11DP5DT BFN ๐Ÿ‘Ž๐Ÿฝ: Looks like Iโ€™m out... - Fertility Network UK

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11DP5DT BFN ๐Ÿ‘Ž๐Ÿฝ

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Looks like Iโ€™m out. My nurse has asked me to carry on taking my meads for another two days and to retest but I think thatโ€™s the end of this transfer. Gutted, I kept having dreams last night I tested and it was positive. I had convinced myself that it must of worked as I was feeling nauseous all day yesterday. How long do you have to wait to try again with another frozen transfer?

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XOXO13

So sorry ๐Ÿ’” itโ€™s so difficult when it doesnโ€™t work out. I waited one cycle before I started my second FET. So I had a withdrawal bleed after stopping meds, and then started new meds on CD1 of my period xx

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Londongirl84 in reply to XOXO13

Thank you! Okay thatโ€™s not too bad. Just donโ€™t know if I should take a break. The process is so exhausting. Xx

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XOXO13 in reply to Londongirl84

Itโ€™s so exhausting. For me personally, I canโ€™t bear to take a break and I like to keep going as soon as I can. Even waiting a month leaves me impatient. Go with your gut, if you need a break and youโ€™re okay with that then definitely take one ๐Ÿ’› xx

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Idril

Oh no, so sorry. I was reading one of your comment because it happened the same thing to me when I had my positiv before, vivid dreams etc. This time nothing and my hope are not very high, test day is Wednesday but I also thing it's going to be BFN as I have no symptoms and loosing a bit of blood. I haven't waited very long after a frozen cycle last time, just a month also but it ended up in BFN so I don't know...

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Londongirl84 in reply to Idril

Good luck!!! Really hope it works out for you when you test. Itโ€™s so hard mentally and physically but I suppose you just have to keep trying. Xxx

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Lovemylion

Ah no ๐Ÿ˜” sorry to hear about your BFN. They suck! You sound like a positive person and raring to go again so go u! ๐Ÿ’ช๐Ÿ’• All the best xxx

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Londongirl84 in reply to Lovemylion

Thank you lovely for your message! I see you are in your TWW!! Hope it goes well for you! Good luck!! Xx

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Lovemylion in reply to Londongirl84

Thanks hun. Yes, torturous 2ww, so full of hope and despair at the same time. Only a 2 day transfer so am not getting my hopes up. Natural to try and protect ourselves as much as possible in this process. Hope you've got a nice bottle of wine and a takeaway planned tonight! Xxx

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Londongirl84 in reply to Lovemylion

TWW is the worst! You never know it might be the one. Iโ€™ve read a few stories where there have been positives with day 2 transfer. ๐Ÿคž๐Ÿฝ

I wish I could have wine. I have to carry on with my drugs and retest on Wednesday. I know what the result will be but Iโ€™d probably best wait two days. Xxx

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Lovemylion in reply to Londongirl84

Ahhh I see. Well I guess two days isn't long then you can have some treats. Thanks ๐Ÿ˜Š you just never know I guess. Xxx

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RhinoCat

Awh no ๐Ÿ˜๐Ÿ˜ฃ sorry to hear this. Sending hugs. ๐Ÿ˜˜๐Ÿ’๐Ÿ’๐Ÿ’ The pain will ease, just cry when ya need to and take all the help and support you need to ๐Ÿ˜˜๐Ÿ’๐Ÿ’๐Ÿ’๐Ÿ’๐Ÿ’–๐Ÿ’–๐Ÿ’–๐Ÿ’–

You can go as soon as your mind is ready ๐Ÿ˜˜๐Ÿ’–๐Ÿ’

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Londongirl84 in reply to RhinoCat

Thank you Rhinocat! Iโ€™m sorry to read your transfer didnโ€™t go ahead. I canโ€™t even cry, I just feel empty. Xx

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Londongirl84 in reply to Londongirl84

God that sounds so depressing doesnโ€™t it! ๐Ÿ™ˆ

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RhinoCat in reply to Londongirl84

It is what it is. The pain is real. I hope your tears come soon so that you can process, feel and step on. Massive hugs to you this hard day ๐Ÿ˜˜๐Ÿ’–๐Ÿ’

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RhinoCat in reply to Londongirl84

The trauma of it all is real.

We just reach saturation point with the despair of it all. ๐Ÿ˜˜๐Ÿ’๐Ÿ’๐Ÿ’๐Ÿ’๐Ÿ’ I get it. I hear ya. Sending love ๐Ÿ˜˜๐Ÿ’๐Ÿ’๐Ÿ’๐Ÿ’๐Ÿ’

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Londongirl84 in reply to RhinoCat

Thank you! Thatโ€™s so lovely of you. ๐Ÿ’œ๐Ÿ’œ๐Ÿ’œ๐Ÿ’œ

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Bernie150781

I'm so sorry to hear this, maybe your test wil suprise you x x

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Londongirl84 in reply to Bernie150781

Hi Bernie! Hope you are doing well!! Thank you. Hmmm I donโ€™t know. My glass is half empty right now ๐Ÿฅบ but you are right I should keep my fingers crossed until Wednesday. Xxx

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MakingbabyN

So sorry. ๐Ÿ˜“ we had a few tears in our house over the weekend but now getting ready to go again. We have one poor quality embryo left which apparently we have to use before we can do another egg collection ๐Ÿคท๐Ÿผโ€โ™€๏ธ Because I had a natural FET I can go with this cycle, so it wonโ€™t cause any delay and Iโ€™ll plan to start stims on the next bleed assuming the transfer doesnโ€™t work ๐Ÿ˜ฉ xxx

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Londongirl84 in reply to MakingbabyN

Hope you are okay! ๐Ÿ˜” Itโ€™s so hard isnโ€™t it. You never know your last embryo might be the one. I really hope it works out for you. Until then try and enjoy the sunshine thatโ€™s coming this week! Xxx

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MakingbabyN

Hope youโ€™re ok too ๐Ÿ’• what a roller coaster it is. Iโ€™m trying to not be a negative Nancy but itโ€™s hard! Xxx

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Elizabeth1988

Iโ€™m so sorry! The wait is just horrendous and it seems so unfair after that time to get a negative. Really thinking of you. Sending you lots of hugs. Xxxx

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Londongirl84 in reply to Elizabeth1988

Thank you lovely! Xx

So sorry to read this.! Do test on OTD as I have read some stories on here of late implanters . My clinic want to wait 3 months between cycles. Defo check with your clinic as I know some ladies start the following month xx

Lots of love and well wishes for u x

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Londongirl84 in reply to

Thank you for your kind words. Xx

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Millbanks

Hi lovely, so sorry to hear about your BFN. I always have totally messed up dreams too when in the 2ww -it's so cruel! I always find the progesterone makes me feel a bit nauseous too.My clinic likes me to have a withdrawal bleed then start on my next period CD1. So you're probably looking at 4 weeks before you can go again. Do you have some frosties? xx

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Londongirl84 in reply to Millbanks

It must be the progesterone then! Itโ€™s so cruel!! ๐Ÿ˜ฉ๐Ÿ˜ฉ I have five frosties left. I have the fear that non of them will work. Just realised Iโ€™ve been TTC for two years this month and that makes me really sad. Just remembering how excited I was to try and never thought It would be this hard. Where are you with your Ivf journey? I saw that you also had a BFN not long ago. ๐Ÿ˜ข Hope you are doing okay! Are you starting a new cycle or do you have some frosties? Xx

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Millbanks in reply to Londongirl84

It really is so cruel - but 5 frosties is great! There is a really good chance that some of those will be normal and will stick :) don't give up hope!It is really hard when you think back, but I try to think of it as just a different stage of life - it's something that I have to go through and whether it works or not I will always appreciate the chance to try and the growth in me that has happened as a result of it.

Yes it was our 5th BFN - which was hard but we only just had an ERA test done so all our previous transfers had been at the wrong timing - so I was really hopeful but it's likely that it was an abnormal embryo.... We are doing embryo banking at the moment with the aim to PGT-A test as many as possible. I don't want to do another transfer without knowing that we have the best possible chance. I've also had my immune panel tested and both myself and the hub have had karaotype testing done (which checks our own genes for abnormalities) - so hopefully we'll be getting some answers at least!! xxx

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Londongirl84

Thatโ€™s a lovely way to look at it.

Iโ€™m sorry to hear this has been your 5th BFN. Looks like you are taking some positive steps. Can I ask what an ERA test is? I think itโ€™s sensible to do the PGT-A test. I just feel like itโ€™s pick n mix. It would be good to know that you are only transferring good embryos. They should offer that for everyone as standard. I wish I had done it. The thought didnโ€™t cross my mind. Iโ€™m guessing you can do the test once they have been frozen? Xxx

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