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[Elmm]

Infertile since i was 19 years old. Thats when i got my first raw feeling of wanting a child. I am 27 years now and still no children. Not sure how to cope anymore. How long do i wait. I suffer from absent periods. Taken multiple fertilty treatment tablets and had ovarian drilling surgery. I had to stop treatment due to my partners lung collaping. Ive been back to the doctors which is yet a new doctors he said he put us forward and the sperm test needs doing first. He said it could be done within 5 weeks. Its been 10 weeks now. They say the wont help me till my partner does his test. But what can i do now. Ive done all i can. The wait is the hardest thing

[Kat9lives]

So sorry you're going through all of this hun. Have you tried chasing the docs for the sperm test or is it the results you're waiting for? The whole IVF process is so frustrating as everything takes so much longer than expected. Stay strong lovely and dont give up. X

[Elmm in reply to Kat9lives]

Thank you, the whole process is mentally frustrating. It not even started yet. Ive moved doctor to doctor. And this new one doesnt seem to be getting my records. I got my partner to register with the same doctors and even hid havent shown up. The doctor dsid he would get straight to it. I hate the doctors tbh. The whole visit. I havent even began to think about ivf. People say stop thinking about it and it will happen. An i really try not to but it just comes straight back. Its heart breaking just not knowing anything about your own body. Ya know.. wish you look with your journey fingers crossed for you. Its hard finding people to understand.

[poochi]

Hi really sorry you're having to go through all this. Maybe look at doing reflexology or acupuncture while you wait as it can be relaxing & it's often recommended while doing IVF so it won't hurt to get a head start & will help you feel like you're already doing something? A lot of us on here have had to chase doctors so don't be worried about doing it. It's your right to have this treatment so push to make sure you get it. Good luck x

[Elmm in reply to poochi]

Thank you, and good luck to you on your journey. I had been offered some support and the said to accupunture treatment then they closed. Its just always 2 steps forwards 10 steps back. I get stuck sometimes inside my mind with it all. I never know what am to do next. Ill work it out. I am just back online and can start getting organised again. Slowly but surley. Wel all get there am sure. It ill all be worth the pain in the end. ☺

[Kat9lives in reply to Elmm]

Just keep pestering the docs. Don't stop! We've all been there. Positive mental attitude. Be stubborn and persist until they cave in! X

[Kelly-03]

Hi,

You have to become that person who gets on there nerves. He who speaks loudest gets heard a saying from my Nan and in some cases works. You have to become my Nuisance really which is a pain but sometimes the only way they will listen. Is there a reason why your partner hasn't done the test yet.

Wishing you lots of luck

Kelly

[Elmm]

I here youse loud and clear. I just need to teach myself. Its tough when your your only support. My partner is there for me always. But he can never quiet understand. The appointment for doing the test just hasnt arrived. Am at the very begining again. Ive been here 4 times now. 2 times with other partners and 2 times with this one. We eventually got the last appointment and he didnt go. Mainly due to recovering from surgery which is understand able. Just what if he fails this one after all this time thats if it even comes. I think ill flip an lid x

[leah30]

I've used a lady called Lucy coffin for reflexology in our mission to get pregnant . She specialises in fertility they say that reflexology can help periods become regular ect , look her up I highly recommend her xx it's a start xx

[Elmm in reply to leah30]

Thank you so much for passing that information, ive been looking at there site since im came home from work at 11. Its rather insightful. Im going to look in to there full package offers. Thank you all for your messages, a little lighter inside with a little information. And support. Much apprechated. ☺x

[daydreamer89]

I know exactly how you feel Elmm I have been ttc since I was 18 and I am now 27yrs. The older I get the harder I find it because you got the added pressure of people opinions that we should have a child by now aswell. We have been through 2 rounds of icsi on the NHS which seemed like forever waiting for the appointment to start it. Keep pushing your Gp. If you wanted to speed the process up you could always pay privately for the sperm test. We have just had to pay for one as we are now going to be going private. Think it was £150 plus the consultation aswell. If you ever need anybody to chat to your welcome to mail me lovely. Nothing worse than feeling alone at times like these. In the meantime have a look into reflexology I highly recommend as I fell pregnant with my 2nd round of icsi adter having reflexology (sadly mc) and make sure you have a well balanced diet .. chin up and don't give up keep on to the Gp xxx

[Elmm in reply to daydreamer89]

Thank you so much for your comforting message. DAYDREAMER89

Everything you said is excatly true of how im feel. I just keep getting angry and frustrated. My head spins half the day some days i get a break the others its so loud. Ive been looking in to catching rainbows. That looks supportive. Which is most definatly what i need now i think. I cant do it alone anymore. Am so glad reflexology worked for you. If i would bleed i would ovulated but my body will just not do anything but drive me around the bend. And the diet it one that i really need to educate myself with and to get it in my life. I will definatly come here when i need a rant. To give my boyfriends ears a rest. Gp. Hes next on my list.

[SharlyWarly]

Hi Elmm,

Sorry to hear that you have had to work so hard so far. I would agree with DayDreamer - it might be worth paying for the sperm analysis; it will happen quickly and you can take the results to your GP (along with you partner!) within a few days rather than weeks or even months. We all know that GPs can be rubbish so if you can afford it I wouldn't think twice about getting whatever tests you/your partner need done privately and presenting them to your GP. I had a few tests done at my GPs in April and I still don't have the results, lol, so I gave up and everything has been done privately.

Good luck to you xx

[Elmm in reply to SharlyWarly]

I hear you SharlyWarly . And thank you for taking the time to write a message. All advise is most welcome. And each one has a valid point. If I could afford it though I think I may of had multiple babies buy now. Unfortunately I am having to rely in the NHS for help until I get my feet firmly on the ground and earn a better income. I have been paicent for so long but at the same time life doesn't take me to the place I expected and stopping and starting takes its toll. My hope will always be with me but so will all my doubt to. I just know one day all the pain will be worth it. If only I could take my mind and put it on a shelf. One sweet day. 😊 x

[SharlyWarly]

Of course, I understand completely. Actually, I think the stopping and starting is one of the hardest parts, that feeling of being in limbo. Not sure if this is your kind of thing however I read a while back about a couple that are trying to crowdfund their treatment - mirror.co.uk/news/uk-news/c..., who knows perhaps there might be a creative way to get you through financially?

You have been through a lot, though time is on your side. I'm no spring chicken - I'm 39 this Friday and yet I remain hopeful. You'll get through this hitch, I really hope you have the family you wish for.

Very best of luck to you both xx