Feeling stupid

[LauraGU]

So I went to the zoo today with my nieces and nephew. There were so many young families there and all I could think about was did they get pregnant easily and will we ever be here with our own children. This infertility malarkey doesn't get any easier does it. I ended up brushing off my tears that I had just yawned 🙄 Xxx

[E_05]

Ah I totally get how you feel, I was feeding my nephew out the other day and someone I knew who I hadn't seen for months came over like 'aw I didn't know you were expecting' I had to quickly say he's my nephew but wanted the ground to swallow me up.

It sure doesn't get easier, have a good cry tonight if you need to and you definitely shouldn't feel stupid your clearly just being a lovely aunt x

[LauraGU in reply to E_05]

Thank you, it really is crap isn't it. I love being an Auntie so much but it sure is hard at times xxx

[E_05 in reply to LauraGU]

It sure is, I'm exactly the same I love spending time and taking them out but can't help upset that it's not my children. One day it'll be our turn xx

[NsKaz]

Oh girls, this really resonated with me. I love my nieces and nephews but sometimes it's just so difficult. The emotions hit you hard and don't care where you are either!

My husband was teaching my nephew to play guitar over Easter and I had to run out of the room - sometimes it's so painful to see him interacting with children - always thinking, will he ever do this with our children?

Don't feel silly at all! Be kind to yourself xx here's hoping we all get what we want one day soon xx

[pm27]

We went to an animal park yesterday with our God children & family. There were bumps of various sizes, babies including almost new borns in addition to all the children. Mostly I'm fine with things but yesterday did test me! I tried to focus on our God children's enjoyment rather than what might have been (there won't be any children for us now).

[LauraGU in reply to pm27]

It's just so hard isn't it. It was literally only the other day I though wow I'm doing ok at he min, and then suddenly it hits you xxx

[NsKaz]

And why is it that when you are TTC you see bumps, babies and buggies EVERYWHERE?!! I swear it's like a conspiracy out to get me haha 😂

[Pinky_123]

So glad I came on here tonight! We took our nephews to the zoo on Sunday (and I agree, full of bumps and babies, what was I thinking?!). On the way back we stopped for tea and when my husband went to order the food my littlest nephew (he's 7) said 'auntie Jen, did you want kids?'. I ignored the past tense and said yes I do one day. Haven't stopped thinking about it since. You can't help thinking will I ever do this with my own. Hope you still managed to have a lovely day with the little ones Laura xx

[LauraGU in reply to Pinky_123]

I did thank you. My eldest niece who is also 7 said to me a few weeks ago I don't think I want to be a Mum, I'd rather be an Auntie. I pointed out she could be both and she just said well why don't you?! Oh if it were that simple xxx

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Such a difficult road and so unfair... but you will do it!! Hugs to you all 💪🏼👊🏼🤞🏼 xxx

[Kyell2]

Aww it's so tough doing the auntie thing when TTC. But spending time with my nephews and nieces is so much fun that I do it anyway.

Although children are shockingly honest at times and my 4 year old niece said to me the other day 'when will you have a baby in your tummy like my mummy does, don't you want a baby in your tummy'. Then I died a little inside 😞

[Tugsgirl]

I took my bunny Otto to the vets today (nothing major) and there was a pregnant lady in the waiting room with her husband, son and their cat. Their son couldn't behave, I'm sorry to say he was acting like a brat but anyway the lady was complaining about being left on her own soon with "Henry" and a newborn, like it was a major hardship. She said "I'll just have to get Mum to come and stay with us" I wanted to say "Well consider yourself lucky. I'm sitting here with a sore stomach from daily Lubion injections, one day post transfer on my third ivf cycle after having lost our precious baby on our second cycle!!!" But I didn't. I bit my tongue and fought my tears.

Only we know the struggle and the heartache xx