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The waiting game feels like torture

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Whether it's the two week wait or viability scans, waiting can sometimes feel like torture. I go through moments of positivity where I am hopeful and optimistic and then there are other moments when I just want to know either way and be put out of my misery.

At my last scan 10 days ago, after a very heavy bleed I still had a sac but it was too early to see the fetal pole (5W 3D). Some of my symptoms seem to have faded but HCG levels are still rising but at a much slower rate. I am currently waiting to have a private scan in a few days to find out if there is fetal heartbeat. I'm in limbo at the moment but still doing my best to stay positive 💪🏽

I really commend all of you on this journey. It's not easy and there are no guarantees. Hearing good news stories does inspire so please keep sharing 🎉

Love and blessings to all ❤️

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AllWeNeedIsluv

I know exactly how your feeling hun the waiting is awful I think the tww is nothing compared to waiting to see if everything's ok with bubz.

Iv got my first scan on Friday I'll be 5 wk 6 days then I'm absolutely a nervous wreck they have told me they might not see they want but they need to try and rule out ectopic.

It's scary isn't it.

I hope your private scan goes well hun and you get your reassurance that you need. Good luck and keep me updated 💗🤗😘

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MrsG1982 in reply toAllWeNeedIsluv

Thank you and yes it is scary. I hope it works it well for all of us x

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Purpledazzle27

I totally agree, I had to wait until 7 weeks for my first scan and have been getting spotting. Baby was fine but was told I have a hematoma so now waiting until 12 weeks for next scan is unbearable as I am still spotting on and off and have no idea how baby is doing now!! So stressful. Trying to stay calm and not worry is almost impossible. Just feel like this wonderful thing is going to be snatched away from me at any moment. X

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AllWeNeedIsluv in reply toPurpledazzle27

Can you not ask your midwife if they can monitor you it sounds wrong to just leave you till 12 weeks xx

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Purpledazzle27 in reply toAllWeNeedIsluv

I’m seeing the midwife today so will definitely be asking as I felt it was a bit bad to worry me without a lot of explanation and just discharge me from the clinic to midwifery. They didn’t even tell me how large the hematoma was. Hopefully will be able to get another early scan but if not I may just cave and pay privately for one. Good luck for your scan xx

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AllWeNeedIsluv in reply toPurpledazzle27

Hope the midwife can pull some strings for you and try reassure you that's not very nice you been left like that. I'd be absolutely cracking. Wish you all the best hun and thank you 💗🤗😘

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MrsG1982 in reply toPurpledazzle27

If you are London based and need an early scan I can send you details of where I'm going this weekend. All the best xx

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Purpledazzle27 in reply toMrsG1982

I’m in Plymouth so that’s a bit far for me but thankfully the midwife is going to try and get me in for another scan next week :) x

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Tugsgirl

Wishing you luck for your scan in a few days xx

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