Emotionally broken

[Riakennedy]

At this point I just don't know what to do we have been trying for 14 months now with 0 pregnancies we have tried everything I haven't had fertility testing I'm terrified I have been to the doctors and been told I can't have ivf ever that's off the table because my husband has a child it means I'm disqualified I'm scared that if I have tests and my only option is ivf I will resent my husband I don't know what to do

[TTCs]

Hey Riakennedy, its very stressful and upsetting trying month after month to no avail, we can all on here empathise with u on that! I would encourage u to go to ur GP for a referral to a fertility clinic to get tested. There are other avenues that can be tried for alot of people that arent just IVF depending on the circumstances. IVF is rly the last medical route they can try so u may have other options such as IUI or taking clomid etc. If u do have to have IVF there are some ways to make it cheaper, though still expensive, such as going abroad. Though il admit i dont know full details im aware of other people taking this option. Wishing u all the best xx

[Newqgirl1]

I agree with TTC but just wanted to add I know it feels like 14 months is forever when you’re waiting for those little blue lines but it totally normal for couples to take lots longer than that to conceive naturally.

Good luck and sending relaxed vibes xx

[Kari55]

Hi Riakennedy, sorry to hear about your struggle. I would definitely go to have some tests done asap but would still remain positive as some people would need a bit longer to get pregnant and majority would do so after 2 years of trying. Your husband would need to have tests to as things for guys can change so you can’t rule it out. There are other options than IVF out there too but you might not need it so don’t worry too much about it just yet. Good luck x

[Riakennedy]

I don't qualify for ivf on the NHS I would have to pay to go private which I could not afford

[CBOO1]

Hi Riakennedy

I know you posted this a while ago but I’ve just read your post & I am in exactly the same position as you.

We have been told our best chance to conceive would be IVF but we don’t qualify for this on the NHS because my boyfriend already has a son. I can’t tell you that you won’t at times feel resentful - towards him & dare I say it, your step child because I do - as awful as that is & I know I shouldn’t say it but I just didn’t want you to think you were alone in this, I know exactly what you are going through & it feels like the most unfair thing in the whole world!! Xx