Another stab...

[louisear]

when asked what she was doing today my friend said she's going out with 3 friends, husband, kids etc all of whom I know but who are more her friends than mine to the pub to exchange Christmas presents and said they do it every year. She said she'd have asked me and OH but didn't think we'd want to come in the circumstances (we'd be the only childless couple). I know she probably felt dammed if she did and dammed if she didn't but it just feels like another stab in the heart and has triggered the tears again. Wish she hadn't told me. Hope you lovely people are doing ok, no doubt about it, it's an extra difficult time of year for a lot of us xx

[katya38]

Aww Louise yes insensitive to have told you that. It is a difficult time and no matter how people try you always get that pang and thought another year has passed xx

[_MrsC]

That’s really tough! I’m so sorry she said that. It’s so tough being isolated because of biology. In a Christmas card I wrote to a couple this year, I wrote, I hope you’ve had a good year. This is because I’ve not seen or heard from them since Boxing Day when we made the effort to go her parents to give her son his Christmas present. Needless to say, I’m not bothering buying a gift this year. I’ve not seen the kid since last year. Without this forum I think we’d feel even more isolated than we already do. Sending a big hug to you. x

[Sarahmanc]

I’m sorry. People think they’re being considerate but actually they just isolate you further. I was just really honest with people-I think until you’ve been through something like this, you can’t possibly imagine the social isolation infertility causes. Tell her that you haven’t stopped being able to be around kids and you need the support of friends more than ever. I hope you feel better soon xxx

[Amanda86]

This is horrible, I hate when people do that. I remember how hurt I was when a friend didn’t invite me to her sons birthday party but invited all our other friends, I wasn’t invited because I didn’t have a child.

People don’t seem to understand how hurtful their actions can be.

Hope your ok xxx