I haven't posted in a while as the ivf road hasn't been smooth so retreated into my shell a little but I have a big decision to make and feel like I need some impartial advice, if you can help please.
After approx 5yrs unexplained infertility, 2 rounds of ivf, first ending in miscarriage, 2nd gave us 4 frosties. First fet = neg, second fet result due this Friday. Obviously if I was to get a positive it would mean the world!
My dilemma is that for years I have wanted to emigrate to Australia. My partner wavers from keen to not but he is a master at putting off decisions and never plans for the future. We agreed that we would take a holiday over there to help decide in march next year, I planned it so it will be as comfortable as possible, breaking the flights in 2 with a sleep over (I'm in the UK). It means a lot to me as the thought of not exploring the option brings me to tears as I don't feel my life is fulfilled here. There is a time factor as next year my husband turns 45, the cut off for a working visa is 45, or 50 if he can secure a job in advance. Though he should have no problem as he is a wanted trade the application could take time.
My dilemma is...
do we go on the holiday in march but I could be 5-6 months pregnant. Pro's are we would get to enjoy it as a couple with no baby to care for and we can make the decision about our future asap before it is too late. Cons are all my family are telling me not to, that it is dangerous and risky if something goes wrong with the pregnancy.
Or do we wait till the baby is born and then go with a youngster. Pros are the pregnancy would not be threatened and the baby would be safe. Cons are the holiday would be far more difficult with a baby, I don't think its fair to fly a baby so far really, plus it could delay our decision and cause problems with securing work/visas due to age.
I don't know what to do for the best 😢 being a mother and moving to aus are my 2 biggest dreams, I don't want to have to choose between them, the though of either of them not happening is very upsetting.
any advice would be much appreciated Xx