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Hi

I had a heavy bleeding and tremendous pain yesterday morning... and I've seen 2 bloody clots......... this nightmare lasted for half an hour and then no blood at all only cramps. I went to a hospital immediately after that. ultrasound showed no sweet peas inside me..it was a miscarriage. . . I wasn't ready for this...I can't move on, just can't. I hope you are all ok.

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So sorry to hear this, take time out and look after yourself xx

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Thank you x

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72cloud9

So very sorry to hear this.no words can make it ok.sending u love & hugs xxx

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Petricker in reply to72cloud9

thank you, hun

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-noodles-

i am so terribly sorry for your loss - i hope you find strength in the coming hours and days. please be kind to yourself 😘

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Petricker in reply to-noodles-

thank you...i'll try if i have energy

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Cinderella5

So sorry to read this, look after yourself!xx

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Petricker in reply toCinderella5

thank you!!x

So sorry to hear this look after yourselfs xx

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Kloulou83

So sorry to hear this. ☹️ Xx

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Tugsgirl

So very sorry to read this x

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MommaBear16

Petricker I am so sorry to read this. Sending so much love to you. You're not supposed to just move on, it will take time, courage and strength but for now you need to let yourself feel how you do and be kind to yourself. I wish there was something I could say to make you feel better. Lots of love x x x

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Petricker in reply toMommaBear16

Thank you, MommaBear16! i appreciate you for these kind words. I think I need a lot of time for recovery. I was so high after my bfp, it was the first one in my life, and now I just don't know what to do. I'm sure it takes much time to make a decision, right decision I mean ...but I don't know if there is a right one. I hate my body for what it did to me... I wish there were such words. You are going through 2ww now? xxx

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Smithha

I am truly heartbroken for you , so so sorry to read this. Thinking of, and take all the time you need, sending you lots of love xxxxxxxxxxxxxx

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Erika000

Oh, dear it’s awful to hear such a news. I only can imagine what you are felling right now. Please don’t give up and don’t sink into a depression. Just wait until you will recover after miscarriage and try again.

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Petricker in reply toErika000

thank you dear! but it's hard to be positive after all. I can't imagine myself trying again. it's too hard to think about future right now. how do you feel?

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Blooo33

Oh no, I was afraid of this! Wish you only quick recovering, my dear. It’s not the end. Try again and never give up. All your thoughts must keep positive direction! I’m with you. We all gonna send you our support and we concern about you! Be strong!and i hope you will

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Petricker in reply toBlooo33

Thank you! I hope it's not the end. you know, it's hard to stay positive after all, although I know I must be and I'm trying to.

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Blooo33 in reply toPetricker

How are you today? The best skill to live happily is being able to pass by all failures forgeting them.

Fate is cruel but sometimes it rewards us with the deserved gifts. And I want you to face the time when your destiny is equitable to you. XXX

Hold on, girl!

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Pookymama

I am so very sorry for your loss Petricker. This is such a cruel pain that is not fully understood until experienced.

Please take your time to grieve with your partner. Do not rush back to responsibilities until you truly feel ready as you need time to process and heal.

Be gentle with yourself and be around nurturing people when you're ready to help you regain your strength.

Sending you love, light, courage and wishes for better days to come.

Xxxxxxx

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Petricker in reply toPookymama

Thank you Pookymama! This experience is too hard to bear. and all those people who try to support me , well it's so nice and I really feel better ..a little. My hubby pretends nothing happend...don't know if it's the best decision in such case but we don't talk about it. I will try to keep the light. xxx

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Georgina78

So so sorry to hear this petricker, life can be so cruel 😔 Sending hugs xxx

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misswinky34

I'm very sorry xxx

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knudsenan

feel sorry for losing your sweet peas. I know life sometimes can be cruel and unfair. We are not protected from its pitfalls. Every event plays an important role, only God knows the reason for your loss. Just give it a time. Try to spend more time with your family, relax and do what you like. Your body needs to recover. I know it's painful and takes a lot of time but you have to be strong in order to become healthy as soon as it's possible. I'm with you and will support every minute you want me.

So very sorry to hear this! Sending love and strength to you for this hard time x

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Beanme

Im so sorry for your loss Petricker. Be good to yourself and do a bit of pampering. Have a good cry because you are entitled to. I had mc 6years ago and i found lighting a candle for my beans helped me when i was thinking of them. I felt that like the light of the candle i was lucky to have had them even if it was for a short time. Dont give up hope xxx

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Georgina78 in reply toBeanme

What a lovely thing to do and a great attitude despite the pain Beanme xx

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Krikri

So so sorry to read this... I had a miscarriage too and I thought it was the worst day of my life. Chin up! Positive moments are yet to come! <3

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Amanda86

So sorry to be reading this. Give yourself time to heal and let yourself feel however you need to. It's a truly heartbreaking situation and something your never prepared for. Sending love your way. Take care xxz

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allieb21

I'm so sorry to read this. Please take care and take time to grieve xxx

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Buffy21

Sending hugs and understanding your way. We all feeling for you 💗xx

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Nesfin

I'm really sorry to read this after your joyful BFP 😓😓 There are no right words to comfort you but know that you need to look after yourself and give it time to heal. I wish I could make it better xoxo

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Jaky76

Sending huge hugs.. So sorry for your loss xxx 🌼🌺🌻🌹🥀🌷🌸

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pradhan

Heartbreaking posts every now and then !

It seems like a personal loss whenever someone somewhere looses those treasured peas so suddenly. The loss is irreplaceable - atleast for some months before other happenings camouflouge it and you gain the strength to move on, brushing away memories and doubts whenever they resurface.

Here is something to sustain it:

Wet mud taken from earthen pottery maker (half tsp) mixed with 100 ml goat milk to be taken thrice a week once you are diagnosed positive of pregnancy.

Remember, this does not rule out all routine precautions prescribed. Also, more the age (above 34) more the precautions. Whenever you move around, walk, lie, sit or whatever - act as if you are holding a dinner plate filled with water to the brim - get it ? Till the 16th week. What I suggest does not interfere with your gynecologist, medicine or recommendations.

This is nature cure.

Petricker, nature has its own ways of going about things. Maybe there is something better for us that we cant see at this time. Pick up life from where you stand today. Get good rest. Perk up. Cheer up. Surely a cuter child awaits his time to be cuddled !

Next time, remember what I say on nature cure. Connect up & Live life Queensize !

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Petricker in reply topradhan

you are right, it's impossible to replace this loss with something..you're right and I hope that time can make things better. regarding your advice well it's pretty unsual you know. I don't even know where to find a potter in my city and goat milk with mud...anyway, thank you for your support, but I'm not sure I will have another chance to become pregnant, actually I'm almost sure I won't. Thank you, dear! xxx

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pradhan in reply toPetricker

Petricker, dont speak in that tone. Gut feeling tells me differently. If you could trust me on this and tell me. Surely there must be countryside somewhere within 100 kms. Anyways, do you have any hindu temple nearby ??? Trust me, I will push you to arrive where you wish to.

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girl15

So sorry to hear this.. my thoughts are with you. No words really but want you to know people out there care and are with you on your journey xx

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Kelsta08

So sorry to hear this Hun this is just awful big hugs to you xxxxxx 😘😘

I'm really terribly sorry for your loss & pain, it is heartbreaking and horrible to experience. It will not easy but honestly with time you will recover & you will be able to move on. It's impossible to see that now & it took me a long time. The only positive I have been able to take from mc's is that each time it happened it provided my doctor with more info on what was causing it & therefore how to tailor my meds. When you are able I'd talk to your doctor & review everything. My thoughts are with you, X.

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Petricker in reply to

oh honey, I'm so sorry you've been through multiple mcs...it's a great challenge for every woman. I hope your dr could use this information to avoid next problems with pregnancy. How do you feel? I've seen you have a bloodclot..I can't give you any advice, in my case it was not just a clot which left my body..Anyway, I'm thinking of you and keep fingers crossed you'll be ok this time! thank you for your support x

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Fatooli28

Really am sorry to read you r story, do not give up and use that same strength to continue what you started. Positive vibes and hugs to you! 💓🙏🏼🦄✨✨✨✨✨✨✨✨✨

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