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Miscarriage confirmed :(

Had a scan today that confirmed we have miscarried at some point in the last few weeks. We should have been 7 weeks tomorrow.

I’m feeling ok though - I’m obviously sad and disappointed that our future family isn’t as close as we thought but I feel ok. Quite logical and focusing on statistics of success etc.

Is this normal? Did anyone else respond like this ? Did it creep up on you or were you able to cope pretty well with it?

Xx

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Sorry to read this, after my first MMC i coped a little like that and couldn’t wait to start my FET after that was unsuccessful I think it all hit me and I started to grieve.

I think we all cope in different ways and you’ll find what works for you xx

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Hi LInds150, I have had a missed miscarriage early February. I went for my first scan and we were told that our baby stopped growing at around 6 weeks and a miscarriage would follow. When I asked the ladies from this forum, who have been through this unfortunate experience, how long does it take to emotionally recover they told that it is just up to the individual.

For me it is still very hard, even though I have been told by my GP that a misacarriage can happen quite frequently. However, I still struggle emotionally. There are some good and some bad days. There are some days that I just cry and some days that I am smiling but always feeling vulnerable emotionally.... Maybe this is due to the hormones, I do not know.

I should have been now 16 weeks.

Lots of love x x

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Grieve comes in different ways for all of us hun, just go with how your feeling there's no right or wrong way. I'm so sorry for your loss big hugs 💗🤗😘

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So sorry to read this. Everyone processes their feelings differently when experiencing a loss. Some at the time,some later down the line. As AllWeNeedIsLove says there is no right or wrong way. Take care of yourself. Trusting you get all the support and love you need at this time. Sending you a hug.xo

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This is such sad news... you sound very strong... I imagine you'll have good and bad days. But your positive outlook will get you through and you sound focused on keeping on going and that's the best thing you can do... thinking of you xx

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Sorry to hear that! Everyone deals with things differently so just take it a day at a time and remember there is no right or wrong. Sending hugs xx

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Am so sorry to read this. I found that as each day passed, I grew a little stronger. But as the other ladies have said, we all deal with stuff in different ways 💕 xx

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So sorry to hear this Hun! Sending huge hugs 💕

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I am truly sorry for your loss. It’s so awful when it’s such a wanted pregnancy. 💔 there are no words for it 😭

I lost a baby very early last year and it’s been over 6 months and I’m still devastated by the loss. I’m dreading what would’ve been my due date early next month 💔

I think time is a big healer and although you will never get over it you will learn with it. It’s a day at a time , it will get better you will get through this 💗 if you find it too much do ask your Gp for counselling.

Just remember we are all here for you 🤗💗 xoxo

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So sorry to hear this. May God Make you stronger. Next time you will be fine x

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So sorry to hear this, sending u big hugs x

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I'm really sorry to read this. Everyone is different and will handle it differently. I was devastated with my first mmc felt upset for weeks, this time round I lost my nan and had mmc all within 3 weeks so has been an emotional time but I'm dealing with this one better than the one a few months ago. Tho I do feel like I'm on autopilot some days. Looking ahead to my next round helps keep me focused! Just take it one day at a time and be kind to yourself. Big hugs and all the best for your journey xxxx

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Hey I’m sorry to hear this 😔 I’m in the same boat as you!

I had my first scan last Monday with my ivf clinic and they told me that it wasn’t viable pregnancy! So I had to go to my EPU unit near me, So was scanned again on the Wednesday when they told me they saw heart beat 🤔 but it was a strong heartbeat 🙈 so tomorrow is my third scan! I’m emotional drained wounding could it be ok or am I just wishing on a star!

Are you bleeding or anything? As I feel totally also!

Sending love x

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Hey

I’ve found miscarriage to be rather less devastating than I actually thought it would be. My first miscarriage did hit me emotionally later, but I was expecting it to and I kind of rode the waves. The due date was hard though (as it coincided with my birthday). And I found the subsequent ivf bfn very hard but that was partly because it was starting to look like “my fault” that we don’t have children. We have since found out that’s not the case.

The second miscarriage was really not that bad to be honest. My emotions were strange for a few weeks as I think the hormones were settling down but it wasn’t so bad at all. To me it’s just cells at that point (I had one miscarriage at six weeks and one at seven weeks 5 days), so I did not feel that I’d lost a baby, I had lost a pregnancy. At least 50% of my friends and family have had a miscarriage, if not more, so I had lots of people to talk to about it. It’s true that everyone is different just as every pregnancy is different and I think if I wanted to be upset about them then I could, but it’s not a scab I want to pick, as it were. So please don’t worry if you’re not as upset as some other people are, it hits everyone differently.

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