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Bfn

Anyone who has followed my other post will know that my second fresh icsi cycle did not workout. I can’t even bring myself to ring the clinic and tell them yet. I thought that having one in the freezer would make me feel better, but at the moment it isn’t, it just feels like future heartache.

So far I’ve treated myself to a ride out on my horse 🐴 and had a cry on him! As I am going on this journey alone, he does tend to support me a lot emotionally 😆.

No idea what to do next, feeling emotional but also numb as well.

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I’m so sorry to hear this Em I cannot begin to understand how you must be feeling. Take the time to grieve and you don’t need to rush in to anything just yet. Xxx

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So sorry to read this, take some time to rebuild your strength and ring them when you feel ready xx

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Hey hun I am so sorry it didn't work out. Like yourself my second ivf failed and after that I really broke down. We expect these things to work! Since then I have had my NK cells tested and they have come back as high. So my FET I will be taking some steroids with the cycle. God knows if it will work or not but I can only try. It's good you can go out on your horse. Please take care of yourself xx

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Oh dear. Terribly sorry it didn't work out. Take care of yourself and hang in there.

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I’m really sorry to hear this. It’s really raw at the moment, so no wonder you’re not feeling good about your frostie. You will get there though. Sending you big hugs xx

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I’m so sorry. They do seem to hurt more each time. Take your time to think about yourself and be a bit selfish whilst you begin to come to terms with things. Thinking of you. x

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Sorry to hear of your bfn xx

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So sorry to hear you got a bfn!! Take care of yourself!! 🙁xx

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Massive hugs to you. Take your time xx

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Hi Em. So sorry to hear this. xx

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I am so sorry it hasn’t worked for you. I know it is heartbreaking. Don’t feel you have to make any major decisions at the moment. Take time to grieve, to spend time riding and cry as much as you need to in the process. You have to let it out. I used to cry when I walked the dog in the woods. It was involuntary almost. Try to be as kind to yourself as possible in other ways too. Anything at all that will make it at all easier to get through these difficult days. Sending you lots and lots of love xx

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So Sorry to hear this, look after yourself xx

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So sorry to hear this, sending massive hugs xxx

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