Some days are hard

[robbie03]

In the middle of referral for IVF, and feel the waiting is never ending! How do cope with these harder days? I also can never complain and wouldn't compare myself to the strong ladies I read about every day going through the challenging and difficult times! Just feeling blue and can't see that bright light ahead! Xxx

[jam1982]

I would say try and enjoy yourself, go for nice walks, occupy your mind, because once you're on the rollercoaster it will be all-consuming! Looking back on our journey which all happened within a year, it flew by! Xxx

[emu2016]

What Jam said! The waiting can be tough. We were postponed twice in our first round. I felt like my life was on hold. But in reality it isn't... just get out there and do nice things x

[London7]

The waiting is miserable! I know what you mean. But I second what Emu and Jam have said - get out and fill the time with fun things - do the things you won't be able to when this all kicks off. Go for a last minute day trip somewhere fun on the weekend or weekend away. Or do a long country walk (without feeling cripplingly tired!). Meet friends for drinks or dinner. X

[discobec]

This journey is tough and the waiting around can be miserable.

There are days and sometimes weeks when I feel fine and there are times when I'm really not. You'll amaze yourself with your strength and resilience sometimes!

Counselling has helped me and you should be able to access it once you're listed at a clinic. I've also read Trying to get Pregnant (and Succeeding) by Marissa Peers, which is about developing a positive mindset.

Best of luck to you. Xx

[emmab178]

Just got to keep your spirits up. The rollercoaster whilst full of drugs will come round fast enough. Overall I had a 9 month wait from initial referral and swore I could hear my eggs turning to dust each day.

As others have said, use this time to do fun things. Also there's a book called the secret which is all about the power of positive thinking. Really helped me switch from pessimist to optimist on the journey x

[cls37 in reply to emmab178]

The book you have recommended sounds interesting- think I will have to have a look! The drug taking is definitely a rollercoaster and I don't think any words of advice quite prepare you for what you body goes through. Am ready to start menopur any day now and really hoping that I start to pick up!!! It's a tough long journey xx

[lauren3189]

I am too feeling like this at the minute after finding out I will have a seven month wait. How long is it for you x

[robbie03]

Thanks for all your supportive messages - I think it's the doing nothing that I'm finding hard, but you are right time to enjoy this time. We are away with friends next weekend so nice times to be had. Will check out the book to try and cope better! Thanks girls! Xxx

[Rosalietea in reply to robbie03]

I started reading books like "it starts with the egg" all about improving egg quality in between rounds 2 and 3 to help the waiting. I found it useful because I could action changes that would hopefully help improve egg quality over the 2-3months that they are developing pre cycle. But tbh that might not be necessarily a good thing as you can easily get over obsessed and get stressed about it too. As I said by round 3 I was getting a bit more desperate to try anything!!! I totally second what the others have already said though. Those ladies have their heads well and truly screwed on xxx