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Want to Have a Baby Through IVF But Not Married

I am 35 years old and i am in a live in relationship with my boyfriend from the past 3 years. We have been wanting to have a baby since a very long time but i haven't been able to conceive. I got my tests done recently and found out that the quality of my eggs are not that good. We are considering IVF and i would like to know if it is allowed since we are not married. It would be great if any of you could share your experiences with me!Any help would be appreciated!

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you defiantly are allowed ivf if you are not married,


Thank you for your message.Do you have any experience regarding that or do you know anybody who has opted in for surrogacy despite being unmarried? Would love to hear some first hand experiences :D.


Not an issue. Just an added couple of consent paper to sign, that is all... 😉


Hey Kattalex, Do you have any first hand experience with the same.


Yes, I was not married during my first IVF. We just had to sign additional permission documents. Once those were signed, we started the process. No issues.


Where is the clinic? USA? or Australia?


This is a very old post....over a year!


Uk 🇬🇧


That wouldn't be an issues. My partner and I are in the same boat


Thank you for your reply Leesara. Please let me know more about your experience. Has your treatment started? Which clinic have you opted for. Do let me know since my local clinic has refused to do it.



Here is some information .

Don't worry ...you are allowed for ivf. Un married women is not a problem but you are in a good relationship (I think you both have good understanding, since maintaining from 3 years That's great )and wanting to have a child.

Before treatment please select best hospital and select which has success rate high and After treatment started take care about yourself and please follow the doctors suggestions that will make you easy to not getting any disturbance.

Congratulations in advance for ur upcoming baby.The below information contains the History and rules that may give you some idea about ivf.please read it.

History of IVF : The technique was developed in the United Kingdom by Doctors Patrick Steptoe and Robert Edwards. The first so-called "test-tube baby", Louise Brown, was born as a result on July 25, 1978 amid intense controversy over the safety and morality of the procedure. The first in-vitro fertilization, to produce test tube baby "Durga" in India and second in the world was performed by a Calcutta based doctor Dr.Subhash Mukhopadhyay on October 3, 1978. Both these events caused public debate, criticism and even social professional ostracism of those involved in initiating life outside the body. Besides these obstacles the techniques of IVF has survived as a method of choice for treating some type of infertility. The first successful IVF treatment in the USA (producing Elizabeth Carr) took place in 1981 under the direction of Drs Howard and Georgeanna Seegar Jones in Norfolk, Virginia. Since then IVF has exploded in popularity, with as many as 1% of all births now being conceived in-vitro, with over 115,000 born in the USA to date.

IVF is done in the following cases:

1. Women with blocked fallopian tubes

2. Ovulation problems.

3. Mild degree of seminal problems for the man.

4. Unexplained infertility cases.

5. Presence of seminal antibodies in the woman's body.

Steps involved in IVF Procedure :

1. Ovarian stimulation by hormonal injections to produce multiple eggs

2. Monitoring of the response by ultrasound scans and blood tests

3. Egg retrieval with the help of a needle under local / general anesthesia

4. Fertilization of the eggs in laboratory

5. Transfer of the resulting embryo(s) into the uterus of the woman Blood test performed 15 days after embryo transfer, to assess the establishment of pregnancy. If the treatment procedure is successful, one or more of the embryos will implant in the uterus and pregnancy will result, just as it happens in the natural process of conception.

Another aspect of IVF, cryopreservation has in recent times gained popularity. Cryopreservation is the process of cooling and dehydrating an embryo to allow it to be stored for a long period of time. This process has gained popularity because it allows a woman undergoing IVF procedures to use possibly all of her retrieved and fertilized eggs. Cryopreservation eliminates the need to implant all of a woman?s resulting embryos at once, which something results in multiple pregnancies. In addition, the process reduces the number of time a woman may have to undergo egg retrieval if the first IVF attempts are unsuccessful in producing a pregnancy.

Regulatory events :

In many countries t regulate many aspects of IVF practice. In such settings regulations may dictate:

· The number of oocyte that can be fertilized.

· The number of embryos that can be transferred.

· The use of cryopreservation.

· The use of third party reproduction.

· The ability to perform tests or interventions on the embryo.

Some problems of IVF :

1. Eggs and Embryos have been stolen from women and given to other or to researchers.

2. Fertility drugs have been sold illegally.

3. Medical records have gone amiss.

4. Women recruited as surrogate mother have refused to part with the newborn baby that they have conceived to assist couples to bear a child.

Thank you ...


Wow! that is a lot of information. Cant Thank you enough.


Do you want any information more?


Hiya! Im with my partner of 5 years and we're not married, we are having our first round of IVF. You just need to sign the paperwork together. Go for it and Good Luck. x


Hey! Thats good news. Tell me more about your experience since my IVF hasnt begun yet.


Hey! i was going through the same thing sometime back. I have been living with my boyfriend from the past few years and after some tests i found out that i have endometriosis and a polyp. I got it removed sometime back and i have decided to consider IVF abroad. My boyfriend and i are going to clinic soon! Our tickets are booked for next month. I feel a lot of pressure is but I'm ready for it. Got to try. You should too!


Hi. I have a friend who is trying to use a sperm donor and is not married.

You do not need to be married to be able to start a fertility treatment . There is no requirement that you be forced to receive fertility treatment. It is enough that both agree. So you will not have a problem with that: D

I recommend that you attend the consultations together. That will give them mutual support. Good luck to both.


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