More waiting..

[E_05]

I really hope it's alright to write on here, I don't know where else to express my worries to people who truly understand as I feel like I've been left in limbo now. Before I start I just want to say I know I'm extremely lucky to have my BFP and am routing that all you lovely ladies get the same to.

My early scan came through today and it's not for another 2 and half weeks, I'm already terrified that something's gone wrong like last year and the waiting is really getting to me. I want to book a private scan for next week but my Hubby's really against it as last year we didn't have a positive experience with the clinic we used. Just wondered what your opinions are? I know there's nothing to make the waiting easier for any of us on this journey.

Hope everyone has a rested weekend ☺️

[Hidden]

Find a different private clinic and go for one next week. That's what i would do.

The extra worry wont be any good to you or the baby.

How come you have to wait so long with your clinic?xox

[E_05 in reply to Hidden]

The clinic don't do the scans anymore so I have to wait for EPC in the main hospital. They said as long as its before 8 weeks & my apt is 1 day before I'm 8 weeks so they've met the fertility clinics guidance just doesn't help me xx

[Hidden in reply to E_05]

Thats ridiculous! I would find a different private clinic. I d know where you are based but down my way we have one called 'window to the womb' i went with a friend for her gender scan & they were amazing!!xox

[E_05 in reply to Hidden]

I know the whole process is a nightmare for this bit. Thank you, il google them and see if there's one near me. Hope you don't have to wait to long for your scan xx

[Hidden in reply to E_05]

Its all a waiting game but will be worth it in the end.

Thanks, i hope it's not either 🙈 xox

[Dream32]

Its easier said than done to wait that extra two weeks. Maybe go with your instincts and book a private scan. Remain positive and I'm sure everything is ok it's just the worry of everything we have experienced previously gets on top of us x

[E_05 in reply to Dream32]

Thank you, your so right it doesn't seem long but it definitely feels it. Hope your okay x

[Amanda86]

Hey,

Sorry to hear about your clinic not offering a scan until 8 weeks. It's such an anxious wait!

If I were you I'd book a private scan but with another clinic if possible?

I think for your own peace of mind it would be the best thing to do. Xxx

[E_05 in reply to Amanda86]

Thank you, I'm gona have a look around and see if I can convince my hubby it's a good idea x

[Lynnr54]

Part of the problem with a private scan is that until your baby is a certain point you won't see a heartbeat. The clinics can give guidance about what point that is but if you go too early and don't see anything then you may just end up worrying for nothing so please make sure you are far enough on before you get one. The wait for the first scan in my opinion is even worse than the 2ww !

[E_05 in reply to Lynnr54]

Thank you, your right it definitely is! I think that's why my hubbys so against it this time as last year we had a private scan at 6.5 weeks and there was no heart beat. It caused more anxiety waiting for my clinics scan where there then was a faint heartbeat x

[C_L_A_I_R_E]

This is strange, my clinic has booked me in for a 7 week scan. I think this is the earliest to see a heartbeat. So they don't do any scans any earlier. I'm still going through my private clinic.

Could you go through the gp and be referred for an early scan, because it's ivf I believe they would send you. I haven't been to the gp yet, just keeping to my clinic for now.

[E_05 in reply to C_L_A_I_R_E]

My clinic no longer do the scans so I have to go to the EPC at my local hospital which is where my GP would send me to. It's definitely confusing how every clinic works differently, glad you've got yours soon though!

[C_L_A_I_R_E in reply to E_05]

Definitely try and be referred by gp then. The wait is horrible isn't it!? Think positive Hun x

[E_05 in reply to C_L_A_I_R_E]

I know it really is so hard, I'm really trying to keep positive and not compare to last year x

[mupcake]

Ohh that's not fair. Not sure why each clinic function differently. To ease your anxiety try doing hpt before you get your scan arranged. Stay positive. Keep your mind calm. Meditation helps.

[E_05 in reply to mupcake]

I know it's so confusing isn't it, my clinic stopped doing the scan so I think that has something to do with the longer wait. Thank you, your right about calming my mind 🙂

[Hidden]

The wait for the first scan is awful and feels like forever. I had an early private scan at baby bond and they where great xx

[E_05 in reply to Hidden]

Thank you, il see if there's one near me. How many weeks were you when you went for your first scan? Xx

[Hidden in reply to E_05]

I was 6 weeks as I'd bleeding but could see the heartbeat although they did warm me it was early so the might not be able to see yet. There where lovely though and understood how nervous I was etc xx

[E_05 in reply to Hidden]

Thank you so much, hope everything is going well with your pregnancy still and your being able to enjoy it xx

[Hidden in reply to E_05]

Thanks all going great and the fears have slowly gone and now enjoying it xxx

[sanchia46]

You should be able to do a scan at six weeks.

[Lou9]

Good morning E_05 , sorry to hear how anxious you are feeling. Completely natural after all you have been through. I know if I were you I would want to go for a private scan too. Wishing you lots of luck whatever you decide. Take care. Xx

[E_05 in reply to Lou9]

Thank you, I'm trying to persuade my hubby it'll be a good idea but I understand his concerns as last year we went for a private scan to early. I've been recommended a couple of good places though so looking into them. How are you doing? Xx

[Lou9 in reply to E_05]

It's so difficult because of your experience last time. I totally understand your husband's reluctance as he will want to protect you from any unnecessary stress and worry. But then I completely understand your urge to check everything is ok after what happened last time. I know I would be the same, once you've had a loss I know it will be impossible to relax. But this is a different embryo and different pregnancy so as hard as it is, keep telling yourself that. Sending you lots of positive vibes. 🙌🏼

I'm doing ok thanks... have a long weekend off work so that is helping with the tiredness (although I can't sleep!). Have my first scan on Monday since I started down regging. Hoping to start stimming on Tuesday, all being well! 🤞🏻 Xx

[E_05 in reply to Lou9]

Thank you I'm trying to keep telling myself that it's a totally different 'set' of embryos to. Definitely it's like I cant really win as much as I want the scan I feel in a little bubble without having it as I can't be told bad news, our minds drive us crazy don't they! Lol

Oh that's good hopefully it's a rested weekend for you, have a power nap or 2 if you can. Good luck for Monday, il be keeping everything crossed it goes well for you xx

[Lou9 in reply to E_05]

I totally get what you mean! The mind is such a powerful thing, it can be exhausting constantly going over all of the thoughts and worries. My acupuncturist said to me yesterday that my body needs its energy right now to prepare for IVF/pregnancy and to not waste valuable energy worrying about what might not happen. I'm going to try and keep that in my mind today! Easier said than done, especially for you at the moment. But worth a try!

Thank you, hoping Monday goes well! Xx

[E_05 in reply to Lou9]

That's a really point. I'm definitely going to work on telling myself that, thank you! Hope you have a lovely weekend xx