One of those horrible damn days. Where I hate the world, and everyone in it :-(

How do I cope anymore? How do I continue to get up each day, with feeling like my life has no purpose.

I'm 26, and ive been trying to conceive with my husband for over 6 years... Miscarrying when I was 16, it never happened again... Time went on, and from not knowing I put on weight due to severe depression from infertility. Then it was another catch 22. Cos now I was overweight and couldn't get help, but eating comforted me.

Anyway I went for investigations regardless... found out I had PCOS.... and have periods very irregularly.

Ive since been trying to lose weight the last 3 weeks, and have lost 8lbs.... far off my 7 stone loss I need to receive treatment :(

I just feel defeated.

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  • Awww this is not nice I really feel for you this journey is so hard and we have all been there and had days like these so your not alone!! I can't give you an advice as Im not a professional but having short term goals rather than putting pressure on yourself to do everything at once moght help lighten the load for example could you say right my 2017 goal is to lose the weight i need to be put through ivf then you can lose at a steady and safe pace. Once your close to target ask to be put on the referral list to spur you on for the last bit and make your goal for this time next year to be on the way with your ivf. I know it seems such a long way away but it might just help. Sending my best wishes x

  • Thankyou for your reply Laura :-)

    It is nice to hear some encouragement off someone, for sure.. and that is what I am trying to aim for... lose the weight this year... then the rest comes later, or maybe even naturally? Its just time, is such a evil thing...!

  • Exactly fingers crossed you will fall naturally I know plenty of people who have and sometimes just taking the pressure of getting pregnant away from yourself is a massive help too . Keep us all updated as to how your getting on x

  • Going through this requires the patience of a saint and patience is not a quality I possess. I think theadvice is rright small goals and try to focus on what you have and are grateful for rather than what you don't have.. easier said than done I know but my husband and I are now focussing more on the present and enjoying life without children right now and planning nice activities at the weekend, nights away and holidays to keep us focussing on things to look forward too. I know weight loss is a struggle but 8lb is a great start.. stick with it and good luck xxx

  • Don't be defeated you deserve your Bundle of joy as much as anyone else, you keep fighting hunni!!

    8lb is an amazing weight loss so far already, you can do this - your still young and everything ahead of you.

    You will get there - just keep focusing on you, keep telling yourself you deserve this and keep pushing!!

    Your doing amazingly already!!

    We're all here to help and support one another xxx

  • 8lbs in 3 weeks means, if you keep at that rate, you'll be down at your target weight in about 30 weeks. I know that sounds ages but it's really not and there are other things you can do during that time to really prepare your body. So a target of a year is more than realistic and making those changes and losing weight will definitely help and maybe you won;t even need treatment by then.

    Have they checked all your vitamin levels etc? I am positive all the supplements I was taking helped me. We tried for over 10 years and now, at the age of 34, I'm 31 weeks pregnant. You're a lot younger and in a really good position even though I know it certainly doesn't feel like it.

    Good luck - you'll get there


  • Congratulations on losing the first 8lb! As others have said that is a really great start, and the more you lose the more you will feel positive that you WILL get to your goal eventually. Obviously how you choose to lose weight is a very personal thing but it may be worthwhile having a chat with your GP if you haven't already. There are often schemes (area dependent) for free referrals to slimming world/weight watchers/gyms which often work really well for people. Also given your diagnosis of PCOS there may be medications such as metformin to consider that may be helpful. It may be that you have already done all of this or decided it is not for you but sometimes people aren't aware of what might be available.

    Good luck! 😊

  • Well done on losing 8 lbs in 3 weeks Tdbar! Everyone has to start somewhere and that is an AMAZING start! You should be proud of yourself for taking your first steps to get back on your journey. You can't change what's happened in the past but you can keep looking and moving forward and you will get to where you need to be. Wishing you huge amounts of luck on your journey, keep in touch when you're having those dark days and let us all try to make your day a little brighter. Here's to the rainbows that follow our storms... x x x

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