would welcome any advice from people faced with similar scenario. We were all set up for starting ICSI this month and then my partners already poor semen count - less than 100,000 got worse and we failed to get any sample To freeze. The options now are to give up, attempt surgical extraction or use donor sperm. My husband is needle phobic and wants children because I do but would be equally happy without. .... so persuading him to have surgery is going to be difficult. He doesn’t want to use a donor. I am 41 and devastated at the thought that we might give up without trying.