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Waiting for period is torture

Arya10
Arya10

Anyone else in/near the end of their 2WW? I’m in need of some company and/or positive reinforcement.

AF is due on Sunday for me (natural cycle) and i stupidly took HPT yesterday which couldn’t have been more negative. I’m usually pretty good at just waiting for AF.

I feel so down, I can’t bear another month of no BFP. We tried so hard this month and I’m post HSG.

I know I’m not out til I’m out but it just feels like every other month. I’ve never been pregnant and can’t even imagine it anymore - then I worry that I’m causing my own infertility, they say you are what you think about.

I’m finding it extra hard this month as I found out an old friend - who smokes like a chimney, drinks A LOT, and has had an eating disorder for years and is a very unstable relationship - had a baby. I just don’t understand. Maybe I need to start smoking and drinking?

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I know how you feel waiting for a period is torture I am currently 8 days late for my period but am not sure if that’s because I started the combined pill middle of December last year

Yeah my partner say we should be heroin addicts or alcoholics have babies all the time

Arya10
Arya10
in reply to gcw104

😂😂😂

I’d be your ttc buddy once I’m back to normal after this mc if your not pregnant by then 😊

Arya10
Arya10
in reply to gcw104

🙁 so sorry about your miscarriage, I can’t imagine how that must feel.

I’m sure I will still be not pregnant...

gcw104
gcw104
in reply to Arya10

Thank you I’m fine xx hey you never know.

Arya10
Arya10
in reply to gcw104

Always have hope 🙂

it’s just my hormones 2/3 days before AF I get so negative in general, it’s weird. I can sometimes tell when AF is minutes away, when all of a sudden the cloud lifts and I’m happy again ☀️

You’re definitely not out. Most doctors will advise you not to test till the day after your missed period. I know some tests say you can test earlier but I question their reliability. I had cramps 3 days before my period was due & thought my period was coming, unfortunately implantation feels the same as PMS. I’ll keep everything crossed for you 🤞🏻🤞🏻🤞🏻 xoxo

Arya10
Arya10
in reply to jess1981

Thanks Jess, it was a cheapie test so I guess there’s still hope. I’ve had cramps for a few days now, but I’m sure I’ve had that once or twice before in past cycles. It’s my mood that makes me feel like AF is coming,

I feel so angry/moody which is how I get normally 2 days before AF. I know they say PMT can be the same as early pregnancy but surely not moodiness?!

Thanks again, you always give me hope. So good to see you’re doing well x

jess1981
jess1981
in reply to Arya10

Would you believe it?! Ask my hubby how my mood swings have been since I’ve been pregnant!!! 🤣Pregnancy hormones are much worse than PMT!!!!! Times it by 100!! 😳🤣 there is nothing scarier than a pregnant woman 🤣🤣🤣

Waiting for the period to arrive or not is definitely the worst part of trying. If you can try to distract yourself ( I know that’s impossible) Will be hoping to hear good news from you soon 🤞🏻🤞🏻🤞🏻 xoxo

Arya10
Arya10
in reply to jess1981

😂😂😂 that made me laugh out loud!! Love it, you are SO entitled to mood swings! And ok that gives me a little more hope - or at least to not think my rage is a sign of no baby!! Lol.

I feel your pain!!! I'm due on Tuesday and feeling like my period will be any day.... It's rubbish. Hang in there!!! If things don't work out allow yourself to pause, vent, cry, scream... Whatever you need to express your emotions and then have a wee drink... You couldn't do that if you were pregnant!

We ladies are resilient... Even in our darkest moments we have a way of fighting back.

P.S I feel your pain regarding others finding it so easy. My brother who got married in August is expecting with his wife. She is 16 weeks pregnant and we have been trying for two years since we got married... It's not fair that others find it so easy.

Take care and remember we're all here for you. xxx

Thanks, you’re right about letting out the crying and pausing etc! Right back at you too!!

I’m sorry to hear about your brother and his wife (don’t wish them bad feelings but you know what I mean), it’s so hard when someone so close gets pregnant so ‘easily’ I feel like screaming at people like a crazy person sometimes that they have no idea haha. They won’t be the same kind of parents we will. I do think I’ll be a better mother for it, it’s certainly taught me a lot.

Thanks guys, feeling emotional that you’ve all given such lovely comments and support, it’s really helping xxxx

Hi! I was due my period yesterday, so similar date to you. I am still waiting but having cramps and had the smallest bit of a brown/red bleed earlier. Still the waiting is killing me. I just want my period to come if im not pregnant! Xx

Arya10
Arya10
in reply to H0pe2

Is your period ever late? It’s a good sign that it’s late, and the spotting could be implantation.

I know, I feel the same that if I’m not pregnant then just put me out my misery! xx

H0pe2
H0pe2
in reply to Arya10

It has been late twice in the last 12 month, by about 5 days, and a pretty bad period, so i will never know if i was pregnant or it was just a late period. My cramps are a bit lighter and more on off than usual. But im jist waiting for it to hit me like a train. Probably be in the night. The wait is terrible xx

Arya10
Arya10
in reply to H0pe2

It’s hard isn’t it. In the 2.5 years we’ve been trying, I had 1 time where I felt pregnant (and 2 people said I had a pregnant look without me saying anything, and I don’t mean my tummy 😂) and my period was about 7 days late followed by a heavy 7 day period. I’ll never know (got BFN when tested) for sure.

Have you taken a test or are you going to wait it out? you never know, could be good news! xx

H0pe2
H0pe2
in reply to Arya10

I’ve not taken one, because I honestly think I will have my period, but I might think about it if there is nothing by tomorrow. Im sure one time i was pregnant because the bleed and pain in my back were horrendous and I never have back pain with my period. I have ttc for 12 months now, just started the tests etc xx

Arya10
Arya10
in reply to H0pe2

I usually try not to test, as I don’t want to know about a chemical. But if you feel up to it, go for it. You quite possibly were, I think we know our own bodies. That’s good you’ve started tests, we were made to wait until 18 months before they would do any tests. xx

H0pe2
H0pe2
in reply to Arya10

I kicked off pretty bad tbh, surely we are entitled to know what is wrong. I have never used with both past partners and both have kids, including my partner now 🥺x

H0pe2
H0pe2
in reply to Arya10

No need to test, period came🥺xx

jess1981
jess1981
in reply to H0pe2

Oh no I’m so sorry Hope2. It’s so crappy. Treat yourself ❤️ xoxo

H0pe2
H0pe2
in reply to jess1981

Suppose i can look forward to trying this month. See if i can time it better 🤦🏼‍♀️xx

jess1981
jess1981
in reply to H0pe2

Rest assured it’s nothing you’ve done wrong. It’s so bloody hard. We tried for 7 years I know how crappy it is. Wishing you better luck this cycle. 🤞🏻✨❤️ xoxo

H0pe2
H0pe2
in reply to jess1981

I have some more tests this month, so im kind of hoping they show something that can be fixed. Thank you 💖

Arya10
Arya10
in reply to H0pe2

Oh no! 🙁 at least you know one way or the other. It’s shitty when AF arrives but like you say it also signifies another chance.

I feel I may be joining you very soon. Do lots of nice things in the next few days, pamper yourself xx

H0pe2
H0pe2
in reply to Arya10

Pamper myself seems to be the only thing i can do 😂 now the wait for ov date begins.....🧐 xx

Arya10
Arya10
in reply to H0pe2

And AF came today, I’m with you on the pampering! xx

H0pe2
H0pe2
in reply to Arya10

So sorry! Lets hit this month with positive thoughts 👀 I only had a 2 day period... 🧐🙄xx

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