Waiting......???!!!!

[lucyC1987]

How do people deal with waiting, I’m right at the very start of our journey and I feel like I’m just constantly waiting and from what I’ve read it only gets worse.

I’ve had a few weeks between being diagnosed, going for a blood test for hormone checks, hubby going for checks and now a follow up appointment on the 7th where we find out hubbys results and what we do next with regards to my blocked tube. I constantly feel like I’m waiting, waiting for news, waiting for people to tell me what next and I just don’t know how other people deal with this???

[krw345]

Yes the waiting is definitely the worse bit. It got me so down that by the time you start treatment it just feels good to be doing something. Have you now been referred to an ivf clinic? We had around a year of tests through our gp which really pushed me to breaking point, but then once we were referred to our clinic it moved relatively quickly. We had to do some more tests ( HSG, lap, etc) which took around 3 months because of waiting for periods etc but once they were done it all moves quite quickly. I don’t have any advice to help but if you are with a clinic now you are entitled to counselling before you start ivf which helped me. And I just read up a lot so felt like I was preparing to start and gave me a tiny sense of control. I really hope you get through it all swiftly xx

[lucyC1987 in reply to krw345]

Thank you for your reply 🙂

Luckily we were referred to the fertility clinic pretty quickly, I had an ultrasound at the GP which picked up my blocked tube, they then referred us and I managed to get an appointment within a week due to a cancellation which then the clinic confirmed the blockage. It’s since then that I feel I’m just waiting, especially as we’ve been back and too to have bloods and tests for hubby. I think I’m going to have to have further investigations a lap maybe as they hinted that the blockage would need sorting before we started IVF. I’m trying to read up as much as I can so I’m as informed as I can but feel like I’m sending myself crazy so I think I need to stop until at least the appointment on the 7th 😂

I hope your journey is going well and I’ll look into the counselling xx

[krw345 in reply to lucyC1987]

Ah yes it’s just so horrible having no control. I know it’s so hard to do but just try and think positively, now you’ve been referred you’re really close and once it all starts you won’t quite believe it. Try and treat yourself to a nice thing everyday. I did some meditation and acupuncture and ate healhily to try and get my mind and body in tip top condition and feel like I was preparing myself. Just be kind to yourself and stay rested. Best of luck with everything xx

[Lynnr54]

I have no advice on how to deal with it but I agree - the waiting part sucks! Waiting for AF to show, waiting for the results of tests, the next appointment date. When all we want to do is get on with it. All you can do is try not to let it consume your every thought and plan some nice things to do while you’re waiting - weekends away and other things to look forward to to break the waiting down into shorter periods. Good luck with it all!

[MrsR1988]

Unfortunately the waiting is one of he hardest parts! I tried to fill out time with things we enjoyed doing together it holidays, days out, crafts at home or start a new series on tele. It’s so hard but it’s worth it when you get your results and you move on the the next stage. Sorry if this isn’t much help, I know how hard it can be xx

[Oakey80]

Eurgh...I've always said, all the waiting is the hardest part! We had a 3yr wait between initially contacting our gp and actually starting treatment (1 yr was me trying to lose 2 stone with an underactive thyroid). Its easy to put ur life on hold in this period but I found it better to just carry on as normal...go on that holiday, take that promotion etc etc. We were ttc for 5yrs in total and it was like living in a strange limbo...not nice! Even when ur going through treatment ur waiting, waiting, waiting but maybe it's good prep for when ur actually pregnant!...I'm now 21wks and everyday feels like a week lol! Good luck xxx

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it bloody sucks doesnt it all the waiting around. What helps me is planning nice things to do whilst waiting like with the 2 week wait clearing things out and planning nights out and enjoyable things as it gives you a sense of control and takes your mind off it and perhaps you could see about doing enjoyable things whilst you are waiting for appointments as it takes ages as the health service aren't the most efficient of places for non urgent things.

[MrsTM13]

The whole process is a waiting game. During every stage you'll think you can't stand the waiting but you just keep going somehow. The 2ww will be the slowest 2 weeks of your life. I refer to it as the 2 weeks of hell.

The ladies on here will keep you going when you think you are just about to go out of your mind and know you're not alone as everyone feels it. X