BFN 12dp5dt

[Summan]

Hi all, I am out, had a BFN at the clinic, absolutely devastated. It hurts inside and I cant bear seeing my husband upset. Feel like a complete failure and feel my life has ended. I don't know how we will financially pay for our second cycle, thinking to sell the house, that's how desperate I am. xxx

[Hidden]

Aw I am so sorry for you, and know how you feel as we got a bFN last month. Take some time out to cry and be upset i think it's part of the process. Don't make rash decisions at the mo then in time you will be able to think clearer and look at your options. Big hugs xxxxxx

[Summan in reply to Hidden]

Sorry to hear you suffered a BFN too. Hugs to you too. xxx

[BabyLucas]

I got my positive on our second attempt. It might not worked on the first but trust me ivf/ICSI does work. It doesn't matter how many attempts just keep trying till it happens. It might sound very exhausting but we should not give up and be discourage. Your time will come xxx

[Summan in reply to BabyLucas]

Thank you. xxx

[Hidden]

Oh honey I really feel for you, sending you a massive hug. This is such a hard journey, don't make any decisions now, take the time you need.

[randall55]

I'm so sorry to read this devastating news Summan it's so very sad. I am currently on the 2ww 5dp5d blastocyst FET and except a bit of twinge and sickness absolutely zero feeling like you on my fresh I tested early and was left disappointed I've avoided testing so far avoided the aisle everything!!

How many treatment cycles have you had? Try to stay positive which is incredibly hard at this time you need time to heal thinking of you xx Nicola

[Summan in reply to randall55]

HI Nicola, this was my first attempt, don't over think the symptoms as some women state they don't have any and get pregnant. Keep positive, when is your OTD? Sending lots of love and luck. xxx

[Lynnr54]

Sorry to hear this. Take some time to get your head around it before making any major decisions about what to do next. How did the rest of your cycle go? Maybe speak to the hospital to see if they have ideas about how to improve your chances next time around and then decide where to go from there? Good luck

[Summan in reply to Lynnr54]

Thank you Lynn. The rest of cycle was good, will see the consultant soon to see what he suggests. xxx

[Isa84]

I'm so sorry to hear that this cycle didn't work for you. When you first get a BFN it's so soul destroying you're not even sure if you can cope with the hurt and sadness, but you will be ok I promise. Give yourself time to cry and process it all and then think about moving forward and trying again and you'll feel a little better because hope begins to creep back in. Please never give up hope, I've had 2 failed cycles and waiting to hear tomorrow about my third. Its one of the hardest things mentally to go through, you are not alone. Keep positive, I wish you lots of luck for trying again. Hopefully you'll be able to work something out financially as well to try again.

[Summan in reply to Isa84]

Thanks Suzi, sorry to hear you have suffered too. Your right it is so emotionally draining, must be hard for you as you have been through this twice. I am sure your third try will be successful. Sending lots of luck and love. xxx

[Summan]

Morning ladies, it feels so nice that so many of you have taken the time to reply to me and give me encouraging and positive hope. I never thought when I started this IVF journey, that it would be this hard. I thought I would feel better this morning but I haven't slept much, kept tossing and turning, didn't want to disturb my husband when he was sleeping. I have decided not to return to work tomorrow as I am a teacher and I am clearly not emotionally in a good place to teach children. Just feel like I have let my husband down, I know the treatment failed, but somehow I feel I failed. I need time to build my hope and mind. I will get there though and try again, that's all we can do. I really hope all of you in current cycles have lots of luck, please keep in touch. lots of love. xxx

[SarG74]

I'm so sorry I know how it feels it's devastating. Got my bfn 2 weeks again after first icsi cycle still now I keep crying . Just stay calm and see what they say at your meeting. I had my meeting I'm 42 in July they have put Mir down to lack of eggs and quality . im going to try again and I'm currently looking st no interest credit cards ! Thinking of you xx

[Summan in reply to SarG74]

Thanks SarG74, it is awful isn't it, don't think any other pain compares. I have taken some extra days off so I am planning to return to work next Monday, my husband has returned today. Its good your going to try again but yes financially pressure is disgusting, I wish you the best and keep in touch. All we can do is stay positive and keep faith. xxx