Broken - 2nd IVF failed

[Sofi1]

I had a failed ivf in Feb with no eggs collected. Then got pregnant naturally the following month but unfortunately lost it at 9 week. Today had egg collection my scan showed 8 follicles but one egg was retrieved which turned out to be immature. I'm just so heart broken and don't know what to do...has anyone got any advice? I can't think straight....I've always just wanted a baby

[Jaygee]

I’m so sorry this has happened 😢 I have no reasons why and it’s heart breaking. Have they give any indication why they only retrieved one?

[Sofi1 in reply to Jaygee]

They said that the rest were small and empty and the one they managed to get was immature so no good whatsoever. They had to poke and prod around as both ovaries were hiding behind my womb so on top of it all I'm so sore.

I don't know what to do with myself...

[ChiGi]

Oh Sofi, my heart goes out to you. Please be good to yourself in the next few days. Eat your favorite foods, splurge on some treats... I’m so sorry 😢 my very first retrieval I had a very similar situation and was so sore. My heating pad and Netflix were my best friends. Did they prescribe anything to help ease the soreness?

[Sofi1 in reply to ChiGi]

No they just said to have painkillers and rest. I wasn't sure if I could use heat pad or a hot water bottle so I haven't but if you did I will today.

[jengi]

Hi Sofi, I’m so sorry. It’s a really tough journey. Please look after yourself & each other. Xx

[Sofi1 in reply to jengi]

Thank you jengi xx

[Littlepeax]

So sorry, hope you're doing ok ♥️ if you have conceived naturally before I would keep trying! Dont give up I have never conceived naturally before, but if I did that would give me some hope xxx

[Sofi1 in reply to Littlepeax]

Thank you for your encouragement. I conceived straight after the first Ivf so I don't know if that was because I still had the drugs in me. Thank you xx

[BPOOLtrying]

I’m so sorry 😞, when mine failed, I was advised to watch the Netflix documentary “on more shot”. It was brilliant, they explore all options after failed rounds. Stay strong and baby dust xx

[Sofi1 in reply to BPOOLtrying]

Thankyou I will try to watch it today. Hopefully it might make things clearer as to what I can do next I'm so lost xx

[saraht23]

Thinking of you.

We had different circumstances for our failure with eggs retrieved but none fertilised. Where I went wrong was not taking the time to grieve. You’re strong enough to get there, it’s just the road isn’t quite as direct as other people’s. Take the time to let the emotions out and to heal. You’ll get through it

[Sofi1 in reply to saraht23]

Thankyou for your encouraging words. It's so hard. I do bottle my emotions because I don't want to upset those around me. I've taken the day off work today but will be back on Monday and will speak to them about support whilst at work xx

[GF1989]

I’m so sorry you’ve had such a rough journey 😔. Thinking of you.

[Sofi1 in reply to GF1989]

Thank you x

[Mary80]

Oh so sorry. My first and second ivf failed too. You know what I did? I'm trying the natural way now. since you can get pregnant naturally keep trying plssss. The first ivf, i had four eggs, only one fertilised. 2nd ivf, I had five eggs, 3 fertilised and only one made it to day 5 blatocyst. The egg retrieval recovery process is the worst part for me, very very painful. God will see you through.

[Sofi1 in reply to Mary80]

Thank you for giving me hope and reassuring words. It's devastating isn't it? This time both my ovaries were hiding behind my womb so it was really painful when I woke up from sedation. My consultants havent been very reassuring either which doesnt help......Hoping God has mercy on us and blesses us xx

[Manu16]

I’m so sorry. I agree with the others - keep trying naturally. I would if there was a possibility that it would work for me. Have hope and I truly believe one way or another it will happen xx

[Sofi1]

I think my age is against me too I'm 41 so I'm panicking I don't have much time left...I hope it does and I pray it does for you too.

[Bramble14]

Hi, so sorry you have had such a hard road. Give yourself time to process things. I have also had 2 failed IVF with my own eggs (1st one 4 eggs 1 able to be transferred and 2nd got no eggs). Remember to be kind to yourself. I am now on the road with donor eggs which I had never expected to be doing at 38yrs old. Hope your doctors can help to give you some answers. Sending you baby dust.