too so many baby showers & I always come away just feeling shit

Mum said to me that they didn't have that "american crap showers" in her day & it's just a gimmick & sometimes it's best just to not go & catch up with your friend one-on-one at another time xo