We had a failed first cycle with miscarriage after 6 weeks and chose to keep it to ourselves. I have since only told a couple of close friends.
Now my sister in law is due to give birth any day now ( her second since we started trying ) and my mother in law has been staying over with them to be part of the action and help them out. She clearly favours my SIL as she has children and spends so much more time with them than with us - understandable I guess but still even when we're all together she tends to ignore me a bit.
My husband has other health issues and I'd text her with an update the other day about something health related and how I was worried. She ignored my message and I even 24 hours later still hadn't replied. So I asked her whether she'd received my text and she said yes but she's been busy with my SIL and nephew and is there at the moment.
So how she can't even spare the time to reply I have no idea. Anyway it was too much for me so I called her. To cut a long story short we had an argument about her preferring them as they have kids, and her not caring about my husband. When she told me that my SIL needs the help that's when I accidentally told her about our miscarriage. I didn't tell her any detail just that we had one and what she said was 'I'm so angry why didn't you tell me?'. So that confirms why we didn't tell her in the first place, but I didn't think for a second that this would be her reaction. I had to beg her to not tell anyone.
I basically wished her a nice evening and it hasn't been mentioned since. It was my husband's birthday on the weekend and we saw his parents but it wasn't mentioned (I guess not the time) but still no acknowledgment or words of sympathy from her. I just don't get how people can be like this???
Has anyone had similar reactions?
I am blocking it out currently and dreading going to the hospital to meet the new baby. It just shows me that we did the right thing not telling them but to get this reaction is beyond me. Or am I unreasonable? I know IVF can make you lose perspective occasionally
Sorry about the long post and thank you for reading.
Wishing everyone all the luck in the world wherever you are in your journeys !!