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We are home ๐Ÿก ๐Ÿ’”๐Ÿ’”๐Ÿ’”

We are home ๐Ÿก ๐Ÿ’”๐Ÿ’”๐Ÿ’”

I'm quite sore. I am sitting in the garden with my little box. We shouldn't have to have bought our baby home this way. It should have been a happy time. Instead my heart is so heavy and sad. We're going to buy a proper little wooden box and give our babba bean some dignity.

I will never forget how I loved it the moment I knew it was inside me, growing. Seeing those two little lines. I will never forget the magic when we saw its little heart beating. How relieved I was!! How happy I was and proud. Rest in peace our little babba bean. We love you forever xxx

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๐Ÿ’œ๐Ÿ’œ๐Ÿ’œ๐Ÿ’œ๐Ÿ’œ๐Ÿ’œxxxx

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๐Ÿ’œsending a huge hug from both my partner and I ๐Ÿ˜˜๐Ÿ˜ž

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Oh Tugs, I'm so so sorry for you. xx

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sending lots of love and hugs. No one should have to go through what you've been through. Look after yourselves and each other xxxx

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Rest in peace little angel! Your angel will always be with you. Take time to heal. I feel your exact pain. Big hugs to you xxx

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I have no words except I'm so so sorry ๐Ÿ˜”Xxxx

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Hopefully being able to bring the little one home can help you to bring you some peace. If you are putting them in your garden then every time you see spring flowers you can remember that they existed for a short but important time. Thinking of you x

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So sad for you xx nice that you have it home safe with you xx take your time to grieve xx

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My thoughts are with you both, look after each other โค๏ธ x

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RIP sweet angel โค๏ธ

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So sorry Tugsgirl ๐Ÿ˜š๐Ÿ˜š xxx

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It's not fair and life is cruel...

Some people plant a plant or tree in their garden as a memory...I got a pot of bubbles and blew them in the garden :-(

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We have been given a "bleeding heart" outside plant that flowers every spring. We'll place it with that, play it the song I played it when it was in my belly (I know it never heard really) and light a candle xx

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That sounds lovely x

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Bleeding hearts are gorgeous they bloom wonderfully for weeks on end. You can have a little patch when your little one is and you'll never be far away then, wishing you well xx

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โคโคโคโคโค xxxx

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I'm so sad for you both reading this!!๐Ÿ˜ขSending you lots of cuddles!xx

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Sending big hugs ๐Ÿค— xx

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๐Ÿ˜˜ can only promise it does get easier, I'm evidence of that. Take care of yourself x

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๐Ÿ’—๐Ÿ’—๐Ÿ’—๐Ÿ’—๐Ÿ’—๐Ÿ˜ข

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Sending lots and lots of love ๐Ÿ’ž

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I'm so incredibly sorry for your loss ๐Ÿ˜ข While it has gotten easier, I still feel the sadness of losing a much wanted and loved little angel at 6 weeks 18months ago. As soon as you see those two linesโ€‹ they are a part of your family, you have hopes and dreams for them and they are loved forever. Be kind to yourselves at this incredibly hard time. Sending much love xx

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I'm so sorry that this has happened Tugsgirl. I hope you can begin to heal soon. Sending you lots of love and hugs. Xxx

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โค๏ธ

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So sorry tugs girl thinking of you xxx

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I'm so sorry this has happened. I am thinking of you both xxx

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Life is so cruel, I feel so sad for you both. Take care of each other xxx

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So sorry to know it...rest in peace little one...thinking about you...tc of urself....

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I'm so sorry, it's the hardest thing, I'll be thinking of you x

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I wish I knew what to say, I feel so sad for you, and am so sorry for your heartbreak xx

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๐Ÿ’•๐Ÿ’•๐Ÿ’•๐Ÿ’•๐Ÿ’•

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Lots of love and hugs โคโค

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Aw tugsgirl, I just want to let you know that lots of us were thinking of you today. You've been so brave sharing this very hard and emotional time with us all, but at the same time we are all here to support you. take as much time as you need to let everything sink it as for a while it will all be very raw and emotional and don't worry about how many tears you or your partner shed, it is all part of this cruel process. Huge hugs being sent to you. Your angel will always be with you as are mine ๐Ÿ˜˜Xxx

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Thank you so very much xx

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Message me anytime if you need to ask anything or just need to vent xxx

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That's so very kind of you xx

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โค I'm so sorry, I really am xxx

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๐Ÿ’œ๐Ÿ’œ๐Ÿ’œ๐Ÿ’œ

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Feeling ur pain. Miscarriage twice. Nobody can ever take this pain away. Lots of love

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Cannot put into words how sorry I am Xxxxxxxxxxxxx

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Of course you're not insane! I talked to my baby in my womb, I talked to it when it was an embryo. I made it promises I couldn't keep ๐Ÿ˜ข I had the box in the living room last night and then we put it in the bedroom with us last night. Am I calling it the box? No. I'm calling it the baby xx

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Aw Tugsgirl, what a cruel cruel thing this all is.

I fully understand that you talked to your baby and brought him/her to your bedroom. We did this too and referred to him by the pet name we'd given him and we still do.

Thinking of you both and sending hugs and love xxx

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Sending a big hug to you dear. The Lord will wipe your tears and give you everlasting joy.Amen

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Yesterday was horrific. I'm struggling this morning between being in shock and feeling detached from it all and feeling a huge sense of loss and grief. Physically I still feel sore from yesterday. Also I still feel pregnant; painful boobs and I've woken up feeling sick as usual. They said it would take a few days for my hormones to settle back to pre pregnancy. None of this seems real but I know I made the right decision ๐Ÿ˜ข xx

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Lots and lots of hugs to you. Take care of yourself and allow yourself the time you need. Speaking as someone who has had a miscarriage, a time will come when you will feel the warmth of the sun gently on your soul but that timing is different for everyone. And yes, part of that is hormone-related... X

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So so sorry to hear this. Thinking of you xxxxx

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A few people have already asked me if I could put myself through trying again (people with children) and I say to them "If you'd gone through what I have gone through to have your baby/babies would you change a thing? Wouldn't you lay down your life for theirs? Wouldn't any pain and heartache you'd been through all have been worth it?" Of course it would. I will get stronger in the coming days, weeks or months and I will give my three remaining embies every chance of life possible xx

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Those people are off their heads to have asked you that so soon. I'm mad that someone has actually had the balls to say that to you! People who haven't been through this struggle don't understand.

Take really good care of yourself and give yourself real time to grieve. Just do you for a while xxx

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I guess they just don't want to see me hurting the way I'm hurting right now ever again. But you are so right, people who haven't been through this struggle, especially the struggle of infertility and ivf don't understand. I've questioned myself if this ever happens to me again can I cope? Who knows? But I do know this; I'm going to try again and I'm not giving up xx

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No matter what happens, you'll cope; you are a strong, capable person! But being a strong person doesn't mean you don't get to fall apart when things go so painfully wrong. Lots of love xxxx

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Thinking of you Tugsgirl. It is such a hard time. Do whatever you need to do to get through this time and be as gentle with yourself as you can. Take care xx

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๐Ÿ˜ข๐Ÿ’” sending big hugs to you. Xxx

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oh my.... I am here with you! I want you to know we all are here for you, we will support you till the very end, just know it! we're with you!

I can't contain my tears, I am crying with you, I do not want this to be real, I want this to be a dream your pain is enormous!! I can even feel it.

Please get better, you do not have to get well soon as you really need time, take care of yourself...

i am with you

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Thank you for your lovely heartfelt words x

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Sending gentle hugs and peaceful thoughts your way, it's amazing how strong women can be at such cruel times, be kind to yourself xxx

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Sending you a big hug xxxxx

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There are no words so I just send love ๐Ÿ’œ

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My tears rolling down. U are 200% sane. And those who have not gone through d same road as u they'll never understand. So it's pointless to evento expect anything of them . Just remember they don't know what uve gone through but they r trying there best to help you . U have been one of d strongest person u know . So if u need to breakdown and cry ur heart out I'm sure e everyone here will understand. U need to grieve. Sending u loads of love my dear.

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Thank you, you're very kind x

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Sorry to hear of your loss. We feel your pain, we know, we have been thought it. Even if it's weeks or months it's very difficult. Thinking of you at this difficult time Xx

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Thinking of you both xxโค

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I am so heartbroken for you. Life can be so cruel and unfair. Sending you love and support ๐Ÿ’”

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Tugsgirl my heart goes out to you. Im so sorry for your loss. Be good to yourself xxxx

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I'm trying. Thank you xx

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My heart breaks for u.sending lots of love xxxx

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I am so sorry xxx

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