Most of you who know me know that I often come here to write because one day I hope to share these posts of our journey on a blog. I like to write letters, rants, questions, worries, funny stories and my favourite posts... the ones of good news and hope. Today is not the latter. Today is a letter to whoever can't control the thunder storms of life.
Dear weather man,
Is it not enough that you deal torrential rainfall in our lives making what seems to be so easy for many people, to pop out children left right and centre, the hardest task in the world for us?
I'm writing this letter to you from a train, rushing home from London to Mr Emu, with tears streaming down my face. If it weren't enough that his heart pours for me every time he sees me sad about how cr*ppy my eggs are... now his heart pours because you've brought an earthquake to our lives. Mr Emu's mum has lung cancer. Where is the justice? She is my second Mum. She makes the best meat and potato pie and she is a great drinking partner. She is my IVF rock. She lies to our family when I need to inject. She always has decaf coffee in and she demands I bake her cake to cheer her up. She gives the best hugs and as already demonstrated for the last 7 years she is the perfect grandmother.
She wants chocolate cake now. She can have as much as she wants.
So Mr weather man... can we make an agreement? You've kept dealing sh*t year on year... right now, I don't know how this will effect our treatment and being out of the country. Or whether we'll delay it; because of your blind ignorance and extreme ease in being capable to deal horrific weather without even a warning (that you so easily issue for snow which may as well be icing sugar mixed with dishwater). But if we do go ahead... is there any chance we can make an agreement now that you'll be kind? Bring sunlight? Bring that calming feeling of warmth as the sun hits your face? Because right now, I don't think any of us could take any more heartache this year.
In fact, there are hundreds of ladies here who would like some of your better weather this year.
I'll even make you chocolate cake.
Mrs Emu
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Oh I’m so sorry, I have tears running down my cheeks. This is such difficult news for you and your family. I truly hope that some rays of sunshine find their way into your lives. Thinking of you and sending you love 💕 xx
Im so sorry Emu, just when you have gotten your plan together you both get another massive smack in the face. I have no words really, just know that Im thinking of you and Mr Emu at this difficult time and sending much love and hugs to you both!xx
So sorry to read this, 2 weeks after my MMC last year we found out my FIL’s cancer had spread like yourselves another blow to deal with. I hope the sun shines for us all soon xx
Having lost both of my in-laws to the horrible disease in 2017 I feel for you. Hopefully she can beat this and have a happy ending and allow her to see and join in your happy ending when it comes xxx☀️☀️☀️
I’m so sorry to hear about mr emu’s Mum. I’m sat on a plane with a big tear in my eye reading it (it’s not taken off yet, I’m not breaking rules). Life can be so cruel.
Oh Em I’m so so sorry to read this. I don’t have your gift with words but wanted to let you know I’m thinking of you both and hoping you get your sunshine and rainbow. Xx
Glad I made you smile! Sorry have been MIA life has just been a little too hectic and trying to prioritise a bit. Will PM you with an update. Sending lots of love. Xx
I too have a lovely mother in law and I'm so sorry to hear this awful news xxx beautifully written post - keep on blogging and writing, it pours out of you as easily as the rain falls xxx
So sorry to hear this news - keep as positive as you can for your mother in law, she sounds like a lovely woman, wishing you all, as a family, the strength to support one another at this incredibly difficult time. Xxx
Oh this is just so awful, I can not imagine what you both are going through, crying just thinking about you! I really hope your mother in law sees the day you can give her that positive test, that will be the hug you remember forever! I’m keeping you in my thoughts and sending you all the positive sunny vibes I can muster! Look after each other and give you mother in law the best times and memories of her life x x x x
We all feel like at times but then we have to pull ourselves together and think we’re on this journey for a reason! It has never or will ever be your fault! Sometimes life is just cruel and feeling sad/mad is the only way to deal with the blows!! Thinking of you all x x x
Oh I’m so sorry. How utterly awful! Life does seem incredibly hard at times and you do wonder why. The only way I can reason it out myself is that when really bad stuff happens, it makes us a bit stronger inside. Thinking of you both. You’ll be in my prayers. Xxx
Yeah! That’s a good expression. I’m ok thanks actually. I feel more like myself these days. It still is hard and I still get incredibly envious of people and incredibly irritated by people moaning about how crap parenthood is but generally I’m beginning to accept that my life will be childless. I’m enjoying time with Mr C and joined the gym. Working on my body image has helped. I should be thankful to the woman who body shamed me as it motivated me to lose the weight I gained through the process. Still a way to go but I’m getting there. There is light at the end of the tunnel. It might not be the bright light I’d hoped for but a light is a light and it’s better than being in the dark. xxx
Terrible news Really sorry to hear about your mother in law. She sounds like a wonderful and special person. Trusting and praying that she will be able to fight this and recover. Xo
We just had laparoscopy and planning to do next ivf in January... and my FiL was diagnosed with terminal lung cancer with 6 months to live!
Thankfully later he was diagnosed with advanced renal cancer that had spread to the lungs, but his health has failed massively with medication and MIL is very ill too. Hubby is literally the only well person in the house and I can barely look after myself and make myself well again for the ivf.
So crazy- but I do believe things happen for a reason and more often have a way of working out themselves.
Sometimes it has its silver lining also- it helps you to focus on what’s important, your priorities and that life goes on no matter what!
Just keep marching! (Or jump in the puddles of rain the thunderstorms in life bring- with wellies of course!) 🙌🏻
In some strange way, your post has brought me some comfort. The weather man is sh*t to all. Here's hoping a not so difficult time for you and your family. Keep strong lady xx
So sorry to hear of your sad news, all I can say is look after each other. I hope it will soon shine for you and your family. Xxx
Hey Emu, I am new to this group and having just read your post. I am currently trying to hold back the tears on my commute home (the few beers I’ve had aren’t helping!). I feel your pain so much, I lost my father in law to the horrible disease 2 years ago. He was the father I never really had and broke my heart to see what he went through. You have an amazing talent for writing and just wanted to say that I am thinking of you and Mr Emu and wishing you all the best with your journey. You will always be in my thoughts and more so now I am going to follow you on this group. You have given me inspiration and courage to start and continue this journey ahead of me xx
Awww thanks Jen. No tears from you though... your own hormonal rollercoaster is just around the corner! In laws can be blessings to us all; sorry to hear about your FIL.
You will rock your journey and those injections... good luck! I’ll be watching out for your updates xx
you are so very strong to have written that and I am sure the support below will be some comfort to you..life is just so so cruel and there is no fairness in any of this. .I am sending so much love to you all xxxx
Sorry to read this it is so hard. Just but wanted to let you know I am in a similar position as my mum has an incurable brain tumour . We found out in July just approaching our first ivf cycle. Think it’s fair to say life is difficult in many ways at the moment. It’s Sucking the life out of me ! But don’t ever give up hope for your mil’s health or your baby to be . Hope is all we have & it’s definitely keeping me above water. Wishing you all the best xxx
So sorry to hear that. Thinking of you all. Sending sunshine dust to you ☀️☀️
I'm so sorry to hear this. I often see you posts on here, and you are so arm, funny and caring. Life is so unfair at times, and it sounds like you need a break. I hope your 2nd Mom gets better really fast, and that your next IVF round goes well xx
Oh Mrs Emu, I have been off this site for a while and so I have only just caught up on your posts. You and your OH have had such a rough time and I am so very very sorry. I can't imagine how you feel right now, but I just wanted to say that you are both very brave and I am hoping for better weather for all three of you. xx
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