Natural pregnancy or fertility tx with 1 kidney?

[claweger]

Can I carry a baby with only one kidney? I mean they say that having only one kidney does make your pregnancy "high risk" and your child too can be born with one kidney due to some genetic condition. I have only one kidney, one was removed years ago. I talked to my gyno and she said I should be just fine but my dr says the exact opposite thing and I do not know what to do..

My dh and I are a little bit desperate because we are in our 40s and still do not have kids. I think that’s due to my recovery but honestly it did take too long for me to feel normal after the surgery. I do not know how others deal with any kind of a surgery but for me that was really tough..

Maybe I should have a consultation with another dr? I think I should, but maybe some of you could direct me here?

Thanks.

[finnrar]

Hello hun! I think you should have a consultation with another dr, because it really differs. I can’t recommend you anything because every single case if different and needs it proper tx. I have only one kidney too, I knew that a lot of women can get pregnant naturally and carry a baby on their own, but I took the advice to not to risk my life and got into a surrogacy program. My single kidney does not function at 100 % and that’s why I did not want to risk anything. So it will definitely be better for you to have a consultation with another dr. I mean we can’t tell you anything apart from that..

[claweger in reply to finnrar]

Thanks. I will go to another dr, need to manage an appt as soon as possible. But I am a bit taken a back because I have been to 2 different doctors and both of them told me different things. I have already thought about getting a surrogacy treatment, though I know nothing about it. I was like living under a rock all these years and to end up here in the place I did not know about before it’s a great shock for me.

You know, I think that you did right when decided not to take a risk, because our health it is something we should take care of as much as possible. I suppose you are now a mother?

[claweger]

Thank you for those kind words! It means a lot to me, honestly. Actually we just began trying for a baby, not like we didn’t want to have kids earlier but nothing was working out I guess. And it didn’t bother me at all. But the year is gone and I am even kind of thankful that I am not yet pregnant because If I was and my kidney was not strong enough… I can’t think of a m/c or abortion. That makes me sick..

[hcollins]

I have two kidneys but none of them functions at 100 percent so I was concerned too when starting my fertility tx. I was getting ivf oe tx at the time, but unfortunately had a m/c on the 7 week. I am sorry to write it here, because I am sure it will upset you a lot, but this is the truth that it is a high risk condition and we should be checked more. I was told by my drs that they will give me 1 ivf attempt because of all risks and if unsuccessful we will transfer to a surrogacy. So even though I was upset I too had a surrogacy as a previous commentator and now I feel okay. Please do not look at those successful women and think that it’ll be easy for you too, it’s unhealthy. Take every single precaution you can.

[claweger in reply to hcollins]

Thank you for replying me. I hope you feel okay! I understand your feelings and I am sure it took you a lot of courage to write it here. What are you about to do now? How does it work the transfer to surrogacy? I don’t quite understand that.

I think it is healthier to accept the fact that there are a lot of women who have had m/c due to their condition and even some of them died. I think that it’s bad living in illusions too.

[hcollins in reply to claweger]

I have signed the contract for ivf but with the transfer for surrogacy. Unfortunately, my single attempt didn't work out but drs had warn me so... Also, I am getting my tx in an international center so I do not know if it is common anywhere else those types of contracts etc. We have already gotten the surro mom and now are waiting for her pregnancy confirmation.

[claweger in reply to hcollins]

Hmm international center you say? It's some kind of a clinic?

Wow, so you are really long time in the program, if you have gotten your surro already! Congrats.

[hcollins in reply to claweger]

No actually it was a long way just because of my unsuccessful pregnancy. But they had found us a surrogate in 3 months. So it felt fine, I think, due to how quickly my center was able to find a surrogate mother. I guess, it is even better because we had to use my oe rather than finding the donor etc.

Yes, yes. It is fertility clinic. A lot of women get their tx there, as far as I know.

[claweger in reply to hcollins]

Uhmm, in 3 months? What? Are there no clients or something? How come theyare so quick with it? Have you chosen the surrogate mother?

Maybe it was just a pure luck..?

[claweger]

Thank you for advices. I am getting a lot of support here and I am thankful for it too. Though I am scared of what to do with my situation, because what if my new dr says that everything will be fine and I can get pregnant etc and it’d be a disaster? I mean, how I can be sure that everything will be okay if two of the doctors had said different things. Maybe I act a bit paranoiac..

[holeeen]

My sister had twins with only one kidney. And I think that you can get pregnant and carry a baby nothing dangerous I think..

[claweger in reply to holeeen]

I am happy for your sister, and she must be really glad to have kids.. But why did she decide to risk her life like this? Or maybe she wasn’t in a danger zone?

[Filmgirl101]

My grandma carried 3 kids to term with only 1 kidney. It was very high risk and the last was very hard on her. The doctors weren't pleased when she got pregnant with the 3rd... I think you need to speak to the kidney specialist as he'd probably know how well your remaining kidney works. My grandma (died at 85 breast cancer) lost her kidney as a child, the remaining turned into a super kidney so the functionality was only a bit lower than a person with 2 kidneys.

[claweger in reply to Filmgirl101]

Wow, that's wonderful that she deliver 3 kids with her condition, but i wouldn't risk my life if drs said to me that it's almost impossible! I have talked to a kidney specialist and she said that there are too many risks. But after that I had my regular appt at gyno and he was totally agreeing with the thought that natural pregnancy will be okay for me, because i thought that talking to him would do no harm. i guess i was wrong because i do not know what to do now. i have another appt this week and i hope to have evrything clear after it. fingers crossed dr will say that i can carry a baby.