Any advice??

[madmammyccp]

I am 45 and my partner is 19 (yeah I know). I have children that I conceived naturally, including my last who is 3. We want to have a child however we discovered my partner has a sperm morphology of just 1%. Now we have managed to catch on naturally however twice it has ended in miscarriage. We have tried ICSI but this was chemical. He believes I am the issue given my age - I think it is his sperm morphology that is the issue. Has anyone else out there been in a similar situation and caught on, either naturally or through IVF? We are not rich and cannot really afford more IVF but I am aware the older I get the less chance there will be....but we really want a child and I would really like a tiny bit of hope from anyone that has been in a similar situation!

[SKC111]

Hello, my partner has 1% morphology when originally tested but we just did ivf and it was 14% the nurse said it’s very subjective. He did make some lifestyle changes colour diet, supplements & stopping the odd cigarette and had a tiny patch. He was under a lot of stress when orginally tested and hadn’t ejaculated for some time. It might be a combination of both factors. I’m 40 and we got two low grade embryos which were over 50% fragmentated. So it could be my eggs we have never been pregnant. He has kids from another relationship. Morphology can be changed, sending you all the luck and baby dust x x x

[Woolooblue]

There's a good chance it could be the combo of both your egg quality and his sperm quality. If you have lower egg quality then if his sperm is good then it can make up for it a bit and vice versa. It's good you were able to conceive, I'm so sorry you miscarried. It's possible there were chromosomal abnormalities which could be down to a combo of your eggs and his sperm quality. Are you both taking preconception supplements? It is possible to improve your chances! It just might take some work and a bit of research.

Also, young guys have a bit of an issue with ego, he may feel a bit wounded after finding out he has low morphology. It shouldn't be about blame, you guys are a team, you are in this together!

[madmammyccp in reply to Woolooblue]

He was in tears when he found out - we both assumed it was my age - and its what we expected to be honest, so when i had an AMH of 15 we were surprised as that is quite good for an old bird! We don't blame each other exactly, more a 'I think this is a sperm issue, no I think its an egg issue, well fair enough' sorta convo!

we are taking supplements and have tried to be healthier - but so far nothing. What irks is that I caught on naturally and had a healthy baby at 42 - and we tried the ICSI - all bells and whistles and science and it still went pear shaped.

We will keep trying naturally and try find a way to have more IVF i guess!

[Ruthie82]

You want a baby with a baby? Do I have that right. ?

[Everglade in reply to Ruthie82]

Someone had to say it 😂😂

[madmammyccp]

Trust me, he is more mature than some 'men' out there. I didn't ask for or need your judgment, so unless you have something constructive to add, please say nowt

[SKC111]

This is supposed to be a support group for each other! If you have nothing nice to say don’t say it! Love is love 🌈 whatever size shape age gender 🫶🏼 all the best madmammyccp xxxx

[madmammyccp in reply to SKC111]

thank you for that, there are some very judgy people on here! x

[Beclp]

It’s a great sign you conceived at 42. I think it shows you have good quality eggs and I’m sure you still have some

It’s just a numbers game the older you get, unfortunately.

I’m sure if you just kept trying it would happen but that could be time, who knows

I had 43 eggs taken out from 40-43 and only one worked so it really does take more goes after 40 but it’s not impossible

I hope it happens soon for you 💓

[madmammyccp in reply to Beclp]

We are defo going to keep trying, it is just a matter of money - ICSI with egg donors is expensive. I want to try a sperm donor too, but his argument is that he would then have no biological bond with the baby - and while I wouldn't either with a donor, it would at least have grown inside me, I would have the bond of feeling it kicking etc and I absolutely get that.

[Everglade]

😬 19 is too young to be a father, wtf

[madmammyccp]

not really, and i bet all the 19 year old mums out there who are looking after thriving children would disagree!!