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Mid-TWW meltdown :(

It's that classic - trying desperately not to think about things, not to symptom spot (failing miserably), control the anxiety about 1st consultant apt next week, and a good friend announces their pregnancy. And there you have it, cooking dinner whilst sobbing uncontrollably while poor hubby tries to make it better. I wish I could find a way to manage it better.

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Ahh the 2ww crazies send us all a bit loopy at some point so dont beat yourself up that you're finding it tough....you're definitely not alone there! We analyse ever twinge, are we pregnant....are we not....that progesterone has a lot to answer for as it mimicks pregnancy too! Then just when you think you are doing ok you get a whack in the face of having a pregnancy announcement to deal with, could there be a worse time?! Hang on it there, you're half way there. Try to get out for walks in the fresh air, I do find this clears my head and I cant sit on google. I watched a boxset or two and jigsaw but was at work for the most part. Sending hugs and I hope you get your BFP!xx

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You are doing your best, keep taking it a day at a time. It’s just tough and there’s no getting around it. I’m half way there also, we’ll hang in there together xx

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Thanks girls. Sometimes it helps so much just to know there are people who get it x

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Try and do something to totally distract you - easier said than done, I know! Have you got a friend who you just constantly laugh with? Or a film that does the same? Hanging out with people you love? A great book? It's so hard!

I used to keep a journal so that every time I felt down I would write in it and that way I felt I'd acknowledged the sad thoughts and could move on. I also did some mindful breathing. And, unbelievablely, decided to go back to work (I work with very young children!!) . They were super fun to be around!

Something worked because I ended up getting a BFP!

Hope it works out for you!

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Ah it's not easy is it! We understand - ur not alone! I left clinic earlier after being told have OHSS (im also on 2ww) and a friend sent a baby scan pic on our group chat. Turns out it is a girl she knows and not hers but rly feel she should have put the explanation first, im sure she would know everyone on the chat would think it was hers! How r u feeling now after a good cry? X

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Sorry to hear about your OHSS - I hope it settles down really quickly. Feeling a bit better after a therapeutic cry thanks, it just never fails to take me by surprise how much it feels like being broken into pieces when someone conceives with so little effort, regardless of how happy I am for them! And I am aware that I am at a very early stage in this journey, only been trying for 15 months, so there is potentially way more to come. I guess it's just a case of take it a day at a time. Good luck to you anyway, fingers crossed for this cycle x

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Thank you! I dont think it ever gets any easier as such but i feel we learn to handle it better each time it happens to us, maybe its because it feels less of a shock. I used to burst into tears but now i mostly just feel the unfairness and insensitivity of it all! X

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I am exactly the same we are just away to start in a couple of weeks our first round. While a good friend, sister in law and a few others have all just announced pregnancies. It's great for them but a bit of a kick in the balls for us. You've got to keep your chin up, keep smiling, talk when your feeling down and remember our time will come. What's meant to be will be xxx

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