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Another big fat f..ing negative

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I can't bear this😒😒😒my heart is breaking. So much hope dashed again. I just do not understand. ..we are so upset so confused and I now feel that I will never have a baby and my body has failed me. .good cycles, bad cycles, nhs, private, ivf, icsi, endo scratch, dhea ..have tried everything and just feel my body is telling me something. I can't go through this anymore I feel so hurt so lost so upset. Sorry to not bring better news and I cannot thank you all enough for your support and wish well for you all...tears streaming down my face as I type..think I may need some time for this one and time to find hope again. Much love xxxxx

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Tugsgirl

Vic I'm so so sorry. It isn't fair xx

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Cinderella5

Oh Vic I am soooo very sorry, I was praying for a better outcome for you!! Its heartbreaking having to go through this time after time! Im very sad for you, sending you massive hugs. If you ever need a chat then you know where I am sweetie, lots of love!xx

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C_L_A_I_R_E

So sorry Hun, give yourself some time. Love and hugs ❀️

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Fredaflintstone

Oh Vic, my words won't help at all - nothing can. I'm so sorry for your sad news. It's absolutely heart breaking and so unfair and horrible. I know if we have the same result following our upcoming FET that i would need some time out too. A good bit of time. It's such a harsh process - wonderful if it works but crushing when it doesn't. Be

Kind to yourself. Sending you the biggest of hugs. Xxx

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abcgirl

I am so sorry to hear this. You're right to listen to your body and heart and take the time you need. 😒 This whole journey is so cruel. You've done nothing wrong. Be sad, angry, frustrated - feel it all. But also Treat yourself today and be kind to yourself. Wishing you strength, courage and bravery to get through the day.

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Kyell2

Oh no! I am so sorry that you have had to go through this again. Look after each other, it is just beyond unfair and heart breaking πŸ˜”xx

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GCC08

Devastated for you ❀️ X

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Leo2017

So so sorry to hear this!!! The cruelest of journeys!! 😒xx

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Linda78

So sorry to hear this, it really is so unbelievably unfair x

I'm so very sorry. Sending love ❀️

So sorry to hear this look after yourself xx

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Orla9298

Ahhh vic77 im so, so sorry, I was really hoping this was the one for you. Take some time for yourself xxxx

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emmab178

Oh vic, so upset to hear this. Sending you and your OH big big hugs x

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Hormomalmess

She sorry to see this, huge hugs xx

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Hannah143

Ah sweetie, I'm so sorry to read your news, I thought about you first thing this morning. I hope you're taking today off work and allow yourself some time to grieve. I'm with you every step of the way and am here if you need a chat. Take care sweetie xx

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Goodthingscome

Oh Vic, I'm so sorry to read this. Take some time out, treat yourself and if/when you feel ready go again. Sending big hugs to you and your DH. xxx

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Penders

I'm so sorry to hear this. Sending you lots of hugs. ❀️ Xxx

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lorraineb61

So, so sorry - was hoping for better news for you today. I don't think anything hurts as much as this. Really hoped that this was your time xx

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Emily7

So so sorry to hear this. It's so unfair. Big hugs xx

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AllWeNeedIsluv

So so, very sorry hun such a difficult hard unfair journey. Bless ya hun sending you big hugs πŸ€— xxx

😘 just not fair! Big hugs xxx

So sorry x

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robbie03

So sorry darling 😒- my thoughts are with you and your OH. Thinking of you xxx

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Lucyloo81

Aw I'm so sorry to hear this life is so cruel be kind to yourself xxx

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Oakey80

Ah man, this really really sucks. So sorry to hear this 😒 xxx

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Ash2016

So sorry Vicky! I've been following this cycle and was so convinced you would get your positive 😒 you had a really positive sounding cycle and although you won't want to think about trying again right now you've you some frosties for when/if you decide to try again. Sending you lots of hugs xxx

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E_05

So sorry to read this, there really are no words as its just so unfair! Take the time you need to grieve, thinking of you xx

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CountryCat

So sorry to read this...can really feel your sorrow and am gutted that life is not more just :( Sending much love and hugs xx

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Amanda86

I'm so sorry Vic. It's so unfair 😒 Take all the time you need. We're here if you ever need to chat. Take care 😘 Xxx

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Elou81

I have no words. I am so very sorry. Take care of each other and be kind to yourself. You couldn't have done anymore. Sending you love and hugs xxxxx

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helsroo

I'm so sorry to hear this, Vic77. Take all the time you need, access all the support you can. H xxx

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7AVA

So, so sorry to read this today. Xxxxx

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Frenchie2017

I'm so so sorry to read this. My heart is breaking for you. Take time out just for you and your husband. Sending you big hugs xx

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mupcake

I am so sorry and I too m shocked. I was definitely expecting positive outcome for you. I will pray to God to give you strength and much peace. Take care of yourself. Don't be too hard. We will definitely get our piece of happiness!!

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kt_11

Really sorry to hear this. Was really rooting for you. Look after yourself xx

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Sherry07

I'm ever so sorry to hear that; such a cruel an unfair journey. Sending hugs and love ❀️

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baby2016

Aww Vic 😒😒 so gutted for you. This time seemed set for success, however, don't give up hope, you still have some frozen ones, and I really hope one of them is your baby. When your ready to go again I'd def push for two being put back, a few of my friends had numerous bfn on on putting 2 back they all have their longed for babies, so please don't loose all that positivity you have. Sending you a big hug xx

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Bumpwanted

I am so so sorry why is life so so cruel at times πŸ˜“πŸ˜“πŸ˜“ sending u some strength and hugs xx

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vic77

I can't thank all you amazing ladies enough for your support today which has really helped us both. As I know sit exhausted with a huge gin and my dh and furbaby asleep on the sofa beside me I just feel so empty and upset but tomorrow is a new day right and probably with a sore head from the gin it's back to work for me..best place for me I reckon. So hospital nurses and embryology staff were lovely today when we went in..recommending a natural cycle now with our frosties which seems a little less brutal.booked to see consultant next week so guess that's that..back on the treadmill..I have lost all hope though for today at least. .thanks again xxxxx

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Tugsgirlβ€’ in reply tovic77

Only wish it had been a different outcome for you. In the coming weeks I hope you'll find the strength and hope that you'll need in your next step of the journey. We'll all be here to support you xx

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vic77β€’ in reply toTugsgirl

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7AVAβ€’ in reply tovic77

Such a hard day for you. I know you feel your hope has gone, but I am still feeling hopeful for you and I'm sure others on here are too. Look after yourself, I hope work provides some distraction tomorrow. Xxx

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Leesara

Sorry to hear your news. Sending u my thoughts and I'll keep my fingers crossed for you oxo

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katya38

Oh no i am so so sorry that is just awful. It doesn't seem right xxx

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Daxi16

Bless you I'm so sorry. Life is so unfair sometimes. Take some time out and look after yourself xxx

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anna0908

As someone who has been through multiple ivf transfers without a sniff of a bfp, I completely remember the heartbreak of being where you are. I remember feeling that my body was just incapable of getting pregnant. I thought if good embryos werent leading to bfn's, there must be something wrong with me and my ability to accept an embryo. Then I fell pregnant naturally. It made me realise that they can only tell so much from a visual look at an embryo, and this ivf game is just down to luck. Some of us just take a little longer to get that positive result in this game of luck. Don't loose faith and I know in time you will feel ready to give your frozen embryos a home and I hope 1 of those makes your dreams come true. Best wishes xxx

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vic77β€’ in reply toanna0908

anna0908 your message brings me hope as finish my large gin.I remember you and your story. I feel the same as you describe and hope my hope returns and I wish you a happy healthy pregNancy. Your message really helped there so thank you xxxxx

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_MrsC

Oh Hun. How devastating. I am so sorry. It is just so unfair. I know it's just so heartbreaking after all you've been through. You feel so cheated when you have tried so hard to achieve something others take for granted. I felt the same way after our last bfn and just knew I couldn't do any more. Take your time to grieve this loss before making any final decisions. I'm here if you want to scream and rant. Again, I'm just so sorry. xxx

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Aleelilook

I'm so sorry to read this sweets, be kind to yourself and let yourself grieve. It really is just shit, and all I can say is I'm thinking of you xxxxxx

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Lucylu_88

I'm so sorry to read this. It's desperately unfair and my heart goes out to you.

Just wanted to send my love and strength.

xxx

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Angelpopa

Sorry to read this. After finding out my cycle failed yesterday, I need to step away for a while and try and focus on other things. I'm done for now I know how it hurts 😒xx

So sorry to hear this, look after yourself xxx

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Lou9

I am so sad to read this. So very sad. Sending you love and strength. X

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NMP1026

This is truly heartbreaking. Thinking of you and your OH xx

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Kelly-03

So so sorry to hear this x it is a difficult journey and I hope you find Hope again xx take your time and I hope that you are able to speak to your clinic and hopefully they can help you xx thinking of you xx

πŸ˜₯πŸ˜₯πŸ˜₯ right with you.

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Macavela

Awww sweetheartπŸ’” all words that come to mind seem worthless. I'm so sorry you and your DH are going through this, there's no logic to it and it's so unfair. You're an absolute trooper seeing your consultant next week. When you decide your next move we are all behind you!πŸ’ž

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Jaky76

Big hugs.. So sorry xxx

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cls37

I am so so sorry xxx

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-noodles-

oh no vic - i am terribly sorry for your loss. just so hard to comprehend when your cycle went well. infertility is inexplicably cruel.

words seem utterly useless, but please know we are all thinking of you & sending our love xxxx

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bluewanderlust

So very sorry to read this and hear how heartbroken you are. Sending you love and hope for the future xxx

Sorry to hear this Vic. The pain & struggle is so unfair on these journeys.

Love & hugs xxx

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Lisablue

Stay strong, rest and get cuddled by your partner. And when you gather your strength again, it might be the right time to decide what to do. Now you are too upset, just give yourself time to go over it. I wish you all the best for your future.

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Hormomalmess

I am so sorry to see this. Big hugs xx

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LisaMV

So sorry. Hugs xxxx

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jenny34

I'm so so sorry. We are all thinking of you. Life is not fair and is bloody cruel. Sending so much love xxxxxxx

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Persian40

So sorry, it's so crap. I had another negative today as well. Nothing can make it better but I am planning on booking things to take my mind off it all. I used to be really fit and a good runner before all this ivf poo! So, I'm getting some personal training booked in to get my body back to where it was. Have a holiday next week and I've also just applied to do the masters degree I've always said I would do. None of it will make up for no baby but it will keep me busy.

Look after yourself. Sending you lots of love xx

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Flootles

I completely understand and feel your pain. You try not to get your hopes every time, but there is always that optimism every single time. Love yourself, give yourself some time.

If it helps, my partner and I decided to stop trying his year after 5 years and started the adoption process; I caught the next month. I think sometimes without meaning to, we put so pressure on ourselves and we need to relax.

Unfortunately, I lost the baby at 9 weeks, but the experience has helped me to chill out about the whole process. And you never know . . . maybe one day.

I wish you all the best, never give up hope and keep smiling. We're all here with you.

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Momsofnations

Hello dear, I hope this helps, i have beem a a TTC for 6years. in 2015 I had my first ivf cycle ,it was a big flop , I was devastated, downcasted, disappointed ,not just because of the physical pains of severe OHSS but the psychological trauma , all attempts to conceive proved abortive so we decided to give ivf another shot and this time ,despite all the zero symptoms during the 2ww, we got our BFP two days ago. Don't give up, dont fret because God is still at work, he will do it for you.

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Momsofnations

I will be praying for you Vic

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Gigi2018

I know how you feel Vic. I'm still hoping for natural pregnancy (with help of acupuncture ) and every month feel more and more disappointed. It is so painful and I don't even want to discuss it with my husband anymore. I think he's got enough of me. Trying to stay positive and attract good thoughts.... But reality always hit me!

Please don't give up! We need to believe that it will happen one day!

Xx

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