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Negative test and AF. Heartbroken.

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Rainbow_86
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As the tears run uncontrollably down my face. My journey is over. AF was due and arrived this morning. It prompted me to take a test which was glaringly negative. I am beyond heartbroken.

I'm going to go away for a while. And come back when I have the strength to face the next cycle. I dont feel like im as strong as alot of you. I can already feel myself slipping back to abit of a dark place. IVF gave me hope and now I just feel sad and helpless again.... Your all so strong to keep doing this.

So just wanted to wish everyone luck with the rest of thier journeys and those in the 2ww. Wishing you a positive to save you from a broken heart.

I don't know how you all do this again and again. I try and be a good person and was just longing for my embie to be my baby.

Take care. I wish all your dreams come true

xxxx

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I'm so sorry. It's utterly devastating. Take all the time you need to grieve. Lots of love xxx

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E_05

So sorry to read this, I can feel the pain from your post. This journey really is so cruel, you are a strong lady to but we all need to grieve and to re build. Look after yourself especially today xx

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abcgirl

Sorry to hear this. Take the time you need but know that you are strong. You've already come this far. Take care of yourself

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lauren3189

so sorry to hear this xx

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sunshineyellow

I'm so sorry to hear this. Take some time out for you and let the tears out. It gets easier, I can promise you. It's just that today it's too raw. We're all thinking of you and willing you to come back stronger xxx

Oh I'm so sorry ๐Ÿ˜“ so so sorry for you ๐Ÿ’” xxxx

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Ems83

Sorry to hear that. Unfortunately I think I'm the same, had a small bleed this morning ๐Ÿ˜ข

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CountryCat

Life is just bloody awful sometimes! Can tell how devastated you are and understandably so. ๐Ÿ˜ž So sorry...

Be kind to yourself and each other xxx

Sending you huge love. You are strong to do this in the first place and to be so honest and open. I don't have the right words so I'm sending you my love ๐Ÿ’™

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Cinderella5

Im so sorry, its just devastating after investing everything into doing a cycle! Just let it all out, do whatever makes you feel ok! Sending you a massive hug!xx

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Elou81

Very sorry to read this. I believe you are strong because like many of us you have been fighting every step of this journey which often feels like an uphill struggle at each step and it must be so hard to feel anything but pain right now but don't lose faith hun. We will be here to support you as much as we can when you feel ready to return. Take care xxx

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Tugsgirl

So sorry xx

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kt_11

Really sorry. You are strong, you just need some time to grieve and then you'll find that strength xx

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Leesalou

Big big hugs Hun, sorry to hear this,

Take care of your self and have a well deserve rest, it is a cruel journey really is,

Xx

Sending you lots of love hun. I'm so, so sorry. I know you're incredibly strong to have started this journey in the first place. Take a day at a time xxxxxx

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Sa_Ra

Awww Rainbow_86 I'm so sorry to hear this ๐Ÿ˜ช Sending you lots of love and hugs. Let it all out, look after yourself xxx

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Nickie17

So sorry to hear this hun. It's so unfair and totally heartbreaking. Your not alone though, sadly many of us have been there also (me very recently) and the support on here is honestly what is getting me through at the mo.

Take the time you need to come to terms with this and then you will gradually start to feel stronger again and decide how you want to go forward. It's not an easy journey but dont ever give up on your dreams xx

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Fredaflintstone

So sorry to hear that Rainbow. Take all the time you need. It's so heart breaking. I know I'd not be strong and we have every right not to be. We all go through so much. So sorry this wasn't your time. Sending you huge hugs and asking you to at least be kind to yourself. Xxxx

So sorry to read thid......try and keep strong...lots of love โค๏ธ xxx

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lorraineb61

Tears are running down my face now for you too xxx You are strong - you have no idea how strong you are. Take the time you need, don't make any decisions today, tomorrow, this week. Time puts a lot of perspective on things - hopefully you will come back ready to fight again.

Absolutely gutted for you - I had hoped that 1 of us would have got the news we wanted to hear xx

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7AVA

I'm so sorry to hear this today. Look after each other and take as long as you need. Most of us need to take time away after a failed cycle to grieve xxx

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beauty1984

I'm so so sorry rainbow, such a heartbreaking thing to go through. Take all the time you need xx

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Hormomalmess

So sorry to read this. Big hugs xxx

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Leo2017

So sorry to read this!! ๐Ÿ˜ข x

I'm so sorry rainbow it's just all so unfair. it's takes so much courage to commit and go through with treatment so please don't be hard on yourself for needing to take a break. I hope some time away will help you to rest and take care of yourself xxx

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katya38

Aww so sorry it is really heartbreaking and we all cope in different ways. Xxx

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N_M_10

So sorry to hear this. Sending you hugs. xxx

So sorry to hear this take care of yourself xx

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Amanda86

So sorry rainbow ๐Ÿ˜ข Take care xxx

its bloody disappointing when you get your hopes up and get excited thinking you are going to be pregnant only to get the door slammed in your face when no you are not and it hurts because your dreams are shattered.

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Lou9

So sorry ๐Ÿ˜” You are braver and stronger than you think. Take care. Xx

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SeniorPhipps

So sorry to hear this ๐Ÿ˜ข Take good care of yourself, make sure you get the support you need to help you through this and come back fighting xx

Devastating news. Soo sorry to hear that. Look after yourself xxx

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robbie03

Darling I'm so sorry, look

after yourself and your OH. Big hugsxxx

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Penders

Oh Rainbow_86 I'm so sorry that it's not the news you wanted. Life can be so cruel sometimes. Take as much time as you need to grieve and heal. Be kind to yourself and look after yourself especially now. Wishing you all the best. Praying for you โค๏ธ Xx

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KellyMB

So so sorry to read this . You are strong x x x

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kelsbels88

Aww I'm so sorry to see this. I thinking of you

Take sometime for yourself come back when your ready xx

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NMP1026

Awe hun. There really aren't any words. It's truly heartbreaking. I'm so sorry your post conveys your hurt. Please be kind to yourself and your OH. Big hugs xxx

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