Help!

[_MrsC]

On a hen weekend and all they're talking about is babies and how easy it is to get pregnant. 😪 Been here for 45 minutes and already want to go home. xxx

[Hope_4_2017x]

Oh no i hate situations like this.. not really any easy way to deal with it, other than the shock factor of telling them the truth- that would shut them up lol. Try and stay strong, sending hugs xxx

[Georgina78]

Oh god you poor thing, that does sound extremely difficult 😩 I've been there too, I once got a group of my girlfriends together for my birthday and all they talked about was motherhood..I wanted to shout ITS MY BIRTHDAY, CAN YOU NOT!! but of course I sat and grinned & beared it and vowed never again.

Is there anyone there who knows what you're going through? Could you get them onside to try and change the subject? Hope it gets better Hun xxx

[misswinky34]

oh no!! ☹ hopefully they will talk about it now and be done with it for the rest of the weekend!! ❤❤ big hugs xxxx

[Amanda86]

I hate situations like this. They're absolutely awful. I have friends who know about my situation and when we're together still continue to talk like this. Some people just don't get it!!!

Could you maybe make a joke of things and say something like "we're on a hen weekend so let's move on from baby talk" or maybe just to really shut them up say "it's not easy for everyone to get pregnant!".

I really hope the conversation topic changes soon. It's awful having to sit and listen to that and put a brave face on xxx

[cls37]

Oh Hun sounds terrible! Hopefully they will get it out of their system and the subject will change x

[_MrsC]

Thanks all. I only know the hen so it's a bit difficult. She knows we struggle but not about the ivf. Fortunately she came back down and has steered the conversation somewhere else. I might be needing positive affirmations through the day. 😍 you all. Thank you. xxx

[cls37 in reply to _MrsC]

We'll keep sending you happy texts to get you through- you can do this lovely lady x

[kelsbels88]

Oh no hun that's no fun.. 😢 hope conversation changes soon

Sending hugs xx

[_MrsC in reply to kelsbels88]

Thank you. 😘

[lauren3189]

Aww sending big hugs surely they won't speak about that the whole time xx

[_MrsC in reply to lauren3189]

Thank you! 😘

[Loopielu]

Glad the hen seems to be sensitive Mrs C! Just grit teeth 😬, paste on a smile and drift off to think about other things if they start again... absolutely the worst situation to be in. Thinking of you. Stay strong - and smug - you're still PUPO remember!! 😘😘 xx

[_MrsC in reply to Loopielu]

Thank you! 😘

[Fredaflintstone]

That sounds awful! And you can't even just sit and get merrily drunk while the others waffle on. Be strong Hun. Glad the conversation has moved on now. Xx

[_MrsC in reply to Fredaflintstone]

Thank you. 😘

[Gem11 in reply to _MrsC]

Change the topic, make up a scandal to keep them interested😂😂😂😂

[_MrsC in reply to Gem11]

That's a great idea! x

[Fredaflintstone in reply to _MrsC]

I'm really struggling today too so you are not alone. You're a very strong person and are very supportive to all of us too. I've got everything crossed for you. If it gets too much maybe go for a walk or something to take some time out. Sending big hugs xxx

[_MrsC in reply to Fredaflintstone]

Thank you Hun. 😘 x

[Tugsgirl]

Is there no one who knows your struggles? The bride to be maybe? Can you have a word with her and tell her how you feel? Ask her if she can steer the subject away from babies and children? I don't what else to suggest. I can guarantee if it were me everyone of those girls would know to limit the baby talk because I would tell everyone, but that's just me xx

Only just read your comments...

[_MrsC in reply to Tugsgirl]

Thanks yeah the problem is I only know the hen and that is because she's marrying my hubby's best friend. She's so lovely but Nick and I have decided not to share our ivf journey. Xxx

[Hidden in reply to Tugsgirl]

Good point. We all need to share with people in our lives. We'll push through and stay strong. xx

[London7]

Oh no. Those situations are the worst. Pre-IVF I would drink through them but you don't even have that option now. I really feel for you. I was in a similar situation recently and found the only way I could get through it was by mentally talking to myself in my own head about all the wonderful things I have that made me happy and that these other women couldn't possibly have - my relationship etc. That said, I also left the party early because it was just too much. Put yourself first and if you can push through it do but equally no shame in making your excuses if it is too much. Put yourself first xx

[_MrsC in reply to London7]

Thank you so much. x

[Clare_lou]

Oh no. Those situations are just so difficult, painful and lonely. You are a braver woman than me just for being there! I've pretty much avoided these things for the last couple of years. Like some of the other ladies have said, if it all gets too much go for a walk or something and get some breathing space. Do whatever you need to protect yourself. In the meantime, sending you positive thoughts and virtual hugs! Xxx

[_MrsC in reply to Clare_lou]

Thank you x

[7AVA]

You are doing wonderfully well - I'm not even able to go to things like this at the moment! I've looked up some affirmations for you....

I am physically and emotionally healthy and responsive to IVF.

I am doing the best I can in this moment.

I am strong.

I can do this.

I am confident I will become a mother.

I love myself.

Pick your favourite! (And if you can feign illness and sneak off early then do it!! You can always have a quiet word in the bride to be's ear - something about being in the 2ww should sort it!). Best of luck xxx

[_MrsC in reply to 7AVA]

Thank you! These have been great! x

[Rosalietea]

Oh that just sucks!!!! You poor thing. I get it a lot at work during lunchtime chatter but I have the option of walking away and feigning going back to work or doing some life admin at the computers. Much harder to walk away in that situation. I do hope they move on from the topic and don't return to it so you can recover and enjoy yourself again xxx

[_MrsC in reply to Rosalietea]

Thanks. It got better but it's been hard to explain not drinking. x

[Rosalietea in reply to _MrsC]

Oh yes of course! That's really tough. It's put me off going to so many events for such a long time. You're brave to even be there!!! x

[Hidden in reply to Rosalietea]

You tell it like it is! She is very brave. We're all brave for this journey we're on.

[AmyA19]

That sounded awful I hope you got through it ok. That will be me next weekend and I'm dreading it. But my recent IVF failed so at least I can drink to get through it!!! I like the suggestions of feigning illness though. Xxx

[Hidden]

Awww chin up! Share with them and tell them you're happy for them!!! We love ya! We'll keep trying until we get our babies. xxx